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Singer Duncan James reveals how to survive homophobia as a gay dad / Queerty

Singer Duncan James reveals how to survive homophobia as a

Singer Duncan James, best known as a member of the UK pop boyband Blue, has finally opened up about how he copes with homophobia as a public figure, and how he protects his daughter from it.

James initially came out as bisexual in 2009, and had a brief relationship with Spice Girl Geri Halliwell. He also has a daughter from his ex-girlfriend Claire Grainger, born in 2005. He amended his label to “gay” in 2012, and has since gone public with several relationships with men, including current boyfriend Rodrigo Reis.

Now, for the first time, James tells the UK publication The Sun about how he’s endured homophobia since coming out, and tried to protect his 16-year-old daughter from it.

“She is at an age where she is very much into her phone, and her friends are all on social media platforms like TikTok — it’s very much her life,” James says of his daughter, Tianie. “But she’s also aware that people could be horrible. People can be quite nasty about me being gay and say quite horrible things about the fact that I’m a gay dad. People have written to her, saying, ‘Isn’t it disgusting your dad’s gay? How do you feel? You must be ashamed of him’, and stuff like that, and you’re just like, ‘Why are you writing to a kid saying stuff like that? Are you really crazy?’ People are just awful.”

Related: Duncan James On Coming Out As Bisexual: “It Was Just Easier To Use That Word”

“I’ve had quite a lot of people from other countries writing to me in disbelief that I’m gay, saying I’m going to burn in hell, it’s a sin and I’m going to be punished by God,” he added. “I think it’s probably because they’re frightened about it or they don’t have the awareness or their religion has dictated that it’s wrong and it’s disgusting.”

For Jones, the best way to protect Tianie comes down to one simple plan: limiting her social media use.

“There’s that fine line,” he said. “We want her to have her privacy but as a parent you just have to be really vigilant and aware that it’s not a nice place out there sometimes. You want your kid to be protected and safe. That’s the most important thing.”

Jones also added that Tianie’s mother, Claire, also has become the target of homophobes. “Claire’s had abuse about me being gay too,” he admitted. “People reach out and be nasty, but she’s learned to just block people. It’s made us stronger.”

Still, despite the social media drama, Jones says he has no regrets about coming out or parenthood. In fact, he would like to have more children.

“For Rodrigo, having children is really important,” Jones says, “so we have talked about it. He’s said he would love to be a father at some point. The thing with me is I don’t want to commit to having a child until I am married and I know it’s a secure relationship. I think having a child is something you have to think long and hard about, especially in a gay relationship because it’s a lot harder.”

We have a feeling that won’t dissuade Duncan and Rodrigo.

American Gods star reveals how show inspired her to come out as bisexual

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Yetide Badaki plays the goddess Bilquis in American Gods (Paul Butterfield/FilmMagic/Getty)

American Gods actor Yetide Badaki has revealed how her role on the show helped her feel comfortable enough to come out as bisexual.

The Nigerian-born American stars in the Neil Gaiman fantasy series as Bilquis, the legendary Queen of Sheba and ancient goddess of love.

Interviewed by Digital Spy ahead of the third series, Badaki spoke of how the “empowering” role helped her find the freedom to be open about her own sexuality.

“I feel like this show is always willing to have these conversations, and always willing to open it up,” she said. “I’ve experienced personally how that kind of open discourse allows for personal freedom.

“I came out as bisexual last year. I would say it’s very much thanks to this show, and the discussions they’re having.”

As she approached the role Badaki found a sense of symbiosis with her character and often found herself asking: “What would Bilquis do?” The discussions she had as she explored this question helped her to “own” her sexuality.

“I was so happy to be having conversations about sexual empowerment and sex positivity, because I think there is so much that goes on in the silence, in the darkness. That’s where things go in the cracks,” she mused.

“But when we are able to own our own sexuality, and actually have conversations around it, that becomes something that’s healthier for everybody involved. I always say that regression comes from repression.

“When you’re actually able to face whatever it is, that’s when growth and evolution can occur. So that’s been something that I’m very proud to be a part of.”

