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Leslie Jordan can’t ‘go near a gay club’ anymore because he’s too famous

Leslie Jordan in his new sitcom Call Me Kat

Leslie Jordan in his new sitcom Call Me Kat. (FOX via Getty)

Will & Grace star and queer legend Leslie Jordan has explained that he can’t go to gay clubs anymore because he’s too famous.

Jordan, best known for playing Beverley Leslie on Will & Grace and later starring in American Horror Story, reached new heights of fame during the coronavirus pandemic, when he became an unexpected Instagram sensation.

Speaking to NME, he said: “People think I’m an overnight success, but I’ve been doing this for 40 years now.

“In the past I’ve had certain levels of fame – especially with Will & Grace – but it’s nothing compared to how it’s been lately.”

Jordan said that while he used to “love sitting in Starbucks with my tea and four different newspapers”, these kind of outings have now become impossible.

“People come by and ask for a picture, and I’m so gracious that I’m not gonna say no,” he continued.

“Everywhere I go now, it’s like a tiny little public appearance, but it’s what I’ve wanted my entire life.

“When I first moved to Los Angeles, I remember thinking: ‘Wouldn’t it be fun to walk into a gay club and have everyone know who you are?’

“Well, I couldn’t go near a gay club now – it would be a nightmare!”

Leslie Jordan likes his life “very quiet”.

Leslie Jordan, who currently stars in the sitcom Call Me Kat, also explained that although his Insta-fame means he can’t go to gay clubs, he probably wouldn’t want to if he could.

The actor, 65, said: “When I first moved to Hollywood, Hugh Hefner was living in the Playboy mansion with seven blonde playmates.

“I thought: ‘That’s what I want, but with seven blonde boys.’ I figured we’d sit around all day having brunch because that was the hot new thing then.

“But the other day I realised that if I was living in the Hollywood Hills with seven giggly boys, I’d jump off the Hollywood sign.”

He added: “My life really is very quiet: I’ve made it that way because I like it. At my age, you can’t be in the club showing your ass – it’s like, ‘Honey, get off the dance floor, you’re 65 now!’”

How to tell if a wedding vendor is LBGTQ+ inclusive

How to tell if a wedding vendor is LBGTQ+ inclusive

You deserve the perfect wedding day, and that means working with inclusive, respectful vendors who will honor your LGBTQ+ identity and your vision for the celebration.

Planning a wedding is stressful enough without having to deal with judgment or ignorance from vendors. While it feels like it may not always be easy to determine if a vendor is LGBTQ+ inclusive right off the bat, here are a few surefire ways to tell:

Their website and social media includes LGBTQ+ representation

A good first move is to check a vendor’s website, social media and other marketing materials. Is there LGBTQ+ representation in these materials? Does it seem like the vendor has experience working with LGBTQ+ couples? Does the vendor follow and interact with LGBTQ+ wedding publications like Equally Wed on Facebook and Instagram? If the answer is yes to most of these questions, that is a great sign.

Vendors may also choose to include statements of inclusivity on their websites. If you can’t find one, you can always ask if one exists or if the vendor has a specific policy or approach to inclusivity.

They do not use gendered language in their paperwork

Vendors who are truly inclusive will avoid using gendered language on their intake forms. In place of “Bride” and “Groom,” they may ask for the names of “Partner 1” and “Partner 2.” Instead of bridesmaids and groomsmen, they may say “wedding party” or “attendants.” Inclusive vendors will ask about your future spouse instead of husband or wife.

As you probably know, these small shifts in language go a long way in making LGBTQ+ couples feel welcome and comfortable. Gender neutral intake forms are likely a good sign that your vendor works hard to honor all couples.

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They ask respectful questions

Whether on their forms or in conversation, inclusive vendors will know to ask for your pronouns as well as the title you would prefer to be called for your wedding (bride, groom, marrier, celebrant, etc…). They won’t ask invasive or judgmental questions, and they will also be genuinely excited and happy to work with you.

They advertise in LGBTQ+ publications

Vendors who advertise in LGBTQ+ publications are actively looking to work with LGBTQ+ couples. Of course, you want to make sure that their excitement to work with you is genuine and not simply to check a box to show that they are inclusive. But if they advertise in these publications and also do some of the other things on this list, you know they are the real deal.

