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Sunday Funday and “Star Trek: Discovery” Knows the Future Isn’t Cis

Sunday Funday and "Star Trek: Discovery" Knows the Future Isn't

Here we are, back at another week of being in our homes. I am so grateful for my home, and the fact that I am able to live out this quarantine in relative safety, but let me tell you, as someone who lives alone/doesn’t drive and therefore knows it’s unsafe to have a pod, I’m so sad and lonely. I cried watching an old recording of my synagogue sing Lecha Dodi this week because like, will we ever gather again like that? Will I ever have a need for a slightly modest dress and heels again? Will I ever gossip with my nail girl again while she roasts me for biting my nails or breaking my acrylics? I don’t know. Joy feels hard to come by. But I have to believe it’s there. I have to, I have to, I have to. Even if it’s just by vicariously living through Niecy Nash’s new marriage. I don’t know y’all, this shit is hard.

Here’s some joy. Come get y’alls juice.


+ Carmen mentioned it in this week’s AAA, but it’s worth mentioning again, that Julianne Moore and Janelle Monáe look amazing in the upcoming film The Glorias

+ I honestly love the NYT’s “Overlooked No More” obituary series? Like almost as much as the weddings section when there’s more than one queer announcement. This week they’re talking about Charlotta Bass, the first Black woman to run as Vice President and prolific journalist.

+ 25 scenes of female empowerment that made people feel feelings.

+ In the 1920s, just as in the 2020s, meaningful change begins and happens at a local level. Edith Ainge helped by using her local knowledge to shape the national conversation on women’s suffrage.

+ Despite nationwide prejudice, trans people in Haiti are finding refuge in The Kay Trans Haiti Center.

+ If you miss concerts, may I suggest Brandi Carlile?

+ This is the most boring good news, but a church in Georgia historically attached to the United Methodist Church (you may remember they made a terrible decision to exclude LGBTQ+ people last year) decided to take the correct step and officially leave the denomination. Any Methodists in Georgia looking for a church that lives out its beliefs, maybe check out Asbury Memorial.

+ Troop Beverly Hills is officially getting a sequel! Every movie with women in uniforms is a part of my root, so I will be watching this.

+ Did we know the musical The Prom about some lesbian teens going to a prom is being made into a movie?? (We did! It was in this week’s Pop Culture Fix!)  Did we know Meryl Streep is in it with a red wig?!

+ AHH ANOTHER SURPRISE LESBIAN WEDDING! Fawzia Mirza wed Andria Wilson and yes, I did cry.

+ Drag queens and trans women in Indianapolis’s queer history. (Content Note: the post uses words historically used to describe trans people which we no longer use)

+ Netflix’s Away offers us Chinese lesbians in space! Kinda!

+ I literally only have CBS All Access for Star Trek: Discovery and we’re now getting TWO trans characters on the show!!! Yes! Good! Anthony Rapp is also thrilled.

+ Mulan is on our collective minds, so here’s some more non-canonical Disney queer films to make you wanna write fanfiction. (Also: Every Disney Princess Ranked In Order Of Lesbianism by… me!)

+ “Female truckers to honor women’s suffrage.” IDK, just say lesbians??? I’m kidding…. sort of.

+ In the vein of offering you some music to bring you queer joy: Katie Pruitt’s Expectations is just straight up gay country.


Sending you love and queer joy. Happy Sunday, shavua tov, go love yourself because the universe wants you to do so. I love you so much, I’m so happy we have this time with one another each week. Be well my friends.

Jen Richards Promises That Her Engagement Isn’t a Lex Ad

Jen Richards Promises That Her Engagement Isn't a Lex Ad

This is a LOOONG ONE! So let me get of of the way quickly!

Love you. Drink your water and Keep fighting.


Queer as in F*ck You

Jen Richards wants you to know her engagement wasn’t sponsored by Lex, but also? To quote Abeni: “it’s very gay and love is real” (And I want to add, if you’ve ever wanted to shoot your shot, if it can work for a Hollywood bi-con like Jen, it can work for you too!)

From Samantha Irby: “Why didn’t the person at the county clerk’s office warn me that my bride-to-be and I needed to have similar views on condiment storage before we signed our names on the certificate?” To Love, Honor, and Share Fridge Space

I don’t know if you saw this boss b*tch (Kristin Urquiza) do her thing last night at the Democratic National Convention:

But ughhh, guess what??  She’s GAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!

Remember last week when we talked about how adorable and sweet Holland Taylor is? Well we have more!! A little birdie dropped a note in my inbox this morning that Holland was a guest on the podcast LGBTQ&A and as a long time fan of that podcast, I feel confident saying the interview is you’ll enjoy and hear all kinds of new gay things (like when Holland literally says “I’m Gay” in that amazing smokey voice of hers, as just one example)

Rachel recommends this webinar and I recommend anything Rachel says because damn she’s smart as fuck: The TERF Industrial Complex: Transphobia, Feminism and Race


Saw This, Thought of You

Dolly Parton Steers Her Empire Through the Pandemic — and Keeps It Growing. The interview that gave already gave such ICONIC quotables as:

“There’s such a thing as innocent ignorance, and so many of us are guilty of that,” she says now. “When they said ‘Dixie’ was an offensive word, I thought, ‘Well, I don’t want to offend anybody. This is a business. We’ll just call it The Stampede.’ As soon as you realize that [something] is a problem, you should fix it. Don’t be a dumbass. That’s where my heart is. I would never dream of hurting anybody on purpose.”

and

“Of course Black Lives Matter. Do we think our little white asses are the only ones that matter? NO!”

