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Taylor Swift celebrates gay superfan in heartwarming, handwritten letter

Taylor Swift

A gay Taylor Swift fan was blown away when he received a handwritten letter from the singer-songwriter praising him for “choosing to live and love honestly even when it isn’t easy”.

Swift, who recently released her eighth studio album folklore, wrote a heartfelt letter to Andrew Mooney, who is currently finishing up his PhD at Trinity College Dublin.

The letter, dated 23 August, begins: “Andy, someone told me you’re about to finish your PhD! I wanted to congratulate you on this incredible accomplishment and to applaud you for all the hard work you’ve put into your studies.

Swift continued: “This is EPIC!! I saw how supportive you’ve been of my music over the years and was so touched.

“Thank you so much. I’m also so proud of you for the bravery you’ve shown in your personal life, choosing to live and love honestly even when it isn’t easy.

“I hope you’re doing well in and amongst the chaos we’re all living through right now,” Swift added.

“In these times, I think it’s important to revel in the great moments when we can, and this is a moment worth celebrating!”

Gay Taylor Swift fan was overwhelmed by her heartfelt handwritten letter.

Mooney shared a photo of the letter on Twitter along with an envelope addressed to “Dr Andy Mooney” to celebrate the completion of his PhD.

“Thank you Taylor Swift for taking the time to write me such a beautiful message,” Mooney wrote.

I’m also so proud of you for the bravery you’ve shown in your personal life, choosing to live and love honestly even when it isn’t easy.

“You have been an inspiration to me for so many years and I can’t put into words how much this means to me. You have changed my life.”

Mooney’s tweet has been liked more than 20,000 times, with Swift fans reacting with unbridled joy to the letter.

Swift is widely loved by the LGBT+ community for her tireless support of queer rights.

The folklore singer is a tireless advocate for LGBT+ rights.

In June, she blasted the US Census for only having two gender options – male or female – and said the decision contributed to the “erasure of transgender and non-binary people”.

In 2019, she released “You Need to Calm Down”, an anti-homophobia queer anthem, alongside a star-studded queer music video.

She previously revealed that she realised she needed to be more vocal about her support for LGBT+ rights after Todrick Hall asked her a “devastating” question.

“Maybe a year or two ago, Todrick and I are in the car, and he asked me, ‘What would you do if your son was gay?’

“The fact that he had to ask me…shocked me and made me realise that I had not made my position clear enough or loud enough.

“If my son was gay, he’d be gay. I don’t understand the question.”

She added: “If he was thinking that, I can’t imagine what my fans in the LGBT+ community might be thinking.

“It was kind of devastating to realise that I hadn’t been publicly clear about that.”

 

Dad who rejected gay son wants to make things right

Coming out dad gay son

A dad who reacted badly when his son came out as gay now wishes he could “turn the clock back” and make things right – but it might already be too late.

The father wrote to The Sun’s advice columnist Deidre Sanders about his harsh reaction when his son first came out as gay.

“I reacted badly when my son first told me he’s gay.

“I am his dad and I wish I could turn the clock back but a recent angry outburst showed that he has never forgiven me.

“Now I am 60 and he is 36. He had a breakdown when he was 22 and just out of university.”

The dad explained that his son had been in a same-sex relationship that “ended badly” and he was “left feeling distraught”.

“I reacted very negatively to him being gay and now realise I didn’t give him my full support.”

He also admitted to making “racist remarks” about his son’s partner, claiming he was “fearful of the reaction of others”.

I reacted very negatively to him being gay and now realise I didn’t give him my full support.

His son’s anger has been “close to the surface” for years, and the pair were estranged for some time.

Now, the father wishes he could change the way he reacted to his son’s coming out.

He is worried his cruel reaction to his son’s coming out has left a ‘scar’.

“He is happy with a partner now but it has left a scar on him. I’ve said I am sorry but it sounds so meaningless.”

In her response, advice columnist Deidre Sanders told the man that children crave “unconditional love” from their parents – and noted that this is why his son feels so hurt.

“If your attitudes and prejudices really have changed, apologising to your son now will sound authentic,” she wrote.

Sanders concluded by telling the man to write his son a letter where he can carefully word an apology that comes from the heart.

 

Pikes Peak Paradise B&B – Gay Owned Bed & Breakfast in Woodland Park, Colorado

Pikes Peak Paradise B&B - Gay Owned Bed & Breakfast in Woodland Park, Colorado

Pikes Peak Paradise B&B - Gay Owned Bed & Breakfast in Woodland Park, Colorado

Welcome to Pikes Peak Paradise, a central Colorado B&B with fantastic panoramic views of Pikes Peak and a million acres of Pikes National Forest. We offer the best views in the Pikes Peak area, on over four wooded acres of our own.

