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9 spots to find the most beautiful nature in Belgium

9 spots to find the most beautiful nature in Belgium

Bosland in Limburg is a unique place to visit and to explore nature in Belgium. The extensive park spreads out over 4 villages and it is the home of a broad natural diversity. Part of this park is an actual Sahara or desert, while other parts comprise peaceful forests and tranquil lakes.

Keep in mind that this nature park is also called Adventure Forest. The park has tons of activities for kids, like multiple adventurous treasure hunts, donkey walks, playgrounds, and a lot more. If you have kids, this might be one of the best places to get them into nature playfully.

For adults, the Lommelse Sahara is also a great place to find some peace. But if you like, you can also engage in a few cool activities, like cycling or mountain-biking. There are a few places where you can go horseback riding in the area. 

Bosland Lommel stretches out over 4 villages: Lommel, Hechtel Eksel, Pelt, and Peer. You can access this beautiful stretch of nature in Belgium through various entrance gates.

The most common way visitors get in is here:

Address: Sportveldenstraat 10, 3920 Lommel

Entrance to this nature park is free. 

Most of the separate activities are independent. You can expect to pay a small fee for these activities.

Queer Horoscopes for April 2021: Where Can You Find Your Fire?

Queer Horoscopes for January 2021

We’re in the season where every day new plants burst into exuberant life, bright leaves popping on stately old trees as the sap rises. Aries season pulls us out of winter hibernation, and this particular month brings a different kind of hope. For some in the US and a handful of other countries, the vaccine rollout is offering a promise of increased movement, connection, and ease in the coming months. Many are daring to dream of an end to the painful separations that have marked the last thirteen months. For others across the world, that reality still seems distant. Meanwhile, the countless fractures and tragedies we’ve witnessed over the past year are far from healed. The world we could create in the aftermath of this crisis is one of the major astrological themes of this year. Meanwhile, we as a collective are learning to think of ourselves collectively, which begins with the capacity to hold both joy and grief at the same time instead of just turning inward and shutting down.

This year and the years to come call for dramatic reversals, renewals, and reimaginings of how we can all live on this earth together. This month stimulates our desires—Aries is a sign that wants what it wants, when it wants it. Can this inherently selfish impulse can be harnessed for the greater good? Aries is traditionally seen as self-centered, survival-oriented, and can be impatient. Sound familiar? A long crisis brings out that survival-oriented flavor Aries energy in all of us (if we’re in touch with our desires at all). This month, I invite you to welcome your impatience in and begin a conversation with it.

Impatience is always about how our desires clash with the limitations of reality. If we maintain the strength of our desires at all costs, we can act recklessly. I’m reminded of an acquaintance who got an STI diagnosis but had a hot date lined up that night, and wanted reassurance they could keep the date, have sex, and not disclose their infection (clearly we all said, no, of course not!). Impatience can lead to unethical behavior with bad consequences for more than just ourselves. There are reasons patience is praised as a virtue while impatience is something we try to restrain.

And yet.

Sometimes impatience is vital and necessary—like when genocidal and soul-crushing systems have held power for several hundred years. When your actual survival and the survival of your loved ones is at stake. When the status quo is robbing future generations of a habitable planet. In this case, Aries energy offers us the revolutionary courage to upend the status quo and fight for a better world.

And yet.

There are a handful of ideas floating around about what “a better world” might look like and many of them rely on paranoid conspiracy theories. Millions of people believe that a cabal of politicians are stealing eating children, which is a new spin on a very old anti-semitic conspiracy (just Google “blood libel”), and that white supremacist hero Donald Trump is some kind of messiah. And the astrology of this month is a bit of a powder keg. So notice what you’re scared of right now and what you’re willing to fight for, and ask yourself: Who do I consider my people? Am I willing to fight for a better world for people outside that circle? Or am I quick to see anyone who disagrees with me as a dangerous enemy? How do I know what kind of threat I’m facing? Where do I find evidence? Is there counter-evidence? What if more collaboration is possible? From global struggles to interpersonal tiffs, this is a month that’s bringing us face-to-face with our impatience, our fears, and how we use power. If you find yourself in a high-stakes struggle right now, be willing to look at your own beliefs, your own tactics, and your own shadow side.

Apart from the more thorny energies, this is also a month that can revitalize, re-energize, and motivate us all to pursue our desires. If you’ve been stuck in lockdown a long time, if you’re still stuck in lockdown, if you’re exhausted and emotionally shut down—do what you can this month to find your fire, to reconnect to your desire for the lusciousness of life. Aries is the sap of springtime, rising up through the frozen ground. Tap into your own life force, spend some time with your feet on the earth, remember that you are not alone.

