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Demi Lovato Is Pansexual, Feeling Good About Queer as a Label Too

Demi Lovato Is Pansexual, Feeling Good About Queer as a


Good afternoon, friends and foes! Have you taken Riese’s Which L Word Character Are You? quiz yet? It is very popular! Most of our staff got Jenny, if you can believe it, and I got Dana! It’s not a 1:1 match for me, but I do love sports and my cats.


+ Hey speaking of sports, Megan Rapinoe is using her platform to speak out against these hateful and ridiculous bills targeting trans teens who want access to the locker rooms and teams that match their gender. She also hit up the White House with Margaret Purce last week on Equal Pay Day, after testifying about gender discrimination before the House Committee on Oversight and Reform. Carmen has more in Also.Also.Also!

+ Related:

+ Demi Lovato kind of likes “pansexual” as a label.

+ Miriam Margolyes, known mostly to you as Professor Sprout, absolutely did some sexy voice acting before Harry Potter. (It was exhausting.)

+ Kristen Stewart’s latest foray into Princess Diana’s iconic looks while filming Spencer.

+ Ashley Benson talks about the struggles of being in the public eye and dealing with paparazzi.

+ Disney+’s National Treasure reboot will feature a Latinx lead.

+ Margaret Cho talked on her podcast about feeling like a target during the current rise of anti-Asian racism in the U.S.

+ New details about the bisexual lead in the new Life Is Strange game.

+ Genera+ion co-creator Zelda Barnz on wanting to do right by Gen Z and the queer community.

+ Vida‘s Tanya Saracho on queer Latinx representation.

+ Littlewood on Nintendo Switch review: a charming, queer life sim that Stardew Valley fans will love.

+ BBC’s Line of Duty dials up the lesbian tension and queer fans can’t cope.

+ Chyler Leigh is heading back to Grey’s Anatomy.

+ TV Line’s performer of the week is Genius: Aretha star Cynthia Erivo.

+ Batwoman‘s Black Mask has plans for Kate Kane, and they are pretty horrifying.

+ Dear Montero, Lil Nas X has called your name with love.

+ There was a lot more to Jessica Walter than martini GIFS.

Heather Hogan

Heather Hogan is an Autostraddle senior writer who lives in New York City with her partner, Stacy, and their cackle of rescued pets. She’s a member of the Television Critics Association, the Gay and Lesbian Entertainment Critics Association, and a Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer critic. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

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Just shot my shot by msging a girl on Reddit for the first time, got me feeling like : actuallesbians

Just shot my shot by msging a girl on Reddit

A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!

Got my eyebrow pierced today and I’m feeling extra gay! : actuallesbians

Got my eyebrow pierced today and I’m feeling extra gay!

A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!

People are feeling the love between these straight, best friends / Queerty

People are feeling the love between these straight, best friends

The two straight, best friends
(Photo: Honeybee’s Photography)

When a woman posted a series of photos to social media of her fiancé and his best friend last week, she had little idea how they would strike a chord with so many.

“How hilarious is this session?” said Kait Lewis, who recently launched her photo portrait service: Honeybee’s Photography. “My fiancé’s bestie came to town so I jumped at the opportunity to capture their *unique* friendship!”

The two men are both straight and have known each other since eighth grade. Lewis’ fiancé, Devon, is the one with the beard.

The men were photographed wearing similar clothing, holding hands, and pouring beer into each other’s mouths. Lewis added a lighthearted suggestion that beer company Busch sponsor the photos.

(Photo: Honeybee’s Photography)

Within a couple of days, the photos had prompted thousands of reactions and comments.

Most applauded the shoot.

“This is definitely hilarious and I love it,” said one well-liked comment. “Don’t get caught up in the haterade — you don’t need their money and they wouldn’t give it to you anyway. Well done!!! BFFs are well worth documenting and your shoot production is spot on.”