Ron and Michael have renovated our Pikes Peak boutique B&B with imported euro-modern furnishings, and their own beautiful collection of fine art. The property offers five updated guest suites with luxurious 1000-1200 thread-count linens, plush down pillows and comforters, duvet covers, Egyptian cotton towels, and Soybu Robes.

In addition to our great gourmet breakfasts, we also provide snacks and soft drinks all day long, dessert in the evening, and a four hour complimentary happy hour with beer and wine!

Our Pikes Peak B&B is just forty minutes drive from Colorado Springs Airport, and a two hour drive from Denver International.

Pikes Peak Paradise is also the perfect place to get married, with Pikes Peak and the national forest as your backdrop. Our Pike’s Peak wedding venue can hold up to fifty people for your wedding day, and we are happy to help you customize your day to fit in your budget and your needs. Please call or email us for our Guest Guide, as well as more details and photos of the venue. Our facility charge includes table and chair set-up, table linens, and napkins, and dinner settings.

See the Pikes Peak Paradise B&B Expanded Listing on Purple Roofs Here

South Central Colorado Gay Friendly Bed and Breakfasts, Hotels, and Vacation Rentals

Black Walnut Point Inn – Gay Owned Bed & Breakfast in Tilghman, Maryland

Black Walnut Point Inn - Gay Owned Bed & Breakfast in Tilghman, Maryland

Black Walnut Point Inn - Gay Owned Bed & Breakfast in Tilghman, Maryland

PRIVATE RETREAT ON TILGHMAN ISLAND

By any measure, Black Walnut Point on Maryland’s Tilghman Island is unique. A private gate and a half-mile drive through fifty seven acres of bird sanctuary leads you to a natural paradise and our six-acre island of lawn.

As the sun rises over the Choptank River and sets over the length of Chesapeake Bay, you’ll enjoy sea breezes, ocean waves and endless gorgeous water views.

Our property is chock-full of wildlife – a pair of nesting eagles, osprey and black ducks, migrating butterflies, water fowl and singing birds. You may even see dolphins, skates and schools of bluefish out on the bay. And the back dock, looking out over the cove, is the perfect place to watch the herons fish.

At night, our Maryland sky is full of stars, another surprise of nature, making Black Walnut Point a quiet, secret, peaceful place just an hour by car from the Chesapeake Bay Bridge.

See the Blak Walnut Point Inn Expanded Listing on Purple Roofs Here

Maryland Gay Friendly Bed and Breakfasts, Hotels, and Vacation Rentals

Gay Fire Island Pines, New York – wolfyy

gay fire island pines

gay fire island pines

Fire Island Pines is the gay playground of local New Yorkers. In recent years this small gay community has become a destination even international travelers are adding to their lists. The Pines and Cherry Grove are two neighboring hamlets which comprise the gay area of Fire Island. Popular for an enchanting village feel, expansive beaches and wild nightlife, you can always count on a fantastic getaway here.

A historic gay community, Fire Island Pines is known as one of America’s first gay neighborhoods. It was traditionally an enclave where the LGBT community could express themselves freely, away from mainstream NYC. Gay life certainly continues to thrive here today. Each summer weekend, droves of jubilant gay men arrive by ferry, excited to socialize, enjoy the beach and party all night.

Fire Island Pines and Cherry Grove are so popular, that these remote towns even have their own gay clubs (yes, one each)! Glorious underwear parties and poolside gatherings are regular events in The Pines. Before the nightlife begins though, everyone gathers for drinks in the center of town at Low Tea.

Fire Island Pines rentals

Finding Fire Island Pines Rentals

Here in The Pines, quaint boardwalks connect large, beautifully designed summer homes. Many of these houses are enormous, easily containing 7-10 bedrooms. Additionally, Fire Island’s enormous popularity means booking a place to stay can be a little pricy. There’s a ton of demand and a fixed number of homes, so the sooner you can book something, the better price you’ll get.

Lastly, renting a place to stay in The Pines or Cherry Grove is done in an unconventional way since different groups of vacationers often share houses. There are special ways to find individual rooms or floors of a house, too. Not to worry, I can show you exactly how to go about it!

By Louis Lafata – Full Fire Island Travel Guide on wolfyy

Gay Pines Resources

Madrid Gay Bars – The Globetrotter Guys

Madrid Gay Bars - The Globetrotter Guys

Madrid Gay Bars - The Globetrotter Guys

The main gay area in Madrid is called Chueca and is named after Federico Chueca who could be considered Madrids first gay icon. The area spans about 1km north of Gran Via (one of the main streets) and east to west between Calle Hortaleza and Paseo de Recoletos. The main bulk of gay bars in Chueca are found within ten minutes walking distance of Plaza De Chueca – where the metro station is found. 