This is a time we are living through, my friends! Reach out for a reading if you want to talk more about how to navigate it. And for more astro insight including a monthly podcast, join me on Patreon!

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Aries

Find your fire: Trust that stirring in your heart that’s telling you where to find your next adventure. Trust your body’s need for movement. Trust that what you feel most passionate about is worth your full presence and attention. Trust that you are becoming who you need to be by noticing what you love. Move your body in ways that remind you of your power.

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Taurus

Find your fire: Welcome a slow simmer of warmth instead of a blazing fire. Trust that you have untapped reserves of energy, waiting for the right occasion. Trust that the changes you sorely need will happen, are already in process, even if you can’t see them yet. Trust your dreams, your fantasies, and your sources of inspiration. Trust that you can slow down when you need to. Welcome your body into this new season by moving in ways that reconnect you to joy.

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Gemini

Find your fire: Welcome your strong love for your community. Welcome a wider perspective. Trust that spark of inspiration that catches you and lights you up. Trust your most naïve and hopeful utopian desires. Trust that conflict can expose truths we need to hear. Trust that conflict can transform communities without breaking them. Trust that each voice in a group has something important to add. Welcome the desires, the loneliness, the grief lurking beneath the surface when conflict arises. Lean into the love that exists despite it all.

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Cancer

Find your fire: Welcome your future, yourself as an elder, the world you have helped to create. Trust your intuition about what will get you toward that desired world. Trust the wisdom of what you’ve learned from the worst year of your life (whether that was this past year or any other). Trust that you have the answers you need. Trust that you can lead others forward. Welcome the responsibility of standing in your own integrity, even when it would feel easier and safer to fold. Trust that you won’t be alone.

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Leo

Find your fire: Welcome your aching longing to reconnect to a larger world. Welcome what connects you now, even imperfectly. Trust that you haven’t forgotten how to be inspired. Trust that there will be more stories to tell in the future. Trust that it’s better to feel heartbroken about the world than to fall out of love with the world. Welcome the part of you that knows what you do next, and watch them go.

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Virgo

Find your fire: Welcome the healing that comes with finally facing and releasing what hurts. Trust that trauma isn’t your whole story or your only story. Trust that your feelings can move through your body and leave you intact. Welcome what’s changing in your heart. Welcome the opportunity to really feel your grief—it ushers in the capacity to really feel your joy. Trust that intimacy has many beginnings and many endings, and that each ending is also a beginning.

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Libra

Find your fire: Welcome conversations that dip deep below the surface. Trust the boundaries that keep you connected rather than enmeshed. Trust your choices, and trust you can make new choices if you’re no longer aligned with the old ones. Trust people when they show you who they are. Trust your instincts and your gut sense. Trust what someone who loves you loves about you. Welcome a new balance of self and other—not leaving yourself behind to stay on a team, not burning any bridges when you need to center yourself.

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Scorpio

Find your fire: Welcome the messy imperfections and minor adjustments of real-life love. Trust what your body relaxes into, even if your mind is looking for reasons never to trust. Trust that you know how to heal if you get hurt again. Trust your instinct for noticing the details others miss. Trust your insights, especially when they point to imbalance of power. Trust that real devotion exists and is quiet, consistent, and matter of fact. Trust your distrust of showier, louder declarations. Welcome love that heals you quietly, consistently, and without a lot of fuss.

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Sagittarius

Find your fire: Welcome levity, laughter, and completely and joyously wasting your time. Trust your impulse to play, to flirt, to create, to take a break from anything and everything goal-oriented. Trust what helps you feel that special sense of wonder that reminds you of being a small child, curious about something. Unlearn cynicism for a little while. Trust that it’s okay to take a nap. Trust your desire to be seen, cherished, and validated. Welcome (and request) compliments, affection, and appreciation in all forms.

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Capricorn

Find your fire: Welcome gentleness and slowness. Trust your desire to do less, to stay in, to root down, to find safety. Trust your impulse to plan and structure and stay busy, but direct all that energy toward your private world. Make your own comfort and pleasure as important as the work you do for the world. Trust your desire to be witnessed. Risk being witnessed. Trust that a little vulnerability won’t undo a lifetime of competence. Welcome tenderness. Welcome what will restore you.