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They are certified Equally Wed pros

When perusing a vendor’s website, look for the Equally Wed Pro Certified LGBTQ+ Inclusive badge. This means they have taken our intensive certification course on how to be the best, most inclusive vendor they can be. Vendors who have taken this course are not only serious about inclusivity, but are also armed with all the tools they need to successfully work with LGBTQ+ couples.

They are recommended by other LGBTQ+ couples

One of the best ways to know if a vendor works well with LGBTQ+ people is to speak with LGBTQ+ people they have worked with in the past. See if any of their online reviews are written by LGBTQ+ couples, and if you can’t find any, ask them to connect you with any past LGBTQ+ clients.

Also, if you know any LGBTQ+ couples who have gotten married in your area, ask them which of their vendors they loved most!

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Spread the word! : actuallesbians

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A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!

“The Girls” and “The Boys” Show the Power of Lifetime Friendships Across Difference

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One of my favorite LGBTQ-inclusive picture books from the past few years has largely flown under the radar here in the U.S., so I’m mentioning it again just as a follow-up book comes out. The first book looks at the power of female friendships as it follows the intertwined stories of four girls from childhood into adulthood; the second follows four boys and gives us insight into not only male friendships, but also societal pressures around masculinity. There are queer characters in both, along with a message of unconditional allyship.

The Girls, by Lauren Ace and illustrated by Jenny Løvlie (Rodale Kids), introduces us to four girls, “as different as they were the same” and “the best of friends.” The girls differ not only because of their racial identities (one is Black, one South Asian, and two White), but also because of their interests and personalities: one is adventuresome, one practical, one a performer, and one full of ideas. Nevertheless, they shared “Secrets, dreams, worries and schemes.” While sometimes a joke went too far, “They knew how to say sorry and learned something from every falling out.” Even as they matured and changed, they supported each other through hardships and celebrated each other’s successes in school and beyond. The softly cheerful illustrations and spare text show this playing out as the girls experience romantic breakups, career moves, and starting families of their own.

The Girls

On one page we see all four friends marching together in a Pride parade and we read that they “always took pride in their friendship.” It’s not even clear from this image which, if any of them, are queer or just allies, but on a later page we see Sasha, the Black girl, in a relationship with another woman. There’s no big coming out moment, though; the girls just naturally support each other in their romantic relationships as in so much else. After so many children’s books in which the non-queer characters tease or don’t understand the queer character, it feels like a breath of fresh air to see this image of active support by the friends, where their support isn’t even a question. We also see Sasha, who was always ready with a Band-Aid when someone fell out of a tree, later becoming a doctor; she is more than just her queer identity.

The Girls won the Waterstones Children’s Book Prize in the Illustrated Books category in 2019, and it’s easy to see why. It’s sweet and thoughtful without being cloying, offering a view of female friendship through life’s ups and downs that feels both true and hopeful. (It beat out Julián is a Mermaid for the Waterstones prize; I’m not going to debate the relative merits of each book, since I like them both; I point this out merely to offer some idea of just how good The Girls is, since I’m guessing my readers (who are mostly in the U.S.) may be more familiar with the much-lauded Julián.)

The Boys (Caterpillar Books/Little Tiger) similarly follows the lives of four children—boys this time—with very different interests and racial identities. The story isn’t a mere gender-swapping of the same narrative, though; as Ace said in an interview at The Bookseller, she “drew on works about toxic masculinity” to show how messages about masculinity might have impacted her male characters and their relationships. We watch the boys in childhood as they became friends and “were a team,” then drifted apart as they developed separate interests and sometimes competed against each other. “For a little while the boys enjoyed standing out on their own,” we read. Yet “without the others, each of the boys soon felt as though he had been swept out to sea…. The boys knew they had to be able to talk about their feelings… but it wasn’t easy.”

The Boys - Lauren Ace

Eventually, though, they “learned to be patient and kind with one another again,” even as each charted his own path. The boys, now men, are there to lift each other up when one is sad; we see three of them comforting the fourth upon the death of a pet. We also see one of the men marrying and starting his own family with another man; the other three friends have active parts in his wedding as we read, “And although their lives had taken them to different places, the men came back together to share their happiest times.” A final scene shows them all playing together at the seashore with their own children.