Chueca is walkable from the ‘city centre’ (Plaza Del Sol) or just a couple of metro stops.

It is obvious you have arrived in the gay district given that the walls of the metro station in Chueca are painted floor to ceiling in rainbows!

However, it’s not all about Chueca as you will find gay bars scattered all across the city as far as Lavapies. Equally, when it comes to large gay events and parties in Madrid, the venues are sometimes scattered around but easily accessible.

What Are Madrid Gay Bars Like?

If you have travelled to Spain before you will know they do things differently here. Whereas your night might start at 10/11pm in the UK or US, the main gay bars and clubs in Madrid are just opening their doors at 1/2am, getting busy at 3am and continuing until 6/7am in the morning.

Full Story at The Globetrotter Guys

Madrid Gay Travel Resources

It’s Time for the 2nd Annual “It’s Great to Be Gay” Day

It's Time for the 2nd Annual "It’s Great to Be


A pinwheel collage with "It's Great to be Gay Day" written in multicolored letters against a black background in the middle. In the pinwheel are various lesbian, bisexual, and queer writers from Autostraddle. Each of their photos has been colorized to reflect a different color of a neon rainbow.

Hi there!  Welcome to the second annual IT’S GREAT TO BE GAY DAY, an international holiday we here at Autostraddle invented three years ago, just because… well, because we can. And also because EVERY SINGLE EFFING DAY!! is A GREAT DAY TO BE GAY!

So a few things about this very silly and made-up holiday that we delight in with the utmost seriousness! A lot of LGBT holidays are about raising awareness regarding the various struggles we face and overcome, but this one (!!!)  is about quite simply about making ourselves feel good about ourselves despite aforementioned struggles. Today we celebrate all the reasons it legitimately kicks ass to be gay, lesbian, queer, bisexual, non-binary, trans, any part of out LGBTQ+ family. That’s it! Happiness! Those are the rules!

The first annual It’s Great To Be Gay Day was actually held in November, and now we are holding it in August because dates are fake and straight, but we are very real and very queer. Also we are celebrating today specifically because… drumroll please!!!… YOU HELPED US MAKE OUR $118K FUNDRAISER GOAL!! AND YOU HELPED US MAKE IT A FULL FIVE DAYS AHEAD OF SCHEDULE!!!!

We are still not over it!! We may never be over it!!! We love you all so much, and on behalf of our entire team, thank you for loving on us in return. It’s such a special gift.

Speaking of gifts, we’re gonna kick off today’s celebration by telling you why we think it’s GREAT to be whatever we are. Lesbian! Bisexual! Queer! Trans! Non-binary! The gang’s all here. And we are so glad to have you with us. ❤️

Take over the comment thread and tell us why you think it is GREAT TO BE GAY (tell us about however you identify, of course, we just liked the rhyming! Thanks again, we love you!)


A blue photo of Malic with the quote: "I get to blame every single one of my quirks on being queer, and straight people have to respect them or else they’ll look homophobic"

I’m an Olde Gaye — I started coming out when I was 13, and I’ve been some flavor of queer ever since.

In my sublime queer life, I get to date people who smell nice. I get to sidestep the heteronormative pressures of marriage, family and property ownership. I get to wear comfortable shoes for every occasion and grow gloriously long armpit hair without consequence. I get to blame every single one of my quirks on being queer, and straight people have to respect them or else they’ll look homophobic. I get to say things like, “Jessica has such Taurus top energy” and the people around me know exactly what I mean. I get tits on tits and Bound and weird haircuts. I couldn’t live any other way.


An orange photo of Kayla with the quote: " I think I say “I’m gay” at minimum once a day now, and fuck it, because for so long I never dared speak those words, so now I can say them on a loop for however long I want because those are the rules"

I love being a lesbian and a dyke, and I love the way both words feel in my mouth, and I love my girlfriend’s mouth on my mouth and her spit in my mouth. I LOVE GAY SEX. I love gay books and gay art and gay food (oysters). I think I say “I’m gay” at minimum once a day now, and fuck it, because for so long I never dared speak those words, so now I can say them on a loop for however long I want because those are the rules! I also love being constantly surrounded by queer friends, mentors, chosen family. I have a close group of friends who I’ve known for nearly a decade, and we all met on tumblr dot com before any of us knew we were queer and then one by one all came out like a gay ass set of dominoes toppling each other. We somehow magically found each other before we even knew ourselves. QUEER MAGIC.