(Photo: Honeybee’s Photography)

“This is amazing!” said another woman. “My husband and his best friend would totally take photos like this because… surprise! They love each other and are comfortable in their sexuality.”

Related: Father and son go viral dancing to ‘Frozen’: “This is what healthy masculinity looks like”

Some questioned why Lewis had added a ‘viewer discretion’ warning at the start of her post.

“I LOVE these photos!” said one gay man. “It’s important to show two men can have a friendship like this and it be completely okay. Disappointed in the “viewer discretion advised”. I saw that you said you’re a family-friendly business, but if this were a male-female couple, or two female friends the advisory wouldn’t be there. As a gay man, I’m disappointed because it only perpetuates male physical contact as inappropriate which encourages fragile masculinity and homophobia.”

(Photo: Honeybee’s Photography)

Comments like this prompted Lewis to add a clarification to her original posting.

“The viewer discretion was added because I am a family-friendly photographer and the sexual posing and alcohol needed to be warned to AVOID offending people. It has nothing to do with the genders.

“Everybody’s interpretation on what is sexual and what is not is very different. TO ME, some of the photos are out of my normal comfort zone, and that’s all that matters. I stand by the advisory and will not be removing it. I wasn’t anticipating this post to reach 6,000,000+ people in a matter of 2 days.

“This photoshoot was meant for fun. His bestie lives five hours away and we only see him a few times a year. We wanted to have a good time while he was visiting.

“If you are offended by ANY of this (the photos or the caption), feel free to keep scrolling!”

(Photo: Honeybee’s Photography)

Some people began to post their own photos of straight men hugging or showing affection to their besties.

Lewis is based in the Shenandoah Valley, Virginia. She told Queerty she’s only been taking photographs for the past month.

“My fiancé and I are having an elopement-style wedding on top of a Mesa in Utah, and in looking for a photographer of our own, it sparked an interest for me! A few years ago I bought a DSLR as an impulse Black Friday buy but I never used it until now. After 23 years of having absolutely no talent, I think I’ve finally found my niche.”

Related: Straight men share “gay” things they enjoy doing and you almost feel sorry for them

She says she met her fiancé a year and a half ago and, “fell in love immediately. We’ve since traveled most of the USA and plan to continue our life of travel for as long as we can. We have two dogs and a beautiful little home with a great view of the mountains. We just got engaged on June 12th, 2020, and are getting married on April 10th, 2021.”

She says she was “shocked” when the post went viral, but that she and her fiancé have enjoyed reading all the comments (over 13,000 at the time of writing). She believes it’s important to capture moments like this between friends and loved ones.

(Photo: Honeybee’s Photography)

“I never anticipated so many people seeing Devon in daisy dukes. I mainly posted it to give our friends and family a good laugh. When the numbers kept rising and rising we were just in awe.

“We wanted to show that it’s perfectly okay to show intimacy with your best friend, regardless of your gender… and have a good laugh, because it was fun to do so!”

“Some objections of the photos included my caption in giving a “viewer discretion advised” warning. I have since edited my caption to explain the meaning behind this but I stood my ground, still believe it is necessary, and will not be removing it.

“People initially thought I added the advisory because the photos were of two men, which is not the case. I added the advisory because I am a family-friendly photographer. Some of the photos suggest oral sex positions, as well as include alcohol. I posted it to avoid offending anybody who may not want to view that. Since I’ve said this, people are still unhappy, saying that they don’t think some of the photos are sexual. To me, that is subjective … For the most part, the LGBTQ community has been so loving and supportive over the post.”

Related: Trump’s Department of Justice files court statement supporting an anti-gay wedding photographer

Unlike some photographers, Lewis also wanted to reassure people she’d be very happy to shoot same-sex couples and weddings.

“Absolutely!” she told Queerty. “People who refuse clients for any reason regarding who they love is beyond me. It’s baffling, disgusting, and downright ridiculous. The sex of the people getting married makes no difference to me.”