Tag: lesbians

One for the sword lesbians : actuallesbians

One for the sword lesbians : actuallesbians

A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!

Lesbians Can’t Exist After 1895, So Says Hollywood

Lesbians Can't Exist After 1895, So Says Hollywood

What are the things your brain can’t seem to stop hyper-fixating on today? For me, it’s that I need new underwear. That’s random and probably a little personal, but hey! We’re all friends here!


Queer as in F*ck You

Hmmm, Why Do All the Movie Lesbians Exist in the Past?

I can’t quite remember if I linked this longread by Tre’Vell Anderson for Xtra when it first came out, but it’s been burning up my circles again over the weekend so just in case: What Does It Really Mean to Be Non-Binary? (it’s all so thoughtful and excellent, much like Tre’Vell)

“The first time I had lesbian sex, I expected something more. I don’t mean from the act itself — that was intensely pleasurable. What I mean is the afternoon after I left her place, sitting outside on my stoop processing the experience with two of my close queer women friends, I realized I didn’t feel any different.

That surprised me. Every major shift in identity I’d gone through before that morning had brought with it some sort of revelation or catharsis.”

Musings on ‘No Labels’ by Harron Walker’ for W (I also linked Harron’s One of My Friends Is in Her Flop Era last month, this new piece is from the same series. Is it too early in the year to crown Harron my favorite essayist of 2021? Possibly. But also?…)

Ummmm, this is AMAZING!! No — but seriously, Amazing. I mean it. SOPHIEfest, February 27, on Twitch. Go to this!!

“Singer-songwriter Sarah Walk has teamed up with Meshell Ndegeocello and Abe Rounds to release a slow-burning cover of one of the most famous love songs of all time: ‘Nothing Compares 2 U’”. (I really don’t know what this is about, but it has Meshell Ndegeocello, so I’m there!)

‘We Wanted People to See We Exist’: The Photographer Who Recorded Lesbian Life in the 70s


Saw This, Thought of You

“In all radical labor movements, history is made when ordinary workers disrupt the system that seeks to exploit and silence them.” Dispatch from the California Stripper Strike

Wait, What’s Going on With Cara Delevingne and Jaden Smith?

Am I the only one still thinking about this? Why Were We So Cruel to Britney Spears?

Valentine’s Day is over, but this sweet comic is filled with warm reminders good for every day of the year: 9 Steps to Becoming the Love of Your Own Life

Most Americans Are Doing Pods Wrong. A very instructive and straight-forward (but not unreasonable!) How To Guide on how to have tough conversations with those you love most, to keep you all safe.


Political Snacks

The Senate Acquitted Trump. His Legal Problems Are Just Starting.

And while we’re here: ‘I’m Running for My Life. I Cannot Talk to You Right Now’: 23 Women in Congress Recall the Capitol Riot

And then to top us off, The Founders Were Wrong About Democracy.


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How Masculine Lesbians Understand Their Identity : butchlesbians

How Masculine Lesbians Understand Their Identity : butchlesbians

Hi everyone, for my university dissertation I am looking into masculine lesbians and their relationship with their identity. To do this I have made a survey which needs filling out by people who consider themselves to be masculine and sapphic and this seems to be the place! I would appreciate it if you would help me by filling out my survey which I have linked below. Please only do the survey if you are 18+ and if you know anyone else who would be interested in helping me with my research please share the link, I would be truly grateful.

Thank you for your help!

https://forms.gle/wWUaxGvaDskFBbpw7

Posting vintage lesbians every day:Day 24 : actuallesbians

Posting vintage lesbians every day:Day 24 : actuallesbians

A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!

“LESBIANS ARE NATURAL LEADERS — YOU’RE FOLLOWING ONE,” Stonewall 25, New York City, June 1994. : actuallesbians

“LESBIANS ARE NATURAL LEADERS — YOU’RE FOLLOWING ONE,” Stonewall 25,

A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!