August Blues Are Like Sunday Blues, But for a Full Month. Listen. This take is not wrong.

Another podcast! What a week for podcasts! Kerry Washington & Gabrielle Union talk Black Motherhood with the Black History Year podcast from PushBlack. This includes Gabrielle Union discussing mothering her trans step-daughter Zaya Wade and it was so gripping!! I stopped reading my book and listened to every word.

Michigan’s ‘Tampon Tax’ Challenged in New Lawsuit. I live in Michigan and I approve.

Who Gets to Go outside during a Pandemic? The belief that “Certain People” are ruining the outdoors has been a prevalent idea for a very long time, especially among white people.

When Trump Calls a Black Woman ‘Angry,’ He Feeds This Racist Trope. The Cheeto’s use of the word to describe Joe Biden’s vice-presidential pick, Kamala Harris, plays off a violent stereotype with a century-long history. It’s not a dog whistle. It’s a siren. Call it out.

You Still Need A Vacation. Yes, Even Now. YES, YOU!


Political Snacks

Today is 100th anniversary of the 19th Amendment, which gave “women” the right to vote. Though I’ve never much paid attention because as a Black Puerto Rican woman, it sure as hell didn’t cover my ass. Which is why I very much appreciated this take from Iris King at Zora: A Non-Whitewashed History of the 19th Amendment and Women’s Right to Vote

Cardi B and Joe Biden Talk the State of Our Nation. I know that some of you will see the headline and jump to make an obvious joke, but seriously — Cardi’s political analysis often comes through in a big way. I haven’t read this interview yet, but I definitely wouldn’t make assumptions.

And in other “musicians are talking about politics now” news: Fiona Apple on the Election, What Scares Her, and Her Anti-ICE Short Film

“What Democrats — or more broadly, an American left — have in front of them is a wave of new (or in some cases newly revivified) ideas, from the Green New Deal to Medicare for All, from a wealth tax and baby bonds to defunding the police and making college and day care free, abolishing ICE, decriminalizing border crossings, reforming the courts, abolishing the filibuster, and reimagining care work as part of the federal infrastructure.

But the big voices pushing for new solutions aren’t being elevated by the party they’re actually trying to push into a future they want to make more just, more inclusive, and more functional than America’s unequal past and present.

And while it’s not likely the DNC will be must-see TV in the midst of a pandemic and economic crisis, with the least popular and most horrifying president of my lifetime, it could have been compelling, could have been different, could have offered promise — for something new, something changing, something different, something better.

Instead, Democrats have decided to host a convention that feels like the ‘This is fine’ meme in which the Democrats are the dog, and the rooms they will be speaking from are on fire.”

As the Democratic National Convention continues to loom large this week, some thoughts to keep in our minds about who’s not being welcome on the stage. AKA: REBECCA TRAISTER SAID WHAT TF SHE HAD TO SAY! (And a small update, that in no way changes what’s above: “Instead of giving the 2020 keynote to one person, the Democratic convention has decided to split it up among 17 of the party’s ‘rising stars.’ Seven of the speakers will be women. Five are women of color.”)

“We are watching an authoritarian in action before our eyes. And we haven’t woken up to the significance of what we are seeing.”  Just How Far Will Trump Go?

And to that end, in case you missed it, here are Michelle Obama’s complete remarks from last night’s opening of the DNC. I don’t know what to say… it was perfect. She’s perfect. And that’s that on that.

“If you take one thing from my words tonight, it is this: if you think things cannot possibly get worse, trust me, they can.”

(And here’s a full transcript. And here’s some analysis.)


Lauren Hough’s first book — *Leaving isn’t the hardest thing* — is now available for pre-order (and is set to be published 2021-04-13) : butchlesbians

Lauren Hough’s first book — *Leaving isn’t the hardest thing*

Lauren Hough is ‘a 6-foot lesbian’ who was

born in Berlin, Germany, and raised in seven countries, and Amarillo, Texas. She’s been an Air Force Airman, a green-aproned barista, a bouncer, a bartender, and, for a time, a cable guy.

That cable guy gig is, perhaps, why her name might ring a bell. At the end of 2018, The Huffington Post published her essay-cum-slice-of-memoir ‘I was a cable guy. I saw the worst of America’. Said essay went rather viral.

She’s written more than that, however. Including:

  • ‘Solitaire, Part 1 and Part 2

    which explores ‘the secrecy and fear, the lies told and the violence experienced by a gay woman serving under Don’t Ask; Don’t Tell.’

  • Work, pray, fear: my life in the Family cult

    which documents some of her experience being raised in ‘the global religious cult that started in California in the 1960s’, The Family.

And, earlier this year, she gave a memorable TEDx talk, ‘A lesbian walks into a bathroom: a lesson on code switching’.

Hough’s first book, an essay collection entitled Leaving isn’t the hardest thing is now available for pre-order, with publication set for 2021-04-13.