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Aquarius

Find your fire: Welcome a fresh perspective. Trust that the truth is stranger than you know. Trust that the world can surprise and delight you. Trust your desire to talk it out, to debate, to holler, to hum. Trust the words that come to you, even if they’re stranger than you expect. Let the familiar become new. Let your worldview expand to include the here and now. Welcome a way of seeing your life where you are one node in the center of a network where everyone else is their own center node, but you still get to be in your center.

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Pisces

Find your fire: Welcome a way forward. Trust that there’s solid ground beneath you. Trust your resilience, your resources, and your capacity to rest if you need to. Trust that you deserve what is reliable, sustainable, slow-growing, and trustworthy. Trust your sense of self-protection. Trust your readiness to connect. Welcome what you’re ready to claim and hold onto.

Comic Michael Henry wonders why he can’t find a boyfriend / Queerty

Comic Michael Henry wonders why he can’t find a boyfriend

Michael Henry and Meatball
(Photo: YouTube)

It can be tough being single on Valentine’s Day. It can be particularly tough being single for Valentine’s during a pandemic!

That’s the subject of the latest video from YouTube comic, Michael Henry, which besides being humorous, finds Henry in a more reflective mood and revealing he’s “Never had a Valentine.” and “Never had a boyfriend. Never been in love.”

Although a friend (played by the drag queen, Meatball) reassures him Valentine’s Day is just a “silly holiday”, Henry wonders why some people seem to find it so easy to fall in love, while others do not.

After further probing from the friend, it seems Henry’s experiences with “love” have all involved “games, chasing, rejection, and feeling crushed,” … something which, well, many others might be able to relate to.

Related: Michael Henry takes no prisoners in new video about Gays Over COVID

Indeed, the commentators on YouTube appreciate Henry’s honesty.

“I’ll be 33 this year and have never had a boyfriend. It gets lonely,” says one.

“My Valentine is my little doggie and we usually cry together and go to bed early,” offered another.

A lot of the people in my classes act this way towards me, and it honestly hurts so fucking much to be treated as if I’m a rabid animal after they find out that I’m queer. : actuallesbians

A lot of the people in my classes act this

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Find Your Sexual Persona with the Queer Sex Personality Quiz

Find Your Sexual Persona with the Queer Sex Personality Quiz

When you hear the word “sexuality,” you think “sexual orientation,” but that’s only one slice of your personal erotic pie. You probably have some sense of which gender(s) rev your motor, but that doesn’t say much about your overall proclivities. Are you a daring queer kinkster, or are you a little more subdued? Do you flirt to win, or do you prefer a lingering chase? You might call yourself a “top” or  a “bottom” or a “sub,” but there’s a whole lot more to who you are between the sheets. 

Take this queer sex personality quiz to find your sexual persona and the perfect toy to suit your sexual spirit. Learning to embrace your true erotic personality is the perfect quarantine activity, and sex toys are the perfect tools for unlocking your erotic imagination. Sometimes it takes a little trial and error find the right sex toy for you, but this quiz will help you find your way to a toy that matches your vibe.

You can order all of these toys from HolyFour, a queer-owned, online sex toy retailer committed to helping you shop for pleasure tools in a friendly, judgement-free zone. Use the discount code AUTOSTRADDLE for 15% off!

Okay, queers. Are you ready? Let’s vibe!


Is it wrong that we find a psychopath this attractive? / Queerty

Is it wrong that we find a psychopath this attractive?

Welcome to Screen Gems, our weekend dive into queer and queer-adjacent titles of the past that deserve a watch or a rewatch.

The Screamer: M.O.M.-Mothers of Monsters

This horror/thriller gem didn’t get enough press when it debuted earlier this year. That gives us the pleasure of recommending it here, just in time for Halloween.

The film stars Melinda Page Hamilton of Desperate Housewives as Abbey, mother to  Jacob (Bailey Edwards in his leading debut; he’s the son of Top Gun E.R. star Anthony Edwards). Abbey begins recording everything on hidden video around the house, convinced that Jacob is an aspiring psychopath. Jacob also might be gay; the movie toys with us on that subject, which somehow adds to the thrills. Jacob reacts to his mom with reasonable disgust…and develops a terrifying plan of his own.

Much in the vein of Whatever Happened to Baby Jane and even The ShiningM.O.M. chronicles a descent into madness. But just who is the crazy one in this mess? Hamilton gives a compelling performance, as does veteran actor Ed Asner in a brief role as Jacob’s psychiatrist. The movie, however, belongs to Edwards, who shows off great range and charisma with some very difficult material. Handsome, magnetic and radiating an impish sexiness, he shows real potential as a leading man. That’s he’s also queer in real life is just an added bonus here.