This is a lovely and perfectly understated examination of masculinity and friendship. As in The Girls, their support for the one who is queer is unquestioned and unremarkable (which actually makes it rather remarkable). In addition, one boy is the son of Sasha and her spouse from The Girls; this isn’t stressed, but careful readers will recognize the moms in one scene.

Both books also offer something else rarely found in books featuring LGBTQ children: a glimpse of a positive future as an adult. The queer characters grow up to have careers and families just like the others. Not that all queer people should feel pressure to have families; but it’s good to see this portrayed as a possible path. Similarly, while we shouldn’t turn a blind eye to the obstacles that LGBTQ people (and marginalized people generally) may face in education and employment, not every story has to be one of struggle and oppression.

With insightful and inspiring looks at lifelong friendships across many kinds of difference, these stories should be valued by queer and non-queer readers alike.

The Girls, originally published in the U.K., is available in the U.S. through Amazon, Bookshop, and other online (and offline) retailers The Boys is unfortunately not directly available in the U.S., though it may be bought from the U.K. via Amazon.co.uk or Book Depository (with free worldwide delivery). My sources tell me that the U.S. publisher of The Girls, Random House Children’s Books (which owns the Rodale Kids imprint), has not yet picked up The Boys for U.S. publication. If you’d like to see it sold directly in the U.S. (so it can more easily reach readers here), drop them a note: you can find them on Twitter or Instagram.

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Major League Soccer investigating Sebastian Lletget for homophobic slur

Sebastian Lletget

Sebastian Lletget during the Italy v USA International Friendly in 2018 in Belgium. (Pier Marco Tacca/Getty)

Major League Soccer has launched an investigation into LA Galaxy’s Sebastian Lletget over a homophobic slur in a video he posted to Instagram.

The 28-year-old, who began his career at West Ham before returning to the US in 2015, admitted he “messed up” in sharing the video on Friday (9 April).

In the clip Lletget approaches his teammate Julian Araujo from behind, slaps him on the neck and calls him by the Spanish slur “puto”, referring to a gay man.

The offensive term has a long history of being sung as a chant by football supporters from Latin American nations. FIFA, the world governing body for soccer, has repeatedly sanctioned the Mexican soccer federation over its fans’ use of the insult.

Araujo also posted the video on his Instagram account, but it has since been removed by both players.

Major League Soccer immediately distanced itself from Lletget and confirmed it would be reviewing his conduct in an internal investigation.

“We have no tolerance for discrimination and prejudice of any kind,” the league said in a statement posted on Twitter.

“We are aware of the use of a homophobic slur by an LA Galaxy player. MLS has begun a formal investigation regarding the language used by the player and more information will be provided as soon as it becomes available.”

In a statement to Outsports, Lletget said he wanted to “address [the] impact” of the video, “not hide from this,” and thanked for the website for holding him accountable.

“I take full responsibility and ownership of what was an extremely poor and ill-thought phrase and have no excuse for my actions,” he wrote.

“I want to be part of the solution — not part of the problem — and continue to be an advocate and an ally for the LGBTQ+ community. Those who know me know my character and heart. I will remain outspoken in my support and advocacy. My error doesn’t change that.

“Thanks for your accountability. I need to do and be better.”

LA Galaxy were early supporters of the LGBT+ community within US football, according to the LA Times. In 2013 the team signed Robbie Rogers, the first professional player in US soccer history to come out as gay, and the team has hosted annual Gay Pride nights at Dignity Health Sports Park.

Quiz: What “Riverdale” Subplot Are You?

Quiz: What "Riverdale" Subplot Are You?

Every single Riverdale subplot lives in my mind rent-free, and while that is helpful when it comes to writing weekly recaps of the show, it is also my cross to bear. There have been five seasons now, and if you have been on this wild journey, then you know that no show does soap-opera-noir-gothic-horror-camp-absurdity quite like Riverdale. Take a walk down memory lane and find out which subplot speaks to your truest self.


Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya is a writer and critic currently living in Miami. Her fiction is upcoming in McSweeney’s Quarterly Concern. Her pop culture writing can also be found at The A.V. Club and The Hollywood Reporter, and she wrote the webseries Sidetrack. You can catch her on Twitter and Instagram.