A yellow photo of Dani with the quote: " I love love love lesbian poets and poetry and getting to experience the way women write about loving each other, its so liberating and breathtaking. "

I love being a lesbian so much, its all I ever want to talk about and think about. Being a dyke is such a huge part of my life. Having come out when I was a scared little twelve year old, I’ve learned so much about family and what it means to build one from the ground up, one that is accepting and loving and sees my full self. I love that there is so much that lesbians are open to that the straights would find taboo or gross. I think about how often cis men complain about periods and body hair and I’m so happy I don’t have to listen to that bullshit ever. I love being in the company of women, but especially other lesbians and queer women. I love talking about sex and thinking about it and HAVING GAY SEX and getting to kiss a woman everywhere omg. I love love love lesbian poets and poetry and getting to experience the way women write about loving each other, its so liberating and breathtaking. I could go on and on but I’ll end with this: being a woman that loves other women has helped me deepen and strengthen my relationships with women, romantic or platonic, in ways I don’t think I could if I were… straight. I prioritize my love for women above others and it feels so fucking good.


A blue-green portrait of Abeni with the quote: "I feel like transitioning is one of the most radical things that anyone can do and it really opens up our ideas of the boundaries of human existence, like – if I can do this, I can do anything, you know?"

One of my favorite comic people, Carta Monir, often says “being trans is a gift.” I can’t really articulate how much my understanding of the world has been opened by discovering that I’m trans.

Existing as a trans woman of color in America, in the world, actually almost killed me, but surviving that has also added another, just, beautifully nuanced and complex and difficult and dynamic layer to existence that I can’t imagine living without. I have a rare and significant understanding of gender, of sexuality, of politics, of relationship — it’s all colored by my experience of being queer, of being trans.

I feel like transitioning is one of the most radical things that anyone can do and it really opens up our ideas of the boundaries of human existence, like — if I can do this, I can do anything, you know? Human beings are such boundless creatures, just so adaptable, changeable, transformational. It really makes me feel like anything is possible, and that’s a pretty powerful feeling.


A purple photo of Shelli with the quote: "It's so dope that I get to kiss all up on people’s daughters."

It’s so dope that I get to kiss all up on people’s daughters. There are deeper things that I could say but that’s my favorite part. Also — HeteroVille is the most ghetto place on Earth, I only spent a short time there but I want my money back.


A blue portrait of KaeLyn with the quote " From chaotic bi teen to militantly queer college dyke to hard femme mommi to actual queer mama to realizing I can hold all of those forms of myself in my heart simultaneously, every version of me has been deeply queer."

I’m so glad to be a big ol’ queer. Being queer means never being stuck in someone else’s boring narrative. I’ve gone into chrysalis and emerged some shiny new form of myself many times and I know I have many more metamorphosis to look forward to. From chaotic bi teen to militantly queer college dyke to hard femme mommi to actual queer mama to realizing I can hold all of those forms of myself in my heart simultaneously, every version of me has been deeply queer. Every decision I make is made with intentionality because being queer means being written out of the dominant narrative. And that means getting the write your own story, evolving your own way, setting your own ideas about success and beauty, and that’s a beautiful fucking thing.

I never saw myself falling into the house-plus-spouse with a child-on-the-way story. In first grade, I consistently volunteered to play the family dog when we played house. I didn’t dream about weddings or husbands. I convinced my college boyfriend that marriage was a tool of the patriarchy. Up until the moment I decided I wanted to, I was firm in my conviction that I wouldn’t be a parent. But making a queer life with my queer spouse in our queer house with this incredible kid who I carried inside my queer body… nothing about that is boring. I am constantly wonderstruck by the beauty and resiliency of my queerness and the way that being queer invites happiness and perpetual evolution into my life.


I love being gay. I love being trans. I love waking up each morning and deciding whether I want to be a dyke or a faggot and usually choosing both. I love meeting other queer and trans people. I love the immediate connection that’s formed even if I decide that specific person sucks. I love all the times they don’t suck. I love my queer and trans friends. I love my queer and trans friends who met me when they didn’t know they were queer or trans and I love my queer and trans friends who knew exactly who they were. I love my queer and trans friends who thought they knew who they were but now are realizing maybe there’s more, or less, or other. I love how we get to do that — constantly reexamine and reconfigure and redeclare our selves to ourselves and to each other.

