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This morning the incredibly talented multi-hyphenate actor, singer bisexual icon and advocate Sara Ramirez announced a new profile picture on their Twitter and Instagram.
With the Instagram photo — a selfie of the star with their signature haircut, a purple shirt, and classic small square earring — came the following caption:
“In me is the capacity to be
Ramirez quietly updated their pronouns to she/they on Twitter and Instagram a while back (though we don’t have calendar days in front of us, as a Autostraddle’s resident Sara Ramirez “celebrity expert” my guestimation is pretty close to a year now). They’ve also updated their bio to include “non-binary human” right at the top. But this is the first major post since then — that we can remember — to address their gender directly.
Of course, at this point, in our community, the legend of Sara Ramirez enters the door before they do. First there’s the Tony Award for playing Lady of the Lake in 2005’s Spamalot. Then, for a lot us, there’s Callie Torres who stole our heart on Grey’s Anatomy, clocking in more than 240 episodes and becoming the longest running queer character in television history. After leaving Grey’s in 2016, Ramirez came out as came out as bisexual in a speech that I’ve personally memorized, saying that they were committed to embracing all of their intersections as an multiracial, immigrant, queer person of color. And of course there’s the butch dreamboat Kat Sandoval on who basically stopped time itself with a quirk of an eyebrow on Madam Secretary. Since publicly coming out as bisexual, Sara has been nothing short of a show-stopper — working closely Latinx, immigrant, people of color, queer and trans communities, activists, and artists. Using their platform at every turn to uplift those most marginalized and the voices that we need to hear from most.
I’ve told this story before, but when Callie Torres first entered my life, I was still telling myself that I was straight. The last ten years have been a journey; for myself, for the character, and for the actor who played her.
I could have never guessed in 2006, sitting cross legged on my dorm room, stuffing my face with popcorn, that one day I would be an out queer woman, let alone the Deputy Editor of this publication (ha!). I couldn’t have known that the character screen who already captured my attention would soon become the mirror through I gained the courage to come out. I could have never imagined that the actor who played her would also come out and then show the fuck out, giving back to our community so generously and willingly.
In every moment and in every way, Sara Ramirez has proven to be loving to their community, never afraid of speaking up, never afraid to a beacon. Being courageous and grappling publicly with the hard questions of social justice and privilege and how to best create change. And today, we’re stopping for a moment to say, Thank You.
When Sara Ramirez first came out as bisexual, they made me feel a little less alone in this world. It helped light a path that brought me to this website. And today, less than five days away from their 45th birthday, I know they are lighting that path for so many more.
So on behalf of everyone at Autostraddle:
We’re so happy you’re living more authentically every year! (and also hotter every year, too!) We love you today, tomorrow and always.
— Team AS