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Come Vibe With Me: Snow Day Silence

Come Vibe With Me: Snow Day Silence

I spent the first part of my week snowed in.

Image shows a bouquet of blush colored roses and fresh eucalyptus
Blush snow day roses kissing eucalyptus.

I laid in my bed, quietly watching the snowfall on the other side of my window as my sheer curtains were tucked to the sides. Surrounded by the quiet and the blush-colored roses and eucalyptus that I got in the early morning of Valentine’s day the day before — I felt calm.

I’m not usually one for complete quiet, I prefer my space to be filled with music played at a soft level, the laughter of a podcast that I’m listening to, or even just opening the window and letting the world outside be the soundtrack to whatever moment I’m in. But this time I welcomed the quiet. Maybe it was because the evening before was filled with the loud laughter of another person, or because I’d spent time that afternoon listening to my mother talk at me about who knows what but, this quiet — matched with the visual setting — made me so happy.

It was a moment filled with pure sweetness that I wasn’t planning on. It was unexpected. I tried my hardest not to fight it. Not to reach for my phone and get to swiping away at articles and memes, not to ask my Alexa to play the sounds of rain or thunderstorms but to just to sit in this space and welcome in the feelings it was giving to me.

Eventually, I closed my eyes and as the minutes passed, salt trucks and the sound of people coming out of their homes to set up their cars for another full day of snow broke me out of my living daydream. For the rest of the day though, I held onto it. I held onto the beautiful unexpected silence of that morning and carried it close to my soul, and when I needed it — the remembrance of that perfect moment — it was never too far away.

Sweet (Snowy) Sunday babes.


Y’all Come Look at This


FKA Twigs on the cover of the latest Elle.

The Amaliah Podcast, Small Talk with Muna and Munadiah, had a chat about the connection between race + religion and the climate crisis.

MY PRINCESS MEGHAN (and her man Harry) are having another baby first of all — YAYYYY!!!! — secondly, they are sitting down with Oprah for a chat and if you think I’m gonna miss it you are INCORRECT!

FKA Twigs tells her story to Elle and opens up about her abusive relationship. Heads up, she goes into quite a bit of detail about everything that went on.

Judas and The Black Messiah bought out some entirely incredible performances but what stood out was the gorgeously talented Dominique Fishback as Deborah Johnson. I’m so glad she is getting the attention that she deserves!

Quinta Brunson is amazing and guess what she has a show coming to ABC! Not only is she gonna star in it but she will be writing AND executive producing!

Image shows a dimly lit photo of a black woman clad in black lingerie, the word "TILDA" is placed over her photo with credits of the crew atop.

Tilda

“You wanna fuck Tilda Swinton? —- Yeah — I guess.”

A pseudo meet-cute with two Black millennials bonding over their love of Tilda Swinton?

Absolutely yes.

I found this amazing short from Ray Smiling and Konyin Ayuba while on the amazing site that is gal-dem. It’s part of their Shorties collections, which shines a light on new dope POC filmmakers with fresh ideas.

The film is just under 7 minutes long and takes you on a cute, sensual ride of what hopefully is the start of a blooming Black romance.

Watch the entire short film here


I turn to herbs and herbal blends quite often for many forms of healing. I burn ones that match the energy I’m trying to channel when I’m pulling my morning tarot card and meditating, I create herbal blends to smoke to match my mood and even make tinctures for healing purposes — both physically and mentally. Herbal Mutual Aid Network has been blessing Black folks with free customized herbal care packages, just send a DM (DO NOT FOLLOW) to get on the list for yours. Also sending bunches of love to Black Girls Breathing, they offer at least two breathwork circles a month that has free and sliding scale slots, they do go fast so follow them to stay up to date. Also, a few resources to help the folks of Texas courtesy of @KiaCooks while their residents go through this wild time.

If you have anything happening that you think would be a good fit for the community love virtual billboard, send it my way via Instagram. Please remember that anything you send must have a focus on people of color.