I love making straight people uncomfortable by just existing. I love that even when they hurt me I always know that my relationship to myself and my community has expanded my experience of the world in ways they’ll never even begin to understand. I love mocking them and knowing it’s not really about them, but simply the glee I feel in spending so many years trying to be them and thinking I was broken and realizing I’m not. I love knowing I’m actually this other thing with all these other people and my brain isn’t damaged, I’m just gay. I love not being normal.

I love gay movies. I love gay movies about old lesbians and I love gay movies about confused teens. I love seeing our stories on screen and knowing it’s an extension of the internal questioning that makes us queer. I love how many stories there are to tell on screen and off. I love how different we all are from each other. I love those of us who center that difference and embrace it. I love knowing that who you are doesn’t have to be who I am and who I am doesn’t have to be who you are but if we’re both queer what a fucking gift. What a fucking gift that we get to be queer. God I fucking love that.


A green photo of Heather with the quote: I love my wife. I love that I get to spend every day and every night with my best friend, forever! That was the whole entire dream of my youth; I just didn't understand why!

I can’t believe I spent so much of my life being scared to say “I’m gay” out loud, to utter the word “lesbian,” or even think about the word “dyke.” I love the word “dyke” now; I just absolutely love it. When I say it or hear another dyke say it, it’s that satisfying feeling of swinging down a hammer and hitting a nail just right. The ringing thud that just drives the point deeper. I love queer women. I love the intimate friendships we have with each other, I love the connections we have based on shared experiences that we unearth when we stay up talking all night on the day we meet, I love that we always skip the small talk, I love our pop culture and literary frames of reference, I love our hard conversations about the things that make us better people, and I love our Dungeons & Dragons games. (My D&D game is not all women, and I love my queer, nonbinary friends with such fervor too.) I love my wife. I love that I get to spend every day and every night with my best friend, forever! That was the whole entire dream of my youth; I just didn’t understand why! I love that my sex and my politics excludes the pleasure or needs of men completely. Being a lesbian is my favorite thing about myself and every day when I wake up, I’m grateful that’s who I am. It is such a lucky thing to be gay.


A blue-green portrait of Meg with the quote: " I breathe easier with my people around; get to be the fullest, most powerful, most magical version of myself without restraint or shame or apology. Being queer is such a gift, and it’s one I’m grateful for every single day. "

I feel like I spent so much of my life fighting against my bisexual and queer identity, believing that it wasn’t something that I was allowed to own, let alone celebrate — so having it now be such a powerful part of who I am, letting it shape my communities and friendships and work and play, feels like an actual miracle. I love being around my queer family, love the ways that we support and uplift each other, the ways that we call each other out and push each other to grow. I breathe easier with my people around; get to be the fullest, most powerful, most magical version of myself without restraint or shame or apology. Being queer is such a gift, and it’s one I’m grateful for every single day.


An orange portrait of Adrian with the quote: "I love being queer and bisexual and genderqueer and non-binary and trans. I ache with care and nostalgia and tenderness when I think about the journeys I have taken to each word."

I love being queer and bisexual and genderqueer and non-binary and trans. I ache with care and nostalgia and tenderness when I think about the journeys I have taken to each word. These identities evolve and flex with me, and who knows where they will take me in the future. Our elders forged these words, these understandings, these communities, and these ways out of suffocating heteronormativity and into embodiment and liberation. Friends, partners, and storytellers gave me permission to become a whole person, even when it felt like a lexical disaster. I am grateful every day to all of them.

The last It’s Great To Be Gay day in 2017, I had a different name and hadn’t yet embraced my transness. I had boobs, if you can fucking believe that! I used to worry that I wasn’t valid because of, idk, some TERF shit I saw on Twitter. I used to compartmentalize myself in search of legibility, acceptance and safety. I thought it was too many words. I internalized the fear that I was too much. Being in queer community helped me trust that my too-muchness is radical and good. I love you <3


A yellow portrait of Rachel with the quote: "I feel so lucky that however I feel hottest or most powerful or most myself, it's always brought me closer to queer community and made my relationships stronger. "

Sometimes I lose sight of how much of my life and personality are shaped by queerness, because I’m blessed enough to be surrounded by queer and trans folks in my personal life, my work life, my home, even my family. There are still plenty of reminders, though, of how deeply and inextricably my relationship to the world around me is linked to being gay, and every time they happen I’m so fucking relieved to be here. I’m so glad I don’t view other women as competition or threats and am excited to learn from and be in community with them; I’m so happy I get to view my relationships with friends, chosen family, exes, people who move between those statuses, and more as at least as important as my romantic relationships or bio family; I’m so happy I get to think of having a longterm partnership or marriage or kids as one of many potential options and not the only worthwhile thing I can do with my life! I feel so lucky that however I feel hottest or most powerful or most myself, it’s always brought me closer to queer community and made my relationships stronger. It’s fucking great how whenever I forget a hair tie during sex, my date usually has one! I love how even when our community doesn’t 110% love or even really like each other, we still try to show up for each other, because we’re what we’ve got. To be honest we’re queer and trans folks are always the smartest, funniest, realest people in the room, and even (especially!) the difficult and challenging parts of being in this community have given me so much more than I could ever put into words, and more important, have turned me into someone who wants to try to keep giving that back always.


