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Get a packer, try it out—you will prolly love it, even if you don’t have bottom dysphoria : butchlesbians

Get a packer, try it out---you will prolly love it,

Hey all,

I’m a genderfloating AFAB person who’s been wearing a packer on the regs for a few years now. I recommend them strongly to every AFAB person—just to feel what it’s like—but especially us butch ladies and queers. They’re safe, cheap, and for a little piece of silicone, they can be downright transformative.

Wanna start by saying that I don’t have bottom dysphoria (and FTR, wearing one didn’t change that at all; if anything, it made me appreciate that I can have both sets of genitals!). I bought it kind of on a whim. Regardless of my intentions when I bought it, looking back, it was SUCH a brilliant idea.

As someone who struggles with internalized misogyny and their butch identity, wearing a packer has been mind-altering, and it changed my life in a lot of ways. I didn’t realize what a difference it would make to my perspective to have something down there. It makes me think differently when out in the world. In a way, it makes me empathize so much with dick-havers. As a pussy-haver, it’s easy to completely forget about that area of your body when out and about. But when you’re wearing a packer, that soft pressure and heat is juuuust enough sensation to call your attention to it unexpectedly. I notice different things, I feel more confident somehow. It increases my butch energy by tenfold. I can’t explain it except to say it’s so dang fun!!

As for which kind to get, I’ve got about 8-9 different ones I’ve acquired over the years. My favorite by far is called Mr. Limpy by the brand RodeoH (https://rodeoh.com/products/mr-limpy-small-3-5)… it’s perfectly soft and squishy, so much fun to reach down and play with. I like the smallest one from that line, cuz it’s the least heavy on my hips (some weigh a lot!), it doesn’t make my crotch go numb from the pressure of wearing it all day, and it doesn’t create a huge bulge in my pants—that makes it easier to go stealth, so I feel confident when out and about and don’t feel unsafe. Silicone retains heat (they also sweat in hot weather, FYI) so it feels like part of your body after 20 mins or so, and if you’ve got a sensitive clit, certain ones actually transmit vibration to your clit if you wear it in the right spot… meaning it legit feels like a dick. Whew. So fuckin cool. It also felt empowering to choose a small one for myself, as “my dick”… cuz you know, fuck that shit about penis size that men obsess over. Small dicks are dope, and my little one is perfect for me.

Please make sure to get a good pair of packer underwear to avoid UTIs, that shit is no joke. It gets sweaty AF to keep it against your skin, especially on hot days, and they can catch against your pubes/slide around uncomfortably. Packer undies hold them in place, especially if you’re someone who moves around a lot. That brand RodeoH makes some dope 100% cotton packer undies that I wear as regular undies every day, even when I’m not wearing my dick.

Feel free to ask any questions, like I said I’ve been doing it for a few years now and it’s added so much depth to my understanding of my gender identity. If you’ve got a pussy, and especially if you’re kinda butch, do yourself a favor and play around with a packer, you’ll be glad you did! <3

Companies are pro-LGBT except when it hurts the bottom line : actuallesbians

Companies are pro-LGBT except when it hurts the bottom line

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I’m sorry that I’m a bottom : actuallesbians

I’m sorry that I’m a bottom : actuallesbians

A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!

Priti Patel becomes an unlikely bottom rights advocate with plan to fully decriminalise the sale of poppers

Priti Patel becomes an unlikely bottom rights advocate with plan

The UK’s notoriously anti-LGBT home secretary Priti Patel is planning to fully decriminalise the sale of poppers.

Not usually known for liberal stances on anything, Patel confirmed on Wednesday that she is “minded” to explicitly exempt poppers from laws banning former ‘legal highs’.

Alkyl nitrites, popularly known as poppers, are sold in the UK as room odourisers but are commonly inhaled recreationally. The drugs are particularly popular among gay men, both as a party high and because they relax the anal sphincter muscles for anal sex.

Plans to ban poppers were put forward in 2016 by then-home secretary Theresa May as part of a crackdown on ‘legal high’ drugs, but the drugs were confirmed to be exempt from the law after a revolt from gay Tory MPs.

At the time, the technical exemption was made on the basis that the drugs only have an “indirect” psychoactive effect – but subsequent legal rulings have cast doubt over whether they are sufficiently cleared from impact by the legislation.

Priti Patel is ‘minded to explicitly exempt’ poppers from blanket drugs ban

On Wednesday, Patel requested advice from the Advisory Council on the Misuse of Drugs on carving out a more explicit exemption from drug laws for poppers, in a letter setting out “the Government’s priorities for the ACMD work programme commissioned for the next three years.”

In the letter, first reported by the BBC, the lifelong opponent of LGBT+ rights noted the use of drugs “by homosexual men as an aid to sex.”

Home Secretary Priti Patel
Home Secretary Priti Patel (Mark Cuthbert/UK Press via Getty Images)

She wrote: “The lawfulness of the supply of poppers is [currently] uncertain. I am minded to remove this uncertainty by explicitly exempting poppers from the 2016 Act.

“I would seek the ACMD’s advice on an exemption. My officials will work with you to provide more detail on the proposed wording of an exemption as you consider the issue.”

The issue is listed as the lowest priority of those outlined, which also includes a request for an investigation into cocaine use by young men, and “advice and analysis of trends in drug trafficking on the dark net”.

Poppers are not addictive, but ‘excessive’ use can have long-term problems

A 2019 study of poppers use in Australia concluded that there is little evidence to suggest they are in any way addictive or detrimental to mental health.

The research by the University of Technology in Sydney, which involved 800 gay and bisexual men, found that the drug does not show “typical dependency characteristics, including health, social, legal and financial problems, and no correlation between popper use and mental health or psychological stress.”

Although poppers may not be addictive, they are not without some long-term health risks and should be used sparingly.

Poppers increase blood pressure which can lead to strokes and heart attacks. If inhaled excessively, the chances of a drop in blood pressure and fainting are higher, along with vomiting and struggling to breathe. Studies have also indicated that they could cause other lasting damage to your eyesight, sexual performance and immune system.