I’m just saying that I am ready to get married when you are.

A vibe made to stay inside that soothes the heart and hopefully makes it smile.


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‘Thank you, President Trump’ say LGBTQ Republicans in Presidents Day video / Queerty

‘Thank you, President Trump’ say LGBTQ Republicans in Presidents Day

Log Cabin Republicans thank Trump in Presidents Day video
(Photo: @LogCabinGOP/Twitter)

Conservative, LGBTQ organization Log Cabin Republicans celebrated Presidents Day yesterday by releasing a video of several supporters thanking Donald Trump.

The video comes from its ‘Outspoken’ project, which was launched last year in an attempt to help Trump become re-elected.

Fresh from being acquitted of encouraging insurrection in the Capitol last month during his history-making second impeachment, Trump received praise for, among other things, “giving a voice to Americans that felt overlooked”, “exposing how incredibly corrupt the media is,” and for showing that sometimes “an outsider is the best person for the job.”

Related: Richard Grenell demands White House press secretary “apologize to the gay community”

Between 2017-2021, advocacy group GLAAD keeping a running count of all the Trump administration’s attacks on LGBTQ people. It totaled 181 by the time Trump left office, including his ban on trans people serving in the military and a move to allow federal employers to discriminate against LGBTQ just days before his departure from the White House.

However, the MAGA-loving supporters here wanted to thank him for being “the first President in history to enter office as a supporter of marriage equality” and “the first pro-gay President when entering office.”

One contributor said he was “eternally grateful” to Trump for the way in which he had opened “the tent of the Republican party [to] accept LGBT Americans.”

Trump is also lauded for launching a global campaign to decriminalize homosexuality. Although this initiative was indeed announced in 2019, whether it achieved any tangible results is moot. Claiming, as is done here, that Trump, “set precedent for Joe Biden and the Biden administration to follow … picking up where Donald Trump left off,” is perhaps a stretch.

Related: Richard Grenell celebrates Veteran’s Day by thanking a war criminal. Really.

The video received a largely bemused reaction online, with many thinking at first that it may have been a parody or asking if April Fools Day had arrived early.

The video was praised by some Trump supporters. The former US ambassador to Germany, Richard Grenell, was among those to retweet it.

I’m a pre hrt trans girl, still closeted publicly and with lots of family and a lot sucks, but today was a good day and my fiancé did my makeup and I felt happy. ❤️ : actuallesbians

I’m a pre hrt trans girl, still closeted publicly and

A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!

JoJo Siwa shares adorable Valentine’s Day message to girlfriend Kylie

JoJo Siwa shares adorable Valentine's Day message to girlfriend Kylie

JoJo Siwa showed some love for girlfriend Kylie in a heartwarming Valentine’s Day post. (Instagram/@itsjojosiwa)

JoJo Siwa proved that romance isn’t dead after all as she celebrated her first Valentine’s Day with her girlfriend Kylie on Sunday (14 February).

Sharing adorable snaps of the pair in an Instagram post, the 17-year-old told the world she is “so thankful to have fallen in love with the most perfect person ever.”

Siwa uploaded a cute video of them at a restaurant, where Kylie coyly blew a straw wrapper at her.

“It’s my first valentines dayyyy!” she wrote in the caption.

“No one in the world makes me as happy as this girl does.

“I’m so thankful to have fallen in love with the most perfect person ever who makes me smile 24/7.

“I love you more thank you’ll ever know.”

JoJo Siwa’s girlfriend Kylie gushes over the ‘best human on earth’

Kylie also gushed over JoJo Siwa in an Instagram Story. Head over heels for the Nickelodeon star, Kylie wrote: “Getting to spend Valentine’s Day [with] the BEST human on earth.

“I love you, I love you, I love you, JoJo Siwa.”

JoJo later revealed the Valentine’s Day gift Kylie gave her – a grey hoodie which reads: “Warning: I am taken. Don’t flirt with me. It’s for your own safety.”