A blue-green portrait of Carolyn with the quote: "I love queer relationships, and the ways that we are constantly creating new ways to relate to each other and new ideas of what “family” means. "

Being queer and hard femme and non-binary has given me a language to love myself and others that I never would have found otherwise. I love queer people. I love queer sex. I love queer relationships, and the ways that we are constantly creating new ways to relate to each other and new ideas of what “family” means. I love that I can approach everything in my life in a way that is distinctly queer and embodied and full of boundless possibility.


A blue green portrait of Kamala with the quote: "we really only know how to be SOOOOO ourselves for every occasion, and that makes us so fucking hot."

Being gay is the best, it just is. As I get older I have more appreciation for the parts of queer community that are sometimes considered cliche — that we can name exactly how we want to be loved and have sex, and our people will do it; that there is room for our identites to change and grow into infinity; that we really only know how to be SOOOOO ourselves for every occasion, and that makes us so fucking hot.

I also love being an angry dyke. I love rolling my eyes during bad readings by self-important white writers. I love making amab men uncomfortable by staring into their faces and not laughing at their bad jokes. I love being exasperated by the line at the grocery store and having another exasperated angry dyke open a check-stand for me. I love walking hard down the street with my hair looking sharp, and when someone with a clipboard wants to know if I have time to stop and talk about buying a cow for a family, I can just look at them, and they stop talking and we don’t even have to exchange words.


A blue portrait of Valerie Anne with the quote: "My timeline of coming out as gay and coming into my own queerness is so intrinsically aligned with coming out as a nerd and saying goodbye to the term "guilty pleasure" and loving the things I love with my whole heart."

Gosh, being queer is just the best. My timeline of coming out as gay and coming into my own queerness is so intrinsically aligned with coming out as a nerd and saying goodbye to the term “guilty pleasure” and loving the things I love with my whole heart. Maybe it WAS linked. Maybe I was hiding the nerdiest parts of me because I was afraid if people saw that part of me they’d see the gay parts too, but either way, as I shed those insecurities about being passionate, about being ME, I finally got out of my own way and was able to learn who I really was and embrace the things that bring me joy. And then I finally, finally, found friends that love the same things I do, the same way I do. I also like to see it as like a built-in people filter. Assholes and fake allies reveal themselves real quick when you’re talking about being queer all the time, which I am, or talk about your favorite shows/D&D non-stop, which I do. Not all my closest friends are queer, but all my closest friends are in my life because I am. Because I’m living my loudest, proudest, gayest, nerdiest life and refusing to apologize for it.


A blue portrait of Carly with the quote: "I love that some days I feel like a dyke and others I feel like a fag and then there are days that I feel like a little robot."

I love being queer. I love being non-binary, to be everything and nothing at the same time. I love that some days I feel like a dyke and others I feel like a fag and then there are days that I feel like a little robot. I love how expansive the word “queer” feels. I love that I’ve been surprised by my own identity over the years and how it’s changed and evolved. I love that I’m in my late 30s and I’m still learning new things about myself and I hope that process of discovery never ends. I love queer people and queer community and all the intersections therein. I love how complicated and confusing and messy it can all be. We are magic and infinite and I would honestly be really bummed to be anyone other than exactly who I am.


A light pink photo of Laneia kissing a queer human with the quote: "It's the sex for me."

It’s the sex for me.


A hot magenta photo of Sarah with the quote: "I am always going to be surrounded by the most interesting, vibrant and amazing people throughout my whole life, and there’s something so comforting about knowing that."

Being a lesbian means never having to truly be a part of hetero culture. I am always going to be surrounded by the most interesting, vibrant and amazing people throughout my whole life, and there’s something so comforting about knowing that. Also Laneia’s right — it’s the sex.


A green portrait of Riese with the quote: "It's unsurprising that it's queer women and trans folks at the forefront of so many of our most important civil rights movements, demanding accountability, pushing for change, putting in your time and adding your voice."

