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Elliot Page Is Getting Divorced, Another Day in the Books for Love Being a Lie

Elliot Page Is Getting Divorced, Another Day in the Books

It’s Broccoli Cheddar Soup Night! And I cannot f*cking wait.


Queer as in F*ck You

Elliot Page and Emma Portner Announce Plans to Divorce: We ‘Remain Close Friends.’ The AS editors conferred about this during the afternoon, and we all agreed that Drew had the best take:

With all our hearts, wishing Elliot and Emma peace and privacy at this time.

In a new exhibit, LGBTQ elders share what it was like to spend most of their lives in the closet.


Saw This, Thought of You

Bernie Sanders Turned His Inauguration Meme Into a Sweatshirt for Charity. All proceeds go to Meals on Wheels Vermont.

Andra Day Bares All — Here’s What It Meant To Play Her Icon, Billie Holiday. (Exactly 30 days left until The United States vs. Billie Holiday and I cannot wait!!)

Charmay has been a GIFT during this last year, and I have learned so much about Black American Sign Language from her: Black, Deaf and Extremely Online

And while we are still on the topic of young, gifted, and Black — did yall see Nia Dennis’ gymnastics floor routine for UCLA that’s gone viral?? Including Kendrick Lamar, Beyoncé, Missy Elliott, Megan thee Stallion, and 2Pac among others.

If you are white, this is your “must read” of today — and it won’t be easy, but wow I promise you that it is necessary, Breaking Up With White Supremacy Was Always The End Game: “If you follow all the prescriptions of checking your privilege, unpacking your invisible knapsack, centering the marginalized, excavating your deeply held white supremacist notions and not becoming a Karen, you will absolutely positively have to break up with actual white people.”

Related to above, White People Least Likely to Wear Masks Consistently, Study Finds — “The essential values this country was founded on are individualism and personal responsibility, and this idea of community is not something that is necessarily inherent in (white) American culture.” The parenthesis is my own.


Political Snacks

Biden Overturns Trump Ban on Transgender People Serving in U.S. Military. I have A LOT of feelings about the role of the U.S. military and imperialism and war and war profiteering and the military industrial complex. I also acknowledge that the ban itself hurt a lot of trans people who were trying to serve their country, and I hope that those people found some healing in this week.

Also.(also.also), a reminder that Joe Biden Will Lie to You. All presidents do.

But that said, this is a step in the right direction, Biden Orders End of Federally Run Private Prisons. (And yet! To my previous point, Biden’s Order to End Use of Private Prisons Excludes Immigrant Detention Facilities)


And Another Thing!

Crissle West coming thru with the laughs for your mid-week slump:

Sue Bird and Megan Rapinoe Are Engaged, Love Will Never Be a Lie Again!

Sue Bird and Megan Rapinoe Are Engaged, Love Will Never


Friends! Lesbians! Queers! Good Straddlers of this land! Lend me your ears! The time has finally come to declare, once and for all, that love is not a lie! And lo, it shall never be a lie again! For Sue Bird and Megan Rapinoe are ENGAYGED TO BE MARRIED!

I’m sure more information will be available soon, but for now:

Bird and Rapinoe first announced their relationship in 2017. It was kind of just known, but finally someone asked Bird about it and she said, “I’m gay. Megan’s my girlfriend.” And that was that! In the nearly four years since then, they’ve become arguably the most famous lesbian couple on the planet, aided, weirdly, by Donald Trump, who took aim at Rapinoe during the 2019 World Cup, to which Bird responded with a blistering and loving essay and Rapinoe responded by… winning the World Cup. Then, this year, it was Bird’s turn to win a WNBA championship — the Seattle Storm and Bird’s fourth title — with Rapinoe by her side.

DANG I AM JUST SO GODDAMN HAPPY FOR THEM! These days are dark and this news is BRIGHT AS THE SUN THAT’S BACKLIGHTING MEGAN RAPINOE AS SHE SLIPS A RING ONTO SUE BIRD’S HAND! The only thing that could make me happier than this is confirmation that Rapinoe, like Ashlyn Harris, will wear sparkly soccer socks and a shorts tux at her wedding.

CONGRATULATIONS YOU TWO!

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“There is no good answer to how to be a woman; the art may instead lie in how we refuse the question.” Part of an extract from Melissa Faliveno’s book of essays, *Tomboyland* (available as of 2020-08-04) : butchlesbians

“There is no good answer to how to be a

Melissa Faliveno is a Wisconsin born-and-raised writer living in New York.

Her first book, Tomboyland, is coming out 2020-08-04. It’s an essay collection cum memoir.

An adapted extract from the book was published in Esquire as ‘Why our gender identity language isn’t enough on 2020-06-24.

I don’t know if Melissa Faliveno uses the word butch as a self-descriptor. But she writes about the complex relationship she has with gender and gender identity and gender expression from the perspective of someone who gets misgendered at least twice a week

From the perspective of someone who typically looks more traditionally masculine than feminine:

It isn’t just the choices I make about my appearance that make me androgynous — that I keep my hair cut short, say, or that my wardrobe is composed of t-shirts and jeans, button-downs and suits — but the body I was born with, the DNA that built me. Equal parts farm-family Midwesterner and swarthy Mediterranean, my body is a stovepipe, long and lean without much curve. My hips are narrow, my back and shoulders broad. My biceps are big and my breasts are small, my cheekbones sharp and my nose large. My body hair is dark and thick; it grows black and wild on my arms and legs, and with obnoxious consistency between my eyebrows and above my upper lip. My voice is deeper than that of many men I know.

I’ve already pre-ordered the book.

NB: an extra reason I, in particular, pre-ordered the book. In the Esquire extract above, Faliveno also writes about being bisexual and the endless erasure that comes with that, from everyone, gay or straight.

There were many sentences in the extract that made it very likely I was going to order this book. But the literal sentence that made my pre-ordering the book inevitable was this one:

most of the time, when someone in the queer community tells me I don’t belong there, I believe them.

I mostly keep to the margins of Kinsey-6–centric spaces but I think this book might be of interest and perhaps value to some of the folk who virtually gather here. So this postscript is a pre-emptive bit of (self-)defense. Faliveno is absolutely masculine of centre. She might even be comfortable with butch as a descriptor. But she is not a lesbian. Just in case that matters (as experience tells me it often does).