(Instagram/@p._kylie_.p/@itsjojosiwa)

It comes after the loving couple celebrated their one-month anniversary earlier this month.

“After being my best friend for over a year, 8 January 2021 I got to start calling this exceptional human my girlfriend,” Siwa wrote.

“And since then I’ve been the happiest I have ever been! She seriously is the most loving, supportive, happiest, protective, and just the most beautiful perfect person in the world.

“And I get to call her mine! Happy one month to my girl! I love you more and more every day!”

Posting vintage lesbaisn every day: Day 28 : actuallesbians

Posting vintage lesbaisn every day: Day 28 : actuallesbians

A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!

Elliot Page Is Getting Divorced, Another Day in the Books for Love Being a Lie

Elliot Page Is Getting Divorced, Another Day in the Books

It’s Broccoli Cheddar Soup Night! And I cannot f*cking wait.


Queer as in F*ck You

Elliot Page and Emma Portner Announce Plans to Divorce: We ‘Remain Close Friends.’ The AS editors conferred about this during the afternoon, and we all agreed that Drew had the best take:

With all our hearts, wishing Elliot and Emma peace and privacy at this time.

In a new exhibit, LGBTQ elders share what it was like to spend most of their lives in the closet.


Saw This, Thought of You

Bernie Sanders Turned His Inauguration Meme Into a Sweatshirt for Charity. All proceeds go to Meals on Wheels Vermont.

Andra Day Bares All — Here’s What It Meant To Play Her Icon, Billie Holiday. (Exactly 30 days left until The United States vs. Billie Holiday and I cannot wait!!)

Charmay has been a GIFT during this last year, and I have learned so much about Black American Sign Language from her: Black, Deaf and Extremely Online

And while we are still on the topic of young, gifted, and Black — did yall see Nia Dennis’ gymnastics floor routine for UCLA that’s gone viral?? Including Kendrick Lamar, Beyoncé, Missy Elliott, Megan thee Stallion, and 2Pac among others.

If you are white, this is your “must read” of today — and it won’t be easy, but wow I promise you that it is necessary, Breaking Up With White Supremacy Was Always The End Game: “If you follow all the prescriptions of checking your privilege, unpacking your invisible knapsack, centering the marginalized, excavating your deeply held white supremacist notions and not becoming a Karen, you will absolutely positively have to break up with actual white people.”

Related to above, White People Least Likely to Wear Masks Consistently, Study Finds — “The essential values this country was founded on are individualism and personal responsibility, and this idea of community is not something that is necessarily inherent in (white) American culture.” The parenthesis is my own.


Political Snacks

Biden Overturns Trump Ban on Transgender People Serving in U.S. Military. I have A LOT of feelings about the role of the U.S. military and imperialism and war and war profiteering and the military industrial complex. I also acknowledge that the ban itself hurt a lot of trans people who were trying to serve their country, and I hope that those people found some healing in this week.

Also.(also.also), a reminder that Joe Biden Will Lie to You. All presidents do.

But that said, this is a step in the right direction, Biden Orders End of Federally Run Private Prisons. (And yet! To my previous point, Biden’s Order to End Use of Private Prisons Excludes Immigrant Detention Facilities)


And Another Thing!

Crissle West coming thru with the laughs for your mid-week slump:

5 great reads to celebrate MLK Day / Queerty

5 great reads to celebrate MLK Day / Queerty

The last year saw more brutal police murders of African Americans, the emergence of Black Lives Matter as a force for change, and huge turnouts among Black voters ensuring the defeat of the openly white supremacist president and two GOP Senators from Georgia, swinging control of Congress and the White House to the Democratic Party.

Let’s take a moment on this special day to honor not just Martin Luther King Jr. but the Black queer writers who are changing American literature, fiction, and non-, for the better and whose visions of justice and equality give us hope for the future.

