Tag: Silence

Come Vibe With Me: Snow Day Silence

Come Vibe With Me: Snow Day Silence

I spent the first part of my week snowed in.

Image shows a bouquet of blush colored roses and fresh eucalyptus
Blush snow day roses kissing eucalyptus.

I laid in my bed, quietly watching the snowfall on the other side of my window as my sheer curtains were tucked to the sides. Surrounded by the quiet and the blush-colored roses and eucalyptus that I got in the early morning of Valentine’s day the day before — I felt calm.

I’m not usually one for complete quiet, I prefer my space to be filled with music played at a soft level, the laughter of a podcast that I’m listening to, or even just opening the window and letting the world outside be the soundtrack to whatever moment I’m in. But this time I welcomed the quiet. Maybe it was because the evening before was filled with the loud laughter of another person, or because I’d spent time that afternoon listening to my mother talk at me about who knows what but, this quiet — matched with the visual setting — made me so happy.

It was a moment filled with pure sweetness that I wasn’t planning on. It was unexpected. I tried my hardest not to fight it. Not to reach for my phone and get to swiping away at articles and memes, not to ask my Alexa to play the sounds of rain or thunderstorms but to just to sit in this space and welcome in the feelings it was giving to me.

Eventually, I closed my eyes and as the minutes passed, salt trucks and the sound of people coming out of their homes to set up their cars for another full day of snow broke me out of my living daydream. For the rest of the day though, I held onto it. I held onto the beautiful unexpected silence of that morning and carried it close to my soul, and when I needed it — the remembrance of that perfect moment — it was never too far away.

Sweet (Snowy) Sunday babes.

Y’all Come Look at This

FKA Twigs on the cover of the latest Elle.

The Amaliah Podcast, Small Talk with Muna and Munadiah, had a chat about the connection between race + religion and the climate crisis.

MY PRINCESS MEGHAN (and her man Harry) are having another baby first of all — YAYYYY!!!! — secondly, they are sitting down with Oprah for a chat and if you think I’m gonna miss it you are INCORRECT!

FKA Twigs tells her story to Elle and opens up about her abusive relationship. Heads up, she goes into quite a bit of detail about everything that went on.

Judas and The Black Messiah bought out some entirely incredible performances but what stood out was the gorgeously talented Dominique Fishback as Deborah Johnson. I’m so glad she is getting the attention that she deserves!

Quinta Brunson is amazing and guess what she has a show coming to ABC! Not only is she gonna star in it but she will be writing AND executive producing!

Image shows a dimly lit photo of a black woman clad in black lingerie, the word "TILDA" is placed over her photo with credits of the crew atop.


“You wanna fuck Tilda Swinton? —- Yeah — I guess.”

A pseudo meet-cute with two Black millennials bonding over their love of Tilda Swinton?

Absolutely yes.

I found this amazing short from Ray Smiling and Konyin Ayuba while on the amazing site that is gal-dem. It’s part of their Shorties collections, which shines a light on new dope POC filmmakers with fresh ideas.

The film is just under 7 minutes long and takes you on a cute, sensual ride of what hopefully is the start of a blooming Black romance.

Watch the entire short film here

I turn to herbs and herbal blends quite often for many forms of healing. I burn ones that match the energy I’m trying to channel when I’m pulling my morning tarot card and meditating, I create herbal blends to smoke to match my mood and even make tinctures for healing purposes — both physically and mentally. Herbal Mutual Aid Network has been blessing Black folks with free customized herbal care packages, just send a DM (DO NOT FOLLOW) to get on the list for yours. Also sending bunches of love to Black Girls Breathing, they offer at least two breathwork circles a month that has free and sliding scale slots, they do go fast so follow them to stay up to date. Also, a few resources to help the folks of Texas courtesy of @KiaCooks while their residents go through this wild time.

If you have anything happening that you think would be a good fit for the community love virtual billboard, send it my way via Instagram. Please remember that anything you send must have a focus on people of color.

I’m just saying that I am ready to get married when you are.

A vibe made to stay inside that soothes the heart and hopefully makes it smile.