She hinted at what’s to come from season three of American Gods, promising viewers will see “more than one side” to Bilquis – and even a major fight scene.

“I love that we are cementing this idea that love is not passive. It’s not just something that rolls over,” she said. “There is a lot of fire behind love, and there’s a lot of passion behind love. And that love does work to move things forward.”

American Gods season 3 airs on Starz in the US, and on Amazon Prime Video in the UK.

Discovery star reveals she is ‘queer and proud’

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Star Trek: Discovery‘s LGBT+ crew just grew a little bigger as actor Mary Wiseman confirms she is “queer and proud”.

Wiseman, a powerhouse actor who plays fan-favourite Ensign Tilly, revealed that she has loved “people of all genders” in a recent interview with StarTrek.com.

That small detail almost wasn’t published as the Zoom call’s audio cut out just as Wiseman started to say “I’m not straight”. Some shrewd lip-reading prompted writer Dawn Ennis to follow up with Wiseman, who happily confirmed it in a Twitter DM.

“I did say this! It’s not a big deal at all, I just didn’t want to say I’m straight when I’m not!” the star wrote, adding that before she met her husband Noah Averbach-Katz – who played Ryn the Andorian – she “dated and loved people of all genders.”

She went on to explain why she keeps fairly quiet about the topic, saying: “I never liked it when straight-presenting women dominated conversations about bisexuality/pansexuality when I was with women, so I try not to do it now, but I also don’t want it to feel like I’m hiding anything because I’m queer and proud!”

Wiseman’s far from alone on a show that’s won widespread praise for its strong LGBT+ representation, both in its cast and script.

The show’s co-creator Bryan Fuller also identifies as queer, as do actors Anthony Rapp, Wilson Cruz, Blu Del Barrio and Ian Alexander – all of whom play LGBT+ characters themselves.

Together Del Barrio and Alexander took on the first trans and non-binary roles in the franchise’s 54-year history, and their characters form an adorable queer family with gay couple Hugh and Paul.

“I’m proud to say that we are bringing you the queerest Trek in history!” Wilson Cruz said ahead of the launch of season three. With Mary Wiseman on board, we’re hoping season four will follow in an equally queer direction.

Star Trek: Discovery is available to watch now on Netflix in the UK and CBS All Access in the US.

Pete Buttigieg reveals how he role-played Mike Pence with Kamala Harris

Pete Buttigieg reveals how he role-played Mike Pence with Kamala

Pete Buttigieg has revealed how he channeled his “inner Mike Pence” while helping Kamala Harris prepare for the vice-presidential debate.

In a strange twist of fate, the gay former presidential candidate has been role-playing as Pence in mock debates with Harris to help her practise.

Appearing in an MNBC segment ahead of the big showdown on Wednesday evening, Pete Buttigieg was asked by Rachel Maddow to describe his process for “channeling your inner Mike Pence” – and the gay former presidential candidate gave a tantalising glimpse.

“A lot of it’s been about anticipating things that might happen, and as we saw in 2016, Mike Pence is someone who is comfortable saying things that are utterly false with a completely straight face,” Buttigieg said.

“It’s one of the reasons that he’s actually a very effective debater. And we wanted to make sure that we’re prepared for that.”

He added that Pence delivers mistruths in a “more soothing much more calming way than Donald Trump but still putting out those same falsehoods.”

Though the idea of Buttigieg impersonating Pence may seem bizarre, in some ways it’s the perfect casting as the former mayor of South Bend, Indiana has a long history with Pence, who served as governor of Indiana before becoming vice president.

And he repeatedly crossed swords with Pence during his Democratic primary campaign – with the vice president posting a smiling selfie alongside a pastor who had called for Buttigieg to “repent” his sexuality.

Buttigieg suggested he’d grown closer to Harris over their mock debates together.

“My respect for Kamala Harris only grew during the time that we were competing and only more so now,” he said.

“She has such a command of the facts and the American people really are with us, but that doesn’t mean that tonight’s debate is going to be an easy task.”