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Sinclair reviews Untamed by Glennon Doyle – The Lesbrary

Susan reviews The Lady’s Guide to Celestial Mechanics by Olivia

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I was skeptical about this book. Remember back in May 2020 when nearly the entire bestseller list was taken up by anti-racist titles such as How To Be An Anti-Racist, Me & White Supremacy, and My Grandmother’s HandsUntamed was also on there, and I felt skeptical about a white woman’s voice being amplified so loudly during such a critical time. I knew it was a memoir, but someone told me it also addressed her personal journey with her own whiteness and coming to an anti-racist identity.

Hmm, I thought.

I was disappointed to see so little of that in the book, but that’s not Glennon’s fault — I had bad information. It does have a little bit about it, but it’s just one medium-length essay among dozens of others — not even a major theme, really.

I was skeptical because I knew who Glennon Doyle was: a white, feminine woman with a conservative Christian background who fell in love with a (famous, queer) woman (soccer player Abby Wombach — who also wrote a book, Wolfpack) and left her husband. I knew she had quite the social media following, and my impression was that she was in that category of inspirational speakers and motivational self-help that is usually geared toward white wealthy mainstream women, and of which I tend to be very critical for the ways it reinforces capitalism, hegemony, beauty standards, and even patriarchy.

I struggled to relate to a lot of her work because she is so mainstream. I have been out as butch and queer since 1999 — more than half my life now — and my entire adult understanding of myself comes from counter culture, activism, being critical of the overculture, and and being very actively against indoctrination. I not only came out into counter culture, I grew up in it, outside of the contiguous US, and have never had a mainstream US world view. So when she describes her process of expanding and transforming outside of her mainstream world view, I applaud her — but parts of it are not all that radical or even all that interesting to me. Those things seem kind of like a baseline, not a revelation.

What was really interesting — fascinating, moving, and even inspiring — was the ways she describes that transformative process.

I am so impressed and have much respect for her process in general, and how much she had to trust herself in order to re-build her life, going against almost everything she’d known. So many of the short essays that make up this book are about how she trusts herself, the personal process of naming her inner Knowing, the consequences, the social expectations of placing trust somewhere outside of one’s self in order to know what’s right.

The major takeaway for me was about the cost and construction of abandoning one’s self. I know from early childhood development theory that our attachment styles, and sometimes relational trauma, are wrapped up in how we abandon ourselves to seek outside approval. For some of us, we have a pattern of others overriding what we know to be true and right for ourselves, and that often, for me personally, when resentment brews and gets directed at others, it is a clue that I have not been being true to myself at some deep level.

I am surprised to be so moved by this book. If you like personal transformative reflections, parenting, spiritual seekers, truth seekers, you may enjoy this book. I found it very easy to read and digest, with many profound moments.

Pop Culture Fix: Cameron Esposito and Glennon Doyle Nickname LA’s NWSL Team “The Lesbians”

Pop Culture Fix: Cameron Esposito and Glennon Doyle Nickname LA's

Well, hello and welcome back to another Pop Culture Fix, your bi-weekly round-up of queer pop culture news.

+ Natalie gave you a comprehensive rundown of Los Angeles’ NWSL expansion team yesterday in Also.Also.Also, but I would like to add the important pop culture information that Cameron Esposito and Glennon Doyle have solid team mascot ideas. (Also please enjoy Uzo Aduba, Jennifer Garner, Eva Longoria, Natalie Portman and Jessica Chastain — all members of the new ownership group — at a USWNT game in 2019.)

+ Chris Colfer wrote a tribute to Naya Rivera in Variety and it’s beautiful.

+ Heather Morris posted a tribute video of her dancing to Naya’s song Radio Silence on her Instagram.


+ Legend of Korra is finally coming to Netflix in August! Bomb Girls is coming to Acorn TV!

+ Over at Bitch, Maggie Chirdo wrote about how Scooby-Doo’s Velma shaped lesbian culture.

+ Scott Pilgrim vs. The World (aka The One Where Mae Whitman plays Ramona’s half-ninja lesbian ex-girlfriend) turns ten years old this week and the cast came together to do a full table read of the script.

+ Austen Osworth is guesting on the Pop Tarot newsletter today with a brilliant piece about The Baby-Sitter’s Club members as knights of the minor arcana.

+ At the A.V. Club, Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya has assembled the definitive list of the ten queerest episodes of Xena: Warrior Princess.

+ Tomb Radier creator Jackson Lanzing told comics legend Gail Simone that they tried so hard to make Lara Croft canonically gay.

+ After the Scarlett Johansson backlash, Rub and Tug will now be a series with a trans character played by a trans actor and written by a trans writer. (Now, was that so hard?)

+ Pose creator Steven Canals is working on a new project for FX: “a limited series exploring the historic effort by a group of medical professionals to change the definition homosexuality from being classified as a mental illness.”

+ Melanie Scrofano says Wynonna Earp‘s gonna “come out swinging” in season four.

+ COVID-19 is happening on Grey’s Anatomy

+ Netflix cancels If Only after the Turkish government refused to grant them a filming license because the script had a gay character.

+ CBS All Access critical darling The Good Fight will begin airing some episodes on BET next week.

+ CBC renewed Burden of Truth for a fourth season.

+ Lena Waithe has written the latest version of a script for the musical drama Talent Show, which will star Cynthia Erivo, and which Natalie says allows her to move firmly back onto Team Love Is a Lie.

Heather Hogan

Heather Hogan is an Autostraddle senior writer who lives in New York City with her partner, Stacy, and their cackle of rescued pets. She’s a member of the Television Critics Association, the Gay and Lesbian Entertainment Critics Association, and a Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer critic. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

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