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What my green shoelaces taught me about surviving in a violently antigay country / Queerty

What my green shoelaces taught me about surviving in a

The following is an excerpt from Queerty columnist Jeremy Helligar’s second book, Storms in Africa: A Year in the Motherland, available on Amazon. Follow him on his Medium blog or on Facebook.

I was anticipating the unexpected. I was fully prepared for some twists in the roads and bumps in the nights ahead (preferably unrelated to nocturnal lions!).

You have to be psyched for anything when you’re spending ten days truck-trekking from Dar es Salaam on Tanzania’s Indian Ocean coast up north through Lushoto and Arusha to the Serengeti and Ngorongoro region, then farther onward and upward to Nairobi, Kenya’s capital city.

It’s a long, rocky road, though not one less traveled. If you momentarily lose your open mind or misplace it wherever you stuffed your malaria pills, any good tour company will keep encouraging up-and-ready-for-whatever alertness until you’re expecting the unexpected in your sleep.

Yet, something that happened while I was on that road fulfilling a lifelong dream (going on an African safari) with seventeen fellow tourists took me thoroughly and unexpectedly by surprise. It wasn’t discovering my thing for lions, especially those positively puppy-like baby cubs. That was a development I didn’t see coming, especially considering my general distaste for house cats. As a gay man who had been proudly out for more than twenty years, I was floored even more by how uncomfortable I was feeling in my own gay skin.

It must have been the place. I didn’t expect East Africa to be a bastion of welcoming open-mindedness when it came to gay people. I had been warned by the gay media, the mainstream media, and well-informed and well-meaning friends to be careful how I expressed myself there. Even my mother, who had become accustomed to my traveling to parts unknown and occasionally choosing to live in them, was concerned.

“Is it safe there … for gay people?” she asked when I mentioned my travel plans during a Skype chat several days before my departure.

Leave it to mom to get me worrying … and overthinking.

If I was exercising too-extreme caution when I arrived in Tanzania and started mixing with the locals, I couldn’t explain how it ended up extending to Westerners who normally wouldn’t have caused me any gay angst. Perhaps my situational self-imposed de-outing for the benefit of potentially homophobic East Africans unlocked all of those insecurities I’d left stuffed on a shelf in the closet all those years ago.

Every time I opened my mouth to talk to locals or to other foreigners, I found myself wondering what they were thinking about what I was saying and how I was saying it. Was I setting off their “gaydar,” if such a thing even exists?

It wasn’t as if anyone in my tour group gave me the slightest reason to feel ill at ease about my sexuality. Indeed, there was a gay twosome among the four couples, as well as four solo men, three solo women, and an aunt-niece pair from Holland. But still, there were so many moments when I felt like that gangly, awkward, insecure kid in middle school who was always one of the last ones picked for the sports teams during gym class.

So I overcompensated, occasionally playing the village idiot to shift the focus to something else.

“A cow antelope? Do cows and antelopes really have kids?” I asked, hoping to elicit a few laughs and drown out the nagging insecurity in my head while staring at my first hartebeest.

I wasn’t sure humor was the right answer, though, when I was standing face-to-face with a man from the polygamous Maasai tribe outside of Arusha who had just asked me how many wives I’d bagged. (“I have two,” he offered. “But I’m still young.”) Was he being as serious as his stern gaze, or was he trying to out me? Before I could answer, one of the Serengeti guides in the circle broke the awkward silence.

“Look at his shoe strings! He has no wives!”

Then he repeated himself. I tried to determine whether they were laughing with me or at me, unsuccessfully. I hung my head and looked at the pale-green shoe strings on my gray Nikes. Was I that obvious?

I hated myself for caring and for replaying in my head the comment that one of my fellow travelers, a woman from Perth, made when I declined to join the fifteen-dollar tour of a Maasai village in the Ngorongoro region.

“Jeremy, you might find a few wives there … or husbands,” she joked.

Was the addendum her way of saying “I know” (and letting everyone else at the table in on it, too), or was it her way of saying that one shouldn’t just make straight assumptions about anyone? Would she even have bothered going there if I had been more “straight-acting” (to use that dreadful phrase frequently used by homophobic gay men)?