Gay people are just very much the most empathetic, community-minded, generous weirdos I have ever had the pleasure of sharing large crowded spaces and virtual hubs with. It’s unsurprising that it’s queer women and trans folks at the forefront of so many of our most important civil rights movements, demanding accountability, pushing for change, putting in your time and adding your voice. You make personal sacrifices for the greater good like it’s NBD, like straight people are in line at Mendocino Farms for a Sophisticated Chicken and Prosciutto Salad and you’re selling kd lang and en vogue cassettes from the ’90s for 33 cents each on your lawn to make a $10 donation to your local mutual aid fund. We are also very self-deprecating. Another nice thing about being gay is that you’re legally allowed to continue wearing sneakers with formal pants, hoodies as coats and/or dressing like a teenage boy well into your twilight years. Also a lot of us (not me) are very handy around the house.


An organe portrait of Carmen with the quote: "I’m more comfortable in my skin now as a queer woman than I ever did when I was pretending to be straight. And thank goodness! It turned out that everything that I thought was wrong with me was actually so right."

The thing about being queer, which no one told me before, is that it is absolutely magic. It’s the rabbit hole in Alice in Wonderland. It’s Willy Wonka’s Chocolate Factory and we all have the golden ticket. I remember once being so scared to come out — I never knew that it would allow me to come into myself. I’m more comfortable in my skin now as a queer woman than I ever did when I was pretending to be straight. And thank goodness! It turned out that everything that I thought was wrong with me was actually so right. Usually when people ask me, I say I love being queer because “queerness is freedom” but more than that — it’s a RELIEF. It’s a breath of fresh air. It’s going home. Because it is being at home in yourself.


A yellow photo of Nicole with the quote: "I’m overwhelmed that I can be a part of a community that isn’t afraid to ask questions, to dismantle structures that are harming us, to dream of better and fundamentally different futures — and then who go out and FUCKING make it happen"

I’ve always said that I’ve been grateful to be queer — and this is predicated on me realizing my gayness when I was eleven or twelve — because the environment around me at the time was all very fire and brimstone when it came to being in any way not straight. And knowing, without a doubt, that I was queer in that world where it was not acceptable to be the way I was (before I was even old enough to even consider dating anyone meaningfully) was important to my development as a critical human. By questioning one thing, “Am I really going to Hell for all these witchcraft and homosexuality things?” — I was suddenly invited to question EVERYTHING. And that questioning has led me on such an incredible journey. When I think about queerness and how I am also queer, I’m overwhelmed that I can be a part of a community that isn’t afraid to ask questions, to dismantle structures that are harming us, to dream of better and fundamentally different futures — and then who go out and FUCKING make it happen. Also I get to love astrology with abandon and look at that paragraph and be like: all this makes sense as an aqua/sag/sag. There is really very little water in my chart.

I love queer sex and I love gay love and gay not-love because-fuck-you-it’s-not-all “love is love.” I love queer friendship and the way gay people lift each other up and more often genuinely want the best for each other. I love my weird, queer home with my partner where we’re at once infinitely young and ridiculous — and at the same time “two old biddies” according to my mom. When I open my eyes in the morning and Sadie’s there and then I go water the vegetables and herbs and watch our sweet aged dog get up to mischief and I brew coffee and make toast and bring her breakfast on a tray because that’s our routine every morning — breakfast in bed together before I start work — it’s really great to be gay.


A green portrait of Christina with the quote: "Queerness is big enough to hold every facet of my personality: cynical and loyal and funny, often kind of faggy and always blasting a Broadway Cast Recording"

Here is the thing about being gay: it slaps. I didn’t come out until I was twenty six, and while it wasn’t like my life before was particularly bad, it was kind of dull. Now? Well, look, sometimes I am still a cranky bitch, but baby, that’s just the kind of gay I am! Queerness is big enough to hold every facet of my personality: cynical and loyal and funny, often kind of faggy and always blasting a Broadway Cast Recording. You know what also slaps? The sex. Sometimes literally!!!! [crowd boos] I am right and I am brave to say it!


A light pink portrait of Vanessa with the quote: " I love knowing there are a million and seven ways to live a big gay life and all of them rule."

Here are just a few things I love about being gay, in no particular order: I love sweaty gay dance parties, I love making out with my gay friends, I love being a dyke writer and reading other dyke writers, I love knowing there are a million and seven ways to live a big gay life and all of them rule, I love queer community, I love our gay history, I love our gay elders, I love the gay youth, I love being a fat dyke with body hair, I love gay astrology, I love gay memes, I love gay art, I love gay competence, I love gay brilliance, I love gay sex.

Being gay — being queer — being a dyke — is the best thing that ever happened to me. What more is there to say?