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Silence of the Lambs show Clarice casts transgender activist Jen Richards

Trans actor Jen Richards in front of a blue background at the 2020 Sundance Film Festival

Jen Richards of ‘Disclosure: Trans Lives on Screen’ attends the IMDb Studio at Acura Festival Village on location at the 2020 Sundance Film Festival on 27 January 2020 in Park City, Utah. (Photo by Rich Polk/Getty Images for IMDb)

CBS’ Silence of the Lambs adaptation Clarice has cast transgender actor, writer and activist Jen Richards to play a character who will discuss the “complicated legacy” of Buffalo Bill. 

Richards will portray a transgender woman who talks with the titular character about Buffalo Bill, a serial killer who appeared in the 1991 Silence of the Lambs film. 

The producers of the Silence of the Lambs TV adaptation said Richards was first recommended by GLAAD’s director of transgender representation Nick Adams to consult on the show, but now she will also appear on the screen.

During a virtual premiere event for Clarice on Monday (1 February), Richards said her character intersects with Clarice and explains Buffalo Bill’s legacy.

“All I can say is that the character intersects with Clarice’s storyline in a way that her trans-ness isn’t central to her storyline, but her identity as a transgender woman prompts her to discuss with Clarice the complicated legacy of Buffalo Bill,” Richards said.

She initially thought she would help the writers and producers “craft the character and make sure some younger, prettier trans actress had a good experience on set”. But then she ended up cast in the role itself. 

Buffalo Bill in Silence of the Lambs.
Buffalo Bill in Silence of the Lambs. (Orion)

Silence of the Lambs‘ Buffalo Bill left a scar on the trans community

Richards said she was interested in creating discussions about Buffalo Bill, who was played by Ted Levine in the film, specifically because of how he had been a negative representation for the transgender community. 

Jame Gumb, known as “Buffalo Bill”, is a serial killer who murders overweight women and skins them so he can make a “woman suit” for himself. Both the film and novel of the same name depict Gumb as having signs of gender dysphoria. Gumb wants to become a woman and created a “woman suit” for himself to complete his “transformation”. 

Though, it’s never explicit in the novel or book that Gumb is transgender. 

“Right prior to my coming out as trans, I started to delicately tell a few friends and colleagues I was thinking about transitioning,” Richards said. “Kind of treading water to see if I could do it successfully, and one looked at me and said, ‘Do you mean like Buffalo Bill?’”

Richards said she was “crestfallen” that this woman had “no other image to counter” what trans-ness was, just this “incredibly monstrous person who literally steals the female form and tries to embody it”.

“It was really complicated to try and overcome that first perception of other people,” she said.

Not reducing trans character into a stereotype

Richards said she was thrilled that Clarice’s writing team wanted to “address the complicated, horrible legacy in a way that didn’t reduce it to that one issue” and feature a “trans character that was part of the story but didn’t reduce it to a stereotype”.

The series takes place a year after FBI agent Clarice Starling, played by Rebecca Breeds, caught Buffalo Bill. Starling then has to deal with the trauma in the wake of the complicated case and encountering cannibal Hannibal Lector. 

Clarice also stars Kal Penn, Nick Shadow, Lucca de Oliveira and Michael Cudlitz. It will debut on 11 February.

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‘Surviving the Silence’ – Lesbian.com

‘Surviving the Silence’ – Lesbian.com

The festivities start this Thursday, September 24. We hope you will join us!

Details are on our website: SurvivingtheSilence.com and also listed below.

Opening Night Events on Thursday, September 24:

6:30pm EDT / 3:30pm PDT: Welcome on Out on Film’s Facebook page.

7:00pm EDT / 4:00pm PDT: Virtual Watch Party (Buy tickets here)

8:30pm EDT / 5:30 PDT: Live Q&A with Col. Patsy Thompson, Barbara Brass, Col. Margarethe Cammermeyer, 22nd Army Sec. Eric Fanning, and filmmaker Cindy L. Abel (Included with film screening ticket).