Eventually, probably halfway through the Ngorongoro safari game drive, as I sat in one of dozens of 4x4s lined in front of and behind another group of lions, I realized that nobody was paying as much attention to me as I was. My fellow travelers were too enraptured by the feline scenery, and I was pretty sure most Tanzanians had more pressing concerns, like feeding their families.

My discomfort was mostly on me. But it did get me thinking, about why I had turned into such insecure mush, about whether it was a sign of a new me emerging (dear God, I hoped not!), about being gay in a straight world.

Most importantly, it got me thinking about those who had it so much worse than I did, including LGBTQ people living in countries and cities where they weren’t just imagining that everyone was looking at them, whispering, pointing, and disapproving. Being based in Cape Town, a gay mecca in a country where same-sex marriage was legal, I lost sight of how badly gay people elsewhere in Africa had it until I exited that comfort zone.

I could have done so much better than spend my time in Tanzania mired in self-doubt, but my over-awareness of my own sexuality and how others might have been interpreting my every move there led to a new and different awareness of how others who aren’t free to be live every day of their lives.

It was so easy to forget and to judge gay shame when I had lived most of my adult life in gay-friendly metropolises like New York City, Buenos Aires, and Bangkok. I could dismiss guys with faceless Grindr profiles in those cities as cowards, because, presumably, no one was risking his life by revealing who he was on the grid.

But in East Africa, the closet was more about survival than cowardice. Returning to mine was probably a mix of both, but after a week in the dark, I was starting to see daylight again — unfortunately just in time to return to Cape Town.

After years spent dreaming of East Africa and finally getting to experience her nature, I’d learned something about my own nature, too. I would leave humbled but once again proudly walking in my own shoes, green laces and all.

Related: What do white people say about Black people when we’re not around?

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My local church rocking LGBT flags :) : actuallesbians

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The latest chapter of my podcast is out now, you can listen here or wherever you get your podcast.

This chapter is the second half of my coming out story. There is a CW, so please check that first.

If you haven’t seen one of my posts before… here’s the podcast blurb…

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Wynonna Earp Series Finale Recap: We’ll Always Have Purgatory

Wynonna Earp Series Finale Recap: We'll Always Have Purgatory

Wynonna Earp series finale recap below! Major major major spoilers for the whole show! 

Previously on Wynonna Earp, Waverly grew wings and made Nicole her angel’s shield, Jeremy lost his job and his boyfriend but helped save Purgatory, Wynonna and Doc had half a decade of love and heartbreak, and Waverly and Nicole fell in love and the very fabric of sci-fi television and queer representation was changed forever. Casual.

We open on a red wedding that feels like a bad omen for a big gay wedding episode of teevee. A woman in a white wedding dress with a blue sapphire heart wields an axe and chops everyone up and ultimately chops herself up, too. Seems chill and fine…

…until we cut back to present-day, where Waverly is taking that very same wedding dress out of a box, impressively bleached clean of the bloodshed. Waverly holds it up to show Wynonna and it hits them both anew: Waverly is getting married.

Wynonna Earp series finale recapWaverly holds up her wedding dress for Wynonna.

You know what was fun about the first half of this episode? I wasn’t sure the wedding was going to happen the way they planned/hoped but I never once worried someone was going to die. What a world!

Later, Nicole is putting flowers into the back of Wynonna’s truck, smiling lovingly as her big day comes together, when Wynonna snaps her out of her reverie. The Earp heir is inspecting her sister’s wedding cake with wee spectacles and has determined that it’s not vegan, like they ordered. It’s buttercream! A disaster!

Wynonna Earp series finale recap: Wynonna looks inquisitively at Nicole.

“BE STRESSED WITH ME” is a relatable mood.

Nicole isn’t worried about it, she jokes about just not telling Waverly, but Wynonna is holding on to a thread about it. She wants this day to be perfect for her baby girl, but Nicole promises her that it will definitely not be perfect. Nothing that has ever happened on the Homestead has been perfect. But Wynonna wants this to be the exception, BECAUSE of that. She reminds Nicole that both of Waverly’s dads died right here and Nicole probably thinks maybe they had that intervention for Wynonna too soon because she could use a little loosening up right now.

Wynonna Earp series finale recap: Nicole looks way more calm than Wynonna

“Do we need to do shots of banana liqueur to calm your nerves?”