M.O.M. doesn’t rely on heavy gore or jump scares for its thrills. Rather, it allows its leading performers to show off their skills, and lets its characters get under the skin of viewers. Modest, sneaky and very tense, it will leave you panting…one way or another

Streams on Amazon & iTunes.

I though the rest of you might find this video interesting too…for ya know. Plane-related reasons. No other reason. : actuallesbians

I though the rest of you might find this video

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Find Yourself In The Black Femme Supremacy Film Festival

Find Yourself In The Black Femme Supremacy Film Festival

I love film, it’s one of the main pop culture mediums where I have searched to find myself the most. If it wasn’t the romantic comedies, with the same white leading ladies falling in love in two weeks, it was the teen comedies where the racially ambiguous best friend made everyone laugh while eating pizza in the food court. When I was younger, and even admittedly sometimes now, I excused the lack of representation on the screen. I opted for piecing together bits of each character in a film to connect with some frankensteined version of myself but — how fly would it be to not have to do that?

Last weekend I got the opportunity to attend the Black Femme Supremacy Film Fest and got to spend the entire time looking at fully realized, multiple versions of myself on my television. Founded by Nia Hampton and put on with the help of the rest of her crew, this year marks the 3rd annual festival, sponsored by Ava Duvernays’ ARRAY, amongst others, and it’s the first digital version of the festival.

The programmers have decided to extend it to this weekend (A perk of the forced digital format!) through September 11 – 13. It gives those who missed out the chance to join in, and those who were there the opportunity to kick back and rewatch their favorites!

Going digital didn’t mean there would be a lack of programming either, there were panels, live Q&As’ with directors, and free events to teach those who are ready to jump into the world of film that were led by black femmes.

There were over 40 films to watch and it’s incredible to see the talent, ingenuity, and skill bought to the screen by so many black femmes. These are just a few of my favorites. Free of spoilers but full of hype.


Naufraga

Directed by Juh Almeida, this short was part of the Defining Black block during the festival. The opening sounds of the waves crashing against the body of the films’ protagonist filled my speakers. The camera’s super intimate focus on their white headwrap and closeups on their features, while a voice is heard over the waves, all made up it one of the strongest pieces of the festival.

Sasha & Condi

Also a part of the Defining Black block of shorts, this film blends Black kitsch and mockumentary — two things I love and have been desperate to see more of from Black women in film. Directed by Lucretia Stinnette, it features two friends who look back on their youth of being Black women raised in their mostly white suburban town, Pleasanton, in the 1990s, complete with cute soundtrack vibes and animation.

Wash Day

My favorite film in the Legacy of Beauty shorts block, focuses on three Black women and their hair, a topic I have written about here on Autostraddle in the past. I frequently feel that non-Black people, especially those who are white, feel like we’ve talked enough about the relationship that Black women have with their hair. This film, directed by Kourtney Jackson, serves as a reminder that it goes quite deep and inspires Black women to hold space for each other on a topic that is close to so many of us.

Tender

I was thrilled to see this short (that is being turned into a feature film), as part of the Legacy of the WAP block at the festival. I saw Tender, written and directed by Felicia Pride, a few months back, and loved every minute of it. It’s a look at the morning after, one not filled with regret and a quick escape but instead, one that becomes infinitely more intimate than the physical aspect of the night before. The way these two Black, queer women who are at different places in so many areas of their lives, connect despite that — is enchanting.

and lastly my pick of the festival….

Herald of Blue

I was most excited about the Legacy of Black Magic short block — I have newly been connecting with my family and discovering the magical ancestry of the lineage I come from. There is an entire history to one side of my family that has remained a mystery to me for years that has begun to unveil itself. Things that I have been drawn to make more sense and beliefs I’ve always had have become deeper. I lost my grandfather when I was young, he was the person in my family who I have always been the closest to and I was never given the chance for a proper goodbye. In this film, directed and animated by Jacqueline CJ Barnes, a girl is dealing with the death of her beloved grandfather and has to decide to either forget him or break the family way and remember him.


The Black Femme Supremacy Film Fest being online his year not only permits people to stay safe, but opens up the festivals’ films, documentaries, shorts and more, to be viewed by people all across the world. It may not have been ideal but it helps to push forward one of the festivals missions to “..re-envision the black femme as a global protagonist and universal archetype”.