As a trans lesbian who would not transition, is there any way I be taken seriously by other lesbians? : butchlesbians

As a trans lesbian who would not transition, is there

I’m a lesbian trans woman but not transitioning. People assume I’m just a straight man–somewhat logically, I’d admit. I read as “man” because I like to wear suits/ties/vests/etc, though in my mind I just dress very butch. That’s the image of myself in my head: a gay woman who likes androgynous clothing.

I feel very cringy every time I try to explain I’m a lesbian because the reactions are very never positive… lesbians just shame and attack me. Nobody believes me and it’s depressing. 99% of the times I try to communicate my experience to other lesbians I get [this reaction] (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eo_IKJJ609o) The other 1% is still very suspicious. I completely get that I look like a man and gay woman are not attracted to me physically, that does not bother me at all… I’m happy dating bi and queer woman and do not ever approach gay women with sexual intent. Still, other lesbians tell me over and over to knock it off because I’m just a straight man. I’ve lost friendships for this. I’m in my 30s and I have given up trying to explain my experience to anyone. I do not mind that society in general does not understand, but it’s so tough to be rejected again and again by the community. I’m tired that my only safe space is the closet and that the only way I can have friendships with other lesbians is pretending to be a straight man. I’ve contemplated transitioning many times just to be accepted by other lesbians, but what others think does not seem a very good reason to do so. All I want is to be taken seriously, but somehow it is impossible and it’s affecting my mental health.

If you have any tips about how I could explain who I am in a way that would be better received I’m all ears.

Edit:

Definition of transgender: being a person whose gender identity differs from the sex the person had or was identified as having at birth

Definition of gender identity: an individual’s self-conception as a man or woman or as a boy or girl or as some combination

youtube playlist for butch lesbians like myself

youtube playlist for butch lesbians like myself

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLjXOzwLWMsRseD34-8l4XFCS6pyQlbByl

sometimes i don’t want to go hunting inside the jungle that is the internet for content that i see myself in. so i compile everything in one little place because it makes my life easier. and listen, i don’t know about the channels because i just added those specific videos that i liked. so take that for what it is in case someone is, i don’t know, problematic. and if you’re a black butch i hope you have a specially good day!

Lesbians be like : actuallesbians

Lesbians be like : actuallesbians

A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!

I’ve always wanted to launch a fantasy adventure comic with lesbians as main characters ( there will be none of the bury your gays nonsense). Until now my I thought my art skills were not up to it. Now I’m asking you. Would you read something in this style? : actuallesbians

I've always wanted to launch a fantasy adventure comic with

A place for discussions for and by cis and trans lesbians, bisexual girls, chicks who like chicks, bi-curious folks, dykes, butches, femmes, girls who kiss girls, birls, bois, aces, LGBT allies, and anyone else interested! Our subreddit is named r/actuallesbians because r/lesbians is not really for or by lesbians–it was meant to be a joke. We’re not a militant or exclusive group, so feel free to join up!

Found a neat little explainer on nonbinary lesbians by a nonbinary lesbian : butchlesbians

Found a neat little explainer on nonbinary lesbians by a

That made sense to me when I read it, but thinking about it, I have second thoughts.

Basically, they divided nb into man-aligned, woman-aligned, and unaligned, and excluded man-aligned from either being nb lesbians or being attractive to nb lesbians.

The quote is saying nb lesbians are woman-aligned or unaligned enbies who are attracted to women, women-aligned enbies and unaligned enbies, BUT NOT to man-aligned enbies.

However, I was under the impression that some enbies like androgyne were aligned to BOTH man & woman, and I’m sure some bi-gender people are, so how would they fit in?

Also, I just talked to a butch lesbian who was a demi-boy. And I don’t think they considered themselves man-aligned, but I’m sure some demi-boys do, because demi-genders encompass a broad range of connectedness to the binary. But I don’t know how you could being attracted to man-aligned genders with genders where some members are man-aligned and others are not. It’s not necessarily something you recognize on sight.