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Queer high-school football star opens up about sexual abuse

Jake Bain sexual abuse

Jake Bain opened up about his experience of sexual abuse (It Gets Better campaign screenshot/YouTube)

Jake Bain, the high-school football star who made headlines when he came out as gay, has opened up about being sexually abused by his father.

Bain became one of the first openly queer athletes at the NCAA Division I level when he came out publicly in 2018 when he was still a high school student. He ended his football career in 2019 and later came out as pansexual.

Now, Bain has opened up about his experience of sexual abuse in a statement shared on Twitter.

“I have in my possession over 20 pages of court documents, detailing the abuse that me, and many others endured at the hands of my father,” Bain wrote.

“To protect the confidentiality of those who are mentioned in these documents, I won’t release them to the public.”

Bain said he believes it should be “public knowledge” that his father was allegedly found to be “showering with other students”. He also accused his father of engaging in “inappropriate” email conversations with young people and said he had students visit his house for “sleepovers”.

“It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to know that none of this behaviour is appropriate for any adult to be displaying,” Bain wrote.

He said that his father is still coaching basketball and urged anyone who is still employing him to terminate his contract immediately.

Jake Bain made global headlines when he came out in 2018.

In 2018, Bain was recruited by Indiana State and went on to play for the Sycamores as a freshman before he quit football in 2019, saying he wanted to focus on his studies.

Bain’s coming out story went global in 2018 when he told the St Louis Post-Dispatch that hiding his sexuality had made him less effective as a player.

“When you’re kind of half yourself, showing everyone half yourself pretty much, it weighs on you,” Bain said at the time.

“I definitely always tried to play to that macho status of a football player with a girlfriend, so I was definitely trying to cover all the bases so people wouldn’t find out.

“I had a couple girlfriends in high school at Burroughs. People used to always describe me as a ladies man. … I was still questioning what I really wanted.”

Rape Crisis England and Wales works towards the elimination of sexual violence. If you’ve been affected by the issues raised in this story, you can access more information on their website or by calling the National Rape Crisis Helpline on 0808 802 9999. Rape Crisis Scotland’s helpline number is 08088 01 03 02.

Readers in the US are encouraged to contact RAINN, or the National Sexual Assault Hotline on 800-656-4673.

Donald Glover opens up about questioning his sexuality / Queerty

Donald Glover opens up about questioning his sexuality / Queerty

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“Labels” help a lot of people politically. They also assists with feeling like you are a part of a “community“, and they assist in helping some people understand you more. So, they are helpful for multiple reasons. But selling identity as the be-all to everything just needs to stop. Hell, we can’t even come to a consensus around what “sexuality” even is. Sexual arousal, enjoyment, desire, passion, comfort, preference, behavior, history are all different things. And people choose whichever of those elements to define what sexuality means to them. Then there’s the different types of fluidity or paraphiliacs/fetishes or confusions/questioning some people experience. Then there’s the elements of gender, romantic affections, emotional connections and fulfilling commitment. Then there’s a bunch of other things that often play into what people do or how they present themselves: family, ethics, religion, ego, insecurities, sociology, resentments, internal phobias, money, trauma, mental health struggles, attention whoring, addictions, an individual’s sex drive.

This is the impasse we keep returning to. There’s just too much different shit going on, too many different types of people, and too many different struggles, motives, identities and interpretations. So, shaming people, pressuring people, or mostly just pushing identity politics is not the most helpful instinct. If you’re placing identity before people feeling safe, secure and sane and before people feeling free to live the lives that they really want to live then you’re not being helpful. In fact, you are a part of the problem. However, none of this means that you can’t call out the many folks who say and do vulture-like, manipulative or problematic things.

Dolly Parton-inspired rooftop bar opens at Nashville hotel / GayCities Blog

Dolly Parton-inspired rooftop bar opens at Nashville hotel / GayCities

The rooftop, Dolly Parton-inspired bar at the Graduate Nashville (Photo: Digital Love)
The rooftop, Dolly Parton-inspired bar at the Graduate Nashville (Photo: Digital Love)

We’ve seen some camp interior decor in our time, but this is something else. A hotel in Nashville has opened a Dolly Parton-inspired restaurant and rooftop bar, and it’s a veritable pink palette of fabulousness.

The name of the restaurant and bar is White Limozeen, and it can be found at the top of the Graduate Nashville (101 20th Ave. North), which itself opened late last year.

(Photo: Digital Love)

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Named in honor of Parton (White Limozeen, released in 1989, was the singer’s 29th studio album), the hotel says the destination, “celebrates the uniquely Nashville identity of unapologetically following your dreams.”