Waverly comes out, just as chill as Nicole, and they’re both all cute and smiley about their impending nuptials. Wynonna tries to get HER on her level of stress about the buttercream, but Waverly is also too busy basking in the bliss to be stressed. Besides, this isn’t her first vegan rodeo, and she has cupcakes in the freezer.

Wynonna takes her nervous energy into the barn where she is dutifully hacking at a plank of wood with a knife when Waverly’s dress catches her eye. Next thing you know she’s wrapped up in a coat despite the beautiful sunny day and storming to Doc’s RV, things literally falling apart around her as she walks, and tells him that she felt compelled to try on the dress…and now she can’t get it off.

Wynonna Earp series finale recap: Wynonna looks adorably upset about her predicament.

I hope Melanie Scrofano is on another gay show I can cover soon, I’ll miss screenshots of her very expressive face.

They flirt a bit while Doc tries to get it off but he can’t even cut it off her so when they hear a familiar jeep approaching Wynonna DIVES inside the RV before Waverly can see her. Waverly is here to give Doc a gift and ask him an important question. The gift is Wyatt Earp’s saddle, restored to its former glory. And the question is whether he’ll be her best man. Doc has been one of the only people to not underestimate her from the jump, and has always been a rock in her life like no man has been before. Not her ex-boyfriend, neither of her fathers. Maybe it would have been Uncle Curtis, if he were still with us, but at this point in Waverly’s life, Doc Holliday is the best man she knows. And not because he’s perfect, or even always good, but because he is constantly trying to be better.

Wynonna Earp series finale recap: waverly smiles her angelic smile.

“Remember that one time you saved me from mean girls at a bachelorette party? Good times, good times.”

Doc asks about Wynonna, but Wynonna is going to stand with Nicole. Because they’re best friends. No take backs. Doc accepts Waverly’s offer with pride in his voice and she squeals with delight and scurries away. With a hiss of a reminder from the hidden Wynonna, Doc asks Waverly where she got her wedding dress and she points him toward a quant boutique…

…named CURSEY’S. Sweet angel what did you DO.

Wynonna and Doc make their way around the bridal shop, when they get the pearls scared out of them by a wispy wacky woman in a bridal gown…who is also Charlotte Sullivan,

Wynonna Earp series finale recap: Brigitte played by Charlotte Sullivan gives crazy eyes through a veil.

I’ve had a crush on Charlotte Sullivan since I was approximately 10 years old, this was a lovely surprise.

Gail Peck, ladies and gentlepeople!!

The dressmaker tells them that the dress will make Wynonna kill everyone at the wedding, and the only way to kill the dress is with the silkworms that made it. Or to kill the person in the dress, but Wynonna and Doc think they’ll try their luck with the bugs. Wynonna isn’t about to let some haunted hussie ruin this day for Waverly. No matter how pretty she is.

Wynonna Earp series finale recap: Brigitte looks wild-eyed.

Also this character was named after/absolutely a gift for my friend Bridget Liszewski from the TV Junkies who also happens to be one of the greatest gifts this show has given to ME so really it was a win-win-win.

Back at the Homestead, Jeremy and the brides-to-be are surveying the sudden damage to all the wedding goodies and can’t figure out what the heck happened. Jeremy spots a caterer and gets a funny feeling in his groinal region so he storms off to accuse the man named Damon of being a demon. Damon thinks he’s giving him shit because he knows he’s gay, which sounds pretty rich coming from the guy who is about to officiate a marriage between two women.

Waverly and Nicole follow the trail of destruction into the barn and see that Waverly’s dress is missing, at which point she realizes she doesn’t actually like the dress after all. Nicole points out that only the wedding stuff is trashed…and then they both realize at the same time that this means they have a haunted wedding dress on their hands.

Wynonna Earp series finale recap: Waverly and Nicole exchange ah-ha looks.

I love when people on supernatural shows remember the supernatural exists!

On their hunt for silkworms, Doc dives into a dirty pond and while he’s fruitlessly looking for silkworms, Wynonna sees her name on a note sticking out of his jacket that she’s holding and reads it, sadness washing over her like she was the one who jumped in the pond. The note is a goodbye letter, and he tries to justify it; he’s a human man now, the imminent danger has passed, what’s left for him here in Purgatory?