Buying a ticket in advance will make life easier when audiences click to watch at 7:00pm EDT / 4:00pm PDT. 😀

Here are links to a couple recent articles about us and our film:

Tags: 22nd Army Sec. Eric Fanning, Barbara Brass, Cindy L. Abel, Col. Margarethe Cammermeyer, Col. Patsy Thompson, Surviving the Silence

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Breaking Silence by Rosemary Curb and Nancy Manahan – The Lesbrary

Breaking Silence by Rosemary Curb and Nancy Manahan – The

Lesbian Nuns: Breaking Silence

Growing up in a Catholic family and Catholic environment as a lesbian had its challenges. As a young girl, I thought that I would become a religious sister because the idea of living in a community of women seemed much preferable to getting married. You know, back when I thought that getting married automatically included a man. I don’t think it should come as a surprise that lesbian/bi women have been joining religious orders for centuries, finding that life with other women is better than married life with a man.

First published in 1985, Lesbian Nuns: Breaking Silence by Rosemary Curb and Nancy Manahan is a nonfiction anthology with 51 accounts of lesbian nuns and ex-nuns, speaking on the topic about how their sexuality intersects with their vocations.

The success of this book has an interesting story. The Boston archdiocese contacted a news station and appealed for the cancellation of a televised interview with one of the book’s editors. The Boston Globe wrote an article about the censorship, and Lesbian Nuns almost immediately sold out of its first printing with indie lesbian publisher Naiad Press. Shortly after, Warner Books bought the rights for mass-distribution and spread the book far and wide with its second edition. In the book itself, one interviewee said:

Lesbian nuns I know are going to dance! In convents, this book will go around like hotcakes. […] Everybody will read it. Lesbian nuns will be more self-conscious about this book. I can see them dying to get hold of it, but trying not to show too much interest. […] All hell’s going to break loose. Religious communities are going to have to discuss this book. They’re going to have to respond to the reality, and they’ve never had to do that.

One of the contributors to this book might be familiar to some Lesbrary readers. Jeanne Cordova is the author of one of the first chapters, and she is also the author of Kicking the Habit: a Lesbian Nun Story and When We Were Outlaws: A Memoir of Love & Revolution.

The other stories and authors will likely be new to readers, and I think impactful in the way they mirror each other with shared experiences and ideas. Certainly, it was impactful for me with my Catholic background. There were several times that I felt like saying, “Hey! Those are my feelings, too!” There’s so much power for me in connecting with other lesbian women from the past, both distant and not so distant.

“My pain is that I can’t share being a Lesbian with most of these women. Since my Lesbianism is a part of me, they don’t really know me. Yet, if they knew I was a Lesbian, they might know me even less, because of whatever homophobia, stereotypes, or projections they might have. Another source of pain is my Church. I’m not sure what kind of a Catholic I am. I like the Catholic traditions and my personal history. However, I cannot reconcile myself to the Church’s clericalism and sexism.”

I may not personally prefer to capitalize the “l” in lesbian or call my sexuality an ism, but this passage and others truly resonated with me as an ex-Catholic. In fact, regardless of readers’ connections with Catholicism or other religious beliefs or nonbeliefs, I think this book has something for everyone to recognize in themselves.

The book is divided into nine themed sections, including sections on “particular friends”, the relationship between being a lesbian and vows of celibacy and chastity, and women who chose to stay in their religious orders rather than leave. It’s fascinating to read each section and find such similarities and differences in these women’s stories.

There is so much to learn from this book. It is full of first-hand accounts and the personal histories from our lesbian heritage. Catholic or not, religious or not, I highly recommend picking up a copy. Although originally published through an indie publisher, this book has since been reprinted several times and is available widely for anyone interested in exploring the relationship between religion and homosexuality.

GLSEN Day of Silence – Proud Parenting

GLSEN Day of Silence - Proud Parenting

The GLSEN Day of Silence is a national student-led demonstration where LGBTQ students and allies all around the country take a vow of silence to protest the harmful effects of harassment and discrimination of LGBTQ people in schools.

This effort was started in the mid 90’s by two college students but since then the Day of Silence has expanded to reach hundreds of thousands of students each year. Every April, students go through the school day without speaking, ending the day with Breaking the Silence rallies and events to share their experiences during the protest and bring attention to ways their schools and communities can become more inclusive. Now due to the unusual circumstances, GLSEN has decided to go virtual.

As a young ally I think that this is an amazing event to rally against the violence seen in schools around the world that target LGBTQ+ students. I myself will be taking part in this day and hope that many others will consider it.

This year we are honoring the 25th anniversary of Day of Silence on Friday, April 24, 2020. Learn more about this incredible event.