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What’s it like to be a gay adult film star mid-Covid? Jimmy Fowlie digs deep. / Queerty

What’s it like to be a gay adult film star

Nikki Spitz spent years priding himself on being the nastiest one in the room. Then Covid hit.

The adult industry, like so many other industries, was suddenly turned upside-down and lockdown made Spitz realize it’s pretty difficult to humiliate yourself on camera. Go on, try it; we’ll wait.

Related: WATCH: Find love in quarantine with Christine (and Jimmy Fowlie)

So Spitz, the latest sketch creation from comedian/writer Jimmy Fowlie, had to make some life changes.

Watch below, and bonus points to Fowlie for managing to squeeze in legitimately useful pandemic info:

Gay lawmaker turned away from blood donation centre

Shevrin Jones Florida blood donation

A gay lawmaker and coronavirus survivor tried to donate plasma to help others – but he was turned away because of his sexuality.

Shevrin Jones, a Democratic member of the Florida House of Representatives, went to a blood drive on August 7 with his mother Bloneva Jones and his father Eric Jones.

The three decided to donate blood because they had recently recovered from COVID-19 and wanted to help others by donating their antibody-rich blood.

Writing on Twitter, Jones said: “I was blessed to get through COVID, and it’s only right that we bless someone else and give them a fighting chance to live also.

“It’s the right thing to do.”

Florida lawmaker Shevrin Jones was told he can’t donate blood because of his sexual orientation.

But Jones’ dreams were quickly shattered when he was turned away by OneBlood because of a government policy that requires queer men to practice celibacy for three months before donating blood.

After he was turned away, Shevrin wrote on Twitter that he was “disappointed” he could not donate blood because of his sexual orientation.

“I was ‘deferred’ for another time. The good news is, my mom, dad, brother and over 20 other people saved a life today!”

He added: “Too bad my blood plasma isn’t good enough.”

To make matters worse, the incident was later turned into a campaign tactic in an anonymous homophobic text campaign.

I was ‘deferred’ for another time. The good news is, my mom, dad, brother and over 20 other people saved a life today!

Jones, who is currently running to become Florida’s first Black gay senator, was shocked to discover that texts were sent out to voters in Senate District 35 last week saying he had been discriminated against for “homosexual contact”.

The text linked to a website set up where an article about his blood donation ban was copied word-for-word.

“It’s a shame that my opponents have stooped to this new low to try and win,” Jones told the Miami Herald

“Rather than running off the issues that matter to the voters of our community, they have chosen to lob desperate attacks based on antiquated, discriminatory FDA policy… Hate never wins.”

Experts have urged the United States to overturn its ‘scientifically outdated’ blood donation ban.

Gay and bisexual men have been banned from donating blood in the United States since the 1980s, when the AIDS epidemic was at its height.

The original ban prevented any man who had ever had sex with another man from donating blood for life – but it has been relaxed considerably since then.

Earlier this year, the food and drug administration (FDA) reduced the deferral period – meaning the amount of time a man must remain celibate before donating blood – from 12 months to three months.

But experts warn that it still does not go far enough. 

In April, more than 500 doctors and experts in the United States wrote to the FDA urging them to overturn the “scientifically outdated ban”.

“While the FDA’s recent decision to shorten the prohibition window to three months is a step in the right direction, it does not go far enough in reversing the unscientific ban,” the letter said.

Antigua Capilla B&B – Gay Friendly Bed & Breakfast in San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, Mexico

Antigua Capilla B&B - Gay Friendly Bed & Breakfast in San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, Mexico

Antigua Capilla B&B - Gay Friendly Bed & Breakfast in San Miguel de Allende, Guanajuato, Mexico

SUPERB HOSPITALITY, COMFORT, ELEGANCE

Welcome to San Miguel de Allende’s Antigua Capilla Bed and Breakfast, where we provide world-class hospitality, comfort and luxurious relaxation.

At Antigua Capilla B&B, we have fantastic views of the Parroquia and the city center from our outdoor living area and rooftop terrace. Our centrally located San Miguel B&B is just five minutes from the popular local Mexican artisan’s market on foot, and a ten- to fifteen-minute walk downhill will being you to the central Jardin in the historic San Miguel town square.

Your hosts Antonieta and Francisco welcome you to their beautifully furnished San Miguel de Allende Bed & Breakfast. Each of our ten unique guest rooms is decorated with handicrafts from all over Mexico, including copper from Santa Clara del Cobre in Michoacan and Mata Ortiz Pottery from Chihuahua.

Antigua Capilla B&B blends Spanish colonial architecture with a host of modern conveniences. 

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