(Photo: Digital Love)

The new bar and restaurant were unveiled in July after the hotel was allowed to reopen to guests following COVID restrictions.

“We’re thrilled to finally open our doors at White Limozeen and welcome locals and travelers alike to experience this over-the-top, elegant, yet inviting rooftop destination,” said Ben Weprin, Graduate Hotels CEO and Founder in a statement.

The bar at White Limozeen, Graduate Nashville Hotel
The bar at White Limozeen (Photo: Digital Love)

“White Limozeen is a celebration of the nonconformists that have always done it their own way. It’s unique, beyond special, and tells the narrative of a relentless, rags-to-riches journey. Whether you are playing for tips on a stool on 16th Avenue, selling out Nissan Stadium, or just stopping by for a cocktail, this will be an unforgettable experience for everyone.”

(Photo: Digital Love)

Decor wise, the theme is opulence and over-the-top. The restaurant features a pink onyx bar, baby-pink walls, portraits of country music legends, glitzy chandeliers and gilded fabrics.

The exterior patio features plenty more pink, oversized daybeds, a wading pool, and – the pièce de résistance – a large, pink bust of Dolly Parton. It’s the perfect place to soak up some sun and sip on a ‘Queen of the Rodeo’ cocktail from the bar.

A pink settee at White Limozeen, at the Graduate Nashville (Photo: Digital Love)

If that’s not quite enough Dolly for you, the hotel also offers a ‘9-to-5’ suite, complete with a disco ball tiled ceiling, shag carpets, and a kingsize water bed.

Related: A big, glamorous, new gay hotel has just opened in Miami

If you want to check out the restaurant and bar, be sure to book ahead, as social distancing precautions are still in place.

(Photo: Digital Love)

Intersex activist opens up about medical mistreatment

Pidgeon Pagonis intersex

Intersex activist Pidgeon Pagonis has shared their heartbreaking story of how they learned about their medical history.

In a Twitter thread shared earlier this week, Pagonis – who has reclaimed the word “hermaphrodite” – said that they had recently discovered new information about their body that they hadn’t previously known.

When they were 18-years-old, Pagonis discovered that their medical records identified them as “male pseudo-hermaphrodite 46 XY”.

“I discovered then that I had been diagnosed with partial androgen insensitivity syndrome (PAIS),” Pagonis said.

They went on to have three “unnecessary cosmetic surgeries” performed on them in an effort to make them look more typically female.

Intersex activist Pidgeon Pagonis was incorrectly diagnosed with PAIS.

Recently, Pagonis started seeing a new endocrinologist, and they asked to see all of Pagonis’s medical records.

The endocrinologist read all of Pagonis’s medical records and consulted with other experts in his field and ultimately came to the conclusion that their diagnosis of PAIS was incorrect.

Pagonis was given a genetic test, and last month, their endocrinologist’s suspicions were confirmed.

“Turns out, I don’t have PAIS,” Pagonis wrote. “I actually have something else known as NR-5A1.”

Pagonis noted that intersex people with PAIS are thought to be unable to utilise androgens, which is why they are given oestrogen.

This is infuriating. Doctors working with intersex kids and young adults are incompetent and owe us reparations.

“Doing what they [the doctors] did to me was f**ked up enough, but now realising that they didn’t even have the diagnosis right – and that I can utilise androgens – is f**king infuriating beyond belief.”

They said they now feel “robbed” and criticised the many “good” doctors who failed to correctly diagnose them over the course of many years.

“This is what really breaks my heart, they never ever stopped to consider the fact that me having oestrogen levels below 30 (which is what post-menopausal cis women typically have) throughout my twenties and early thirties was not OK or healthy.”

The activist has a condition that causes loss of bone mass as a result of their medical mistreatment.

This failure occurred despite the fact that doctors were checking Pagonis’s hormones every six months.

The result, the activist said, is that they have osteopenia – the loss of bone mass – since their mid twenties.

“Our bodies need certain levels of either [oestrogen] or [testosterone] to build healthy bones; and somehow for 15 years no doctor ever connected my post-menopausal [oestrogen] levels with my damn near osteoporosis bone scan results.”

Pagonis added: “This is infuriating. Doctors working with intersex kids and young adults are incompetent and owe us reparations.

“It’s past time we roll up to their homes, in their quaint suburban gated communities, and let their neighbours know what type of bulls**t these ‘well respected’ paediatric urology surgeons and endocrinologists be on.”