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Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making

After an epic flash mob proposal, Samantha and Leah’s winter wedding took place on the historic riverfront of Wilmington, North Carolina.

The couple, who had already been together for ten years, wrote that they “were going for a laid back yet elegant vibe with a mix of the old with the new, (first look photos on a roof top bar but a ceremony in an old warehouse).”

“We have always had a Champagne Taste on a Soda Pop budget,” they say, “So we had furs for the bridesmaids but DIY decor! Our wedding was all about our friendship to each other and creating a warm space that was completely surrounded by love, family, and friendship.”

What advice would you give to engaged LGBTQ+ couples?

The best advice we can give is to not worry about appeasing people’s expectations. Be as traditional or unique as YOU BOTH want. Just because your wedding may look different to some, you are still allowed to have traditional elements if that is what you have always pictured. At the end of the day, your wedding is all about you and your partner, so do not stress about the little things that you feel like you “have to have” because people expect it.

For example, we stressed a long time about having thank you gifts or not because we felt like it was an unnecessary expense but were worried people would be expecting it. We ended up skipping the party favor and served McDonalds cheeseburgers at the end of the night instead and of course, no one was disappointed!

What advice do you have for vendors and venues working with LGBTQ+ couples

Be open, accepting, and willing to think outside of the box. It is 100% okay to ask what you are unsure of (like pronouns, future names, who wants to walk down the aisle first, etc.) but make sure to listen to what the couple is asking. Also, just think before you speak! Nothing frustrated us more than when someone would ask so who’s the “groom” in your wedding….There is no groom we are both brides!

Did you encounter any pleasant surprises as an LGBTQ+ couple planning your wedding?

I think the best part about planning our wedding together was that since we were both brides we were able to do almost everything together! Our favorite among the pre-wedding activities was having a joint bachelorette party. Our friend group is so incredibly close that there was no way we could have had separate parties without the other being left at home completely alone.

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

Dazzling winter wedding ten years in the making | Matt Ray Photography | Featured on Equally Wed, the leading LGBTQ+ wedding magazine

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Photographer: Matt Ray Photography

Venue: Warehouse on Water

Florist: Gather Events

Planner: Michael Braxton

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Attire for Partner 2: Rebecca Ingram

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“Last Night at the Telegraph Club” Is a Dazzling Lesbian Love Story and So Much More

"Last Night at the Telegraph Club" Is a Dazzling Lesbian

I don’t cover a lot of young adult fiction here; the other age groups keep me busy enough. I’m making an exception today, however, not only because I happen to know the author, but because the book is a rare YA novel that I found myself reading for my own sake, not just with an eye to how it would impact younger readers. It’s the queer historical fiction novel I never knew I wanted.

Last Night at the Telegraph Club - Malinda Lo

Last Night at the Telegraph Club, by Malinda Lo (Dutton – Amazon

; Bookshop) is set in San Francisco’s Chinatown in 1954. Seventeen-year-old Lily Hu lives with her immigrant parents and is active in the Chinese American community, but finds herself also looking beyond it. She wants to study rocket science, inspired by an aunt who worked as one of the women “calculators” for NASA’s Jet Propulsion Lab. (The character is fictional, but the calculators were real.) And one day, Lily joins Kath, a White friend from her public high school, in sneaking off to the Telegraph Club, a lesbian bar with performances by a charismatic male impersonator (whom we would today call a “drag king”). Lily and Kath’s own relationship begins to bloom, even as the anti-Communist “Red Scare” tactics of Joseph McCarthy threaten Lily’s family’s security in this country.

I won’t go into more of the plot, for fear of spoilers, but suffice it to say that I found the story and the ending wonderfully satisfying. There’s just so much to like about this novel. Lo’s details about the Chinese American community and the lesbian community of the time are deeply researched but smoothly interwoven into the story; I could almost smell the foods she describes and the cigarette smoke in the bar. She captures the longing of first love and the uncertainty of coming out without making them into clichés. She writes with thoughtfulness about the tension between immigrant parents and their children who have grown up in America, without making Lily’s parents into caricatures. In fact, the parents’ stories, and how they impact their hopes and expectations for Lily, form an important thread of their own. Lo also shows how Lily encounters microaggressions even from the women at the Telegraph Club; she is keenly aware of the complexities of intersectionality. The serious topics never come across as pedantic, though; they are all just different threads of Lily’s identities and experiences, which combine to make her who she is and shape her interactions with the world.

Young queer teens deserve this lovely coming-of-age love story; they deserve the knowledge that queer people have a history that predates Stonewall and that our lives were (and are) as bound up as anyone’s in the social and political happenings of their community and country. They also deserve books that are as masterfully crafted as this one. I also wholeheartedly recommend it to adult readers looking for a queer love story or historical novel. Would that there had been books like this when we were growing up.

Lo and I went to the same college, but at different times; we’ve had some interaction through the queer alum group and I admit to some bias towards her writing. Don’t just take my word about the book, though; it’s gotten rave reviews everywhere I’ve looked. Shortlist this one for all the awards.

Watch Lo read a passage and talk about her inspirations for the book and some of the real history (and photos!) behind it, and share info about upcoming virtual events:


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