These critical favorites, all published in 2020, are worth savoring this year as head into a new era of a Democratic majority.

1. “Storms in Africa: A Year in the Motherland” by Jeremy Helligar

Queerty contributor Jeremy Helligar is known for his ability to combine travel writing with cultural and political analysis. After discussing his adventures in love & lust across the globe “Is It True What They Say About Black Men?,” Helligar takes on racism directly in”Storms in Africa: A Year in the Motherland.” Helligar has lived all over the world–New York City, Melbourne, Bangkok and Cape Town–and never have his ex-pat musings been better than his latest work.

2. “The Prophets” by Robert Jones, Jr.

This is the incredibly powerful story of Isaiah and Samuel, two enslaved young men on the Halifax plantation, who fall in love and bring a little bit of solace to the horror of slavery before complications arise over the openness of their same-sex desire. Jones spent more than a decade laboring over the words in this book, and you can see the results in the face of the writing, and the multiple perspectives it brings to life. The book is heralded by critics, and The New York Times describes it this way: “Through these characters and their stories, ‘The Prophets’ calls, across time, on queer warriors, woman kings, root women and boys in love to paint a long queer Black history, a history of rising against, of ever making one’s way back to freedom.”

3. “Real Life” by Brandon Taylor

This is the 2020 debut novel of Brandon Taylor who has written extensively in personal essays about growing up Black and gay in the south. Based on his own experience, the novel tells the story of gay, Black doctoral student named Wallace in a white, PhD program where he believes his work sabotaged by bigots. Wallace experiences the racist indignities of mistaken for a drug dealer, being asked at the door of a campus party whether he is lost, and the inevitable comments that that black people should be more grateful for the experiences granted to them rather than earned. Wallace enjoys a sexy affair with a man who insists on his straightness even after the relationship has been consummated.

4. All Boys Aren’t Blue by George M. Johnson

In a series of personal essays, George M. Johnson explores growing up and going to college in New Jersey and Virginia. Topics range from getting bullied to his love for his grandmother, who exposed him to the joys of flea marketing. The book has been heralded as a kind of how-to-come-out memoir for young adults, but it is so much more than that alone. “I look at it often to remind myself of why I am writing these stories and the importance of centering black stories from the black perspective,” Johnson tells NPR. “I didn’t have stories like these growing up and honestly I don’t have many now so I knew I needed to do my part to make sure the next generation of black queer children had something they could relate to and connect with. There are days I look at TV and film and still don’t see myself represented. So, my ultimate goal was providing the story I didn’t have but always needed and to be the vessel so that so many can feel seen and heard.”

5. Alicia Garza: The Purpose of Power: How We Come Together When We Fall Apart

Black Lives Matter co-founder Alicia Garza sums up the learnings of the year of white supremacy and street protests. Long before she helped create the movement that changed the world, Oakland, CA, resident Garza, who is married to a trans man, was a prolific and inspired community organizer who understands that change comes from the hard work of bringing people together across divides, even in more progressive parts of the country. As the horrors of white supremacy have come to light during the Trump years, Garcia’s book will help keep us vigilant even as we enter a new Democratic administration that owes its existence to the savvy and determination of Garcia, Stacey Abrams, and many others.

For Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day

For Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. Day

Let’s just give Dr. King the floor today:

Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. - society
There are no end of amazing quotes from Dr. King; I’m choosing this one because it’s not quite as widely known as some and it seems to fit with the rest of this week in our country’s history. May we each work towards the society that he envisioned.

Looking for books, readings, and other resources about Dr. King, the Civil Rights movement, or talking with kids about race and racism? Here’s a list I published last year.

“One Day at a Time” Is Officially Cancelled, We’ll Be Crying Into Our Cafecitos Forever

"One Day at a Time" Is Officially Cancelled, We'll Be

I have these Christmas themed Oreos, this bottle of water, and repeats of Gossip Girl on television. This will sustain me.