Wynonna Earp series finale recap: Wynonna holds a letter and cries.

Me reading all my friends’ tweets about how much this show means to them.

Back in the barn, Waverly and Nicole have set up an impromptu murder board and research station, where they start seeing a pattern of wedding murders that Waverly never noticed before because, well, there’s a lot of murders. They trace it back to a dressmaker named Bridgitte, who Waverly confirms is the wackadoo that sold her the dress, and who was the first to have a red wedding, killing all her wedding guests after being left at the altar.

Wynonna Earp series finale recap: Nicole and Waverly look at a laptop together.

“Do you do want to check for new ones or do you just want to read Stay the Night again?”

Nicole can understand the sentiment; if Waverly left her, she would, and I quote ,”Fuck shit up.” This assertion makes Waverly smile a sly smile and pounce on her girl.

As Doc puts on dry clothes after his impromptu dip, Wynonna calls him a coward. He scoffs and says she’s one to talk; a hero in war but a coward in love. He does say though that, in his defense, he wasn’t just going to leave a letter. He was just drafting his goodbye. He asks her to come with him when he goes, but she fights back tears and changes the subject instead. They have earthworms to paint.

Meanwhile, Jeremy walks in on a post-coital WayHaught who apologize but solving crime makes them horny.

Wynonna Earp series finale recap: Nicole and Waverly scramble to put their clothes back on.

We were just…solving crime…in a friend way.

Jeremy tells them he found their culprit and is surprised that at the same time he says demon caterer, they say haunted wedding dress. That’s when he realizes he fucked up but good. Waverly feels bad for JerBear but she has a flapper to stop so she runs off with a shotgun and a pun.

Wynonna and Doc bring their faux silkworms to Brigitte the Dressmaker, but she’s not fooled. She is, however, amused at their sad attempt and delights in the fact that they’re all going to die.

Wynonna Earp series finale recap: Brigitte is just standing there with her veil down looking insane.

I love that Waverly just straight-up shopped here and bought something from this kooky lady and was like, “Yeah I’m sure this is fine and totally normal that she wears a wedding dress to sell wedding dresses.”

Wynonna tries to reason with her, says that failure is never irreversible, and that she’s determined to give Waverly the perfect wedding day. Brigitte is suddenly confused about whose wedding it is but before she can ask more questions Waverly comes bounding through the door, chasing Brigitte around with a banner that I definitely thought said WHORE at first.

Waverly holds up a banner that almost definitely does not say WHORE but could if you look fast enough because cursive.

I’m just saying it doesn’t feel entirely off-brand for the homestead to have had a WHORE banner lying around.

Waverly saves the day with a spell and Wynonna is ready to send Brigitte to hell but Waverly says not today. Just this once, everybody lives. And besides, she has sympathy for this woman who was left at the altar; no one deserves that much pain. Brigitte is still confused as to who’s marrying who but she appreciates the understanding.

Brigitte looks up fondly at Waverly.


The Earp sisters go back to the homestead where Waverly decides to wear Mama Earp’s wedding dress instead. We’ll take regular baggage over a homicidal curse any day. Waverly can tell something is weighing on her sister but Wynonna plays it off as wedding day feelings.

Nedley goes to the house to give Nicole her boutineer and finds her nervously pacing.

Nicole looks nervous but dapper as heck in her purple suit.

Instead of Cursey’s, I see Nicole went to Lena Luthor’s online shop (L’etsy) to buy a custom suit.

She takes the flower from him and says she has one more thing she needs from him. And then she asks her to walk beside her down the aisle, like he’s been walking beside her since he first saved a little redhead girl from the Cult of Bulshar.

Nicole looks teary and grateful for Nedley


He accepts like the proud papa he is and takes her outside where the wedding begins.

The song sings happy words like, “Every up and every down made us who we are now, wouldn’t change it for the world.” The sign does not in fact say WHORE, but “Where you go, I go.” It’s a makeshift wedding and a makeshift family and it’s absolutely perfect.

Wynonna walks Waverly down the aisle, looking beautiful and delicate in blue as she leads her favorite person on this planet to stand with her best friend. Before letting go of her arm, Wynonna presses her forehead against her sister’s and reminds Waverly that she’s the best of us. Still, always.

The Earp sisters press their foreheads together.