Queer as in F*ck You

“This report emerged out of the need to better understand the ways in which Queer, Trans, Two-Spirit, Black, Indigenous, and People of Color (QT2SBIPOC) communities are disproportionately impacted by surveillance and criminalization at all levels—from the state-endorsed to the corporate-led—and to resource these communities to push back.”

Technologies for Liberation: Toward Abolitionist Futures, report from The Astrea Lesbian Foundation for Justice

Lost in a (Mis)Gendered Appalachia. For centuries, national mythology has emphasized rural America’s supposed masculinity. It has caused incalculable damage.

Hark! The Herald Dolly Sings. RuPaul interviewing Dolly for Marie Claire.


Saw This, Thought of You

Nothing Made Sense in 2020 — Unless You Were on the Internet by E. Alex Jung for Vulture. This is easily the very best thing I read this week.

The above ^^^ piece is a part of Vulture’s First (and hopefully ONLY) Quarries Awards, a made-up and “ad hoc awards show for the culture that came out of our year in quarantine.” Which Heather Hogan correctly described as follows, “Nothing I’ve seen captures the horror and absurdity and joy of 2020 on the internet quite like this.”

These Lonely Otters Found Love in Lockdown Just in Time for the Holidays. (From Stef, a forever ambassador of team #LoveIsALie: “so glad online dating worked out for SOMEONE 🙄”)

6 Weed-y Gifts For Chill Holidays

The Rise and Fall of the Co-ops. The Bronx cooperative was a communist utopia, until it wasn’t.

When Did Charities Become The New People Magazine Cover Reveal?

One Day at a Time Gone for Good: Efforts to Find a New Home for Beloved Comedy Fail. Of most relevance:

“Sony and ViacomCBS had been in talks to renew the comedy for a fifth season on streamer CBS All Access. That deal was stymied by contractual limitations that were part of the show’s original Netflix deal, which limited when another streaming platform could run the series. Netflix would have had to sign off on a rival streamer reviving the series starring Justina Machado and Rita Moreno.

The goal, per sources, would have been for CBS All Access to air a fifth season in 2021. That would have been a year earlier than Netflix’s pact for the series allowed.”

I will never — and I mean never forgive Netflix for this. Such cruelty! If they aren’t going to stream new episodes of the series, and CBS wasn’t asking for the old Netflix ones in syndication, then why care if new episodes are streamed someplace else? Especially with less than year left on its exclusivity period? Just let it be free! (I wrote a memorial for One Day at a Time the first time it was cancelled, and it’s more timely than ever tonight: “We will keep moving, we will go harder, we will keep celebrating. The fight for representation on television – for women, for queer folks, for Latinxs – is very far from being over. While we gear up for what comes next, we’ll raise our flags and dance loudly in the streets. It’s what Abuelita Lydia would’ve wanted.”)

OK — this is actually too dope for words:

The Salam School Stars Are Bigger Than Basketball, meet the all-Muslim girls’ team from Milwaukee that’s challenging gender-norms within their community—and winning a lot along the way.


Political Snacks

Water is joining gold, oil & other commodities traded on Wall Street, revealing new scarcity. This is bad news.

And I mean, VERY bad news.

LGBTQ+ pride socks for your wedding day

Sock it to me: LGBTQ+ pride socks for your wedding day

Want a comfy sock and not sure what type of rainbow design you might want to sport on your wedding day? Or maybe you want to wear a pair and give your wedding attendants a pair, too. Bombas has a great pride calf sock 4-pack you can snag to give you a few options.

Bombas socks are super comfortable and hold up really well. The calf sock stays nicely in place when pulled up to show the design and with their honeycomb midfoot support, they provide comfort in all the right places. I’m definitely a Bombas fan after I purchased several of the pride socks this year.

And remember, as always with Bombas purchases, one purchased equals one donated to those experiencing homelessness.

Price: $45.60 (Pack of 4)

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