Jeremy officiates, wrapping Nicole and Waverly’s hands together with twine as Nicole promises her angel to stay by her side on every adventure and to hold her hand when the firelight grows dim.

Nicole beams and cries through her vows.

“She says I smell like safety and home. I named both of her eyes forever and please-don’t-go.”

Waverly says she’s grateful for the bulletproof vest Nicole once wore (which…same) and a love stronger than she’s ever known and promises to always stand beside her.

Waverly also smiles and cries through her vows.

“My love, my love, my love, she keeps me warm.”

The music swells and the camera pans over the chairs labeled for people they’ve loved and some they’ve lost and Jeremy tells the beautiful brides they are officially married. You may kiss the bride.

Waverly and Nicole kiss, married.

“When you’re afraid and you’ve lost all hope, I’ll lead the way. I will walk you home. It’s all gonna be alright, from now til the end of time. I’ll take your hand and I won’t let go.”

Rachel is so grateful to be part of this family and tells them all they’re inspiring heroes to her. She didn’t know what to get them as a gift, so she decided to sing them a song, and it’s perfect.

Rachel holds a microphone ready to sing.

Also she sang the song that was playing during the first WayHaught kiss I’M FINE IT’S FINE EVERYTHING’S FINE DON’T TOUCH ME

There is a joyful montage and gods it’s so nice to see them all SMILING and laughing and dancing and being able to BREATHE, at least today, at least for now.

Waverly and Nicole laugh and are visibly in love.

“And it starts in my toes, makes me crinkle my nose, wherever it goes, I always know, you make me smile, please stay for a while now.”

Wynonna toasts her best friend and her baby sister, happy as can be that two people she loves so much are in love with each other.

Wynonna toasts WayHaught

How often do people genuinely love their in-laws??

Nedley is a little tipsy and trying to share his champagne with the cake toppers when Rachel and the Billy formerly known as Invisible Monster Teen approach. Nedley is planning on taking Rachel on a fishing trip and she’s so excited that she wants to bring her maybe sort of boyfriend with them. After a warning Billy to keep his lures to himself, Dad says yes and Rachel squeals with glee.

Next page: Are you crying yet? If not, GET READY. 

Tom Daley no longer a Potter fan as he struggles with JK Rowling’s views

Tom Daley

British Olympic diver Tom Daley has admitted he’s fallen out of love with Harry Potter as he struggles to reconcile JK Rowling’s views on transgender people.

Until recently Daley was a huge Potter fan, enjoying a private tour of Warner Brother’s Harry Potter World in London when he and his husband were newlyweds.

Daley even chose Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone as his favourite book on BBC Radio 4’s Desert Island Discs in 2018.

But he’s now had a serious change of heart in light of the author’s controversial comments about trans rights.

“I did love JK Rowling’s books,” he told The Times. “But it does always leave a little bit of a…” Here he seemed about to say “bad taste”, according to the paper.

Daley, 26, acknowledged Rowling’s support after evangelical Christians on Twitter claimed he’d dived badly in the 2016 Olympics because he was gay.

“So, the thing is, she stuck up for me in the past,” he said, adding that he was grateful for it at the time.

“But then what she said about trans people… It’s one of the hardest things to understand, how trans people think and feel, because she has never lived that experience, the same way white people trying to understand the Black experience will never be able to understand that.”

He said he would now change his Desert Island Disc book choice and pick A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, a “spiritual manifesto” about living life without anger, jealousy, and unhappiness.

Asked what he would say to Rowling in person, he said: “It’s hard because I’m not someone who likes conflict, but I have strong views and beliefs.

“I guess it would be a conversation rather than a shouting match. I always try to listen first and try to understand, and then try to share my point of view and my opinions and show how things [said] can hurt other people, to try to get the best outcome.”

Tom Daley’s husband, Dustin Lance Black, used stronger terms to describe the author after the release of her latest book – a novel about a cis male serial killer who dresses as a woman to murder his victims.

“JK’s work has always been jammed full of ‘borrowed’ old tropes. It was just that she ‘borrowed’ tales many enjoyed revisiting,” he wrote in a now-deleted tweet.

“Her new well: long disproven, discriminatory old tropes and lies sown by bigots. She’s a pretender. A thief. A fraud. And likely always has been.”

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