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Dad who rejected gay son wants to make things right

Coming out dad gay son

A dad who reacted badly when his son came out as gay now wishes he could “turn the clock back” and make things right – but it might already be too late.

The father wrote to The Sun’s advice columnist Deidre Sanders about his harsh reaction when his son first came out as gay.

“I reacted badly when my son first told me he’s gay.

“I am his dad and I wish I could turn the clock back but a recent angry outburst showed that he has never forgiven me.

“Now I am 60 and he is 36. He had a breakdown when he was 22 and just out of university.”

The dad explained that his son had been in a same-sex relationship that “ended badly” and he was “left feeling distraught”.

“I reacted very negatively to him being gay and now realise I didn’t give him my full support.”

He also admitted to making “racist remarks” about his son’s partner, claiming he was “fearful of the reaction of others”.

I reacted very negatively to him being gay and now realise I didn’t give him my full support.

His son’s anger has been “close to the surface” for years, and the pair were estranged for some time.

Now, the father wishes he could change the way he reacted to his son’s coming out.

He is worried his cruel reaction to his son’s coming out has left a ‘scar’.

“He is happy with a partner now but it has left a scar on him. I’ve said I am sorry but it sounds so meaningless.”

In her response, advice columnist Deidre Sanders told the man that children crave “unconditional love” from their parents – and noted that this is why his son feels so hurt.

“If your attitudes and prejudices really have changed, apologising to your son now will sound authentic,” she wrote.

Sanders concluded by telling the man to write his son a letter where he can carefully word an apology that comes from the heart.

 

Cruel dad whipped his teen son mercilessly after finding him using Grindr

Cruel dad whipped his teen son mercilessly after finding him

A father in a southern England town assailed his own 15-year-old son – humiliating him and whipping him with a television cable – all because he joined Grindr.

Courts in Plymouth heard how the father launched into a brutal display of dominance against his own child as he lashing he son 20 times while calling him gay and a “woman” for joining the queer dating app.

The man, who is in his 40s but cannot be named to protect the identity of his son, forced his son to strip to just his underwear, PlymouthLive reported, in a disturbing saga that came to an end when the son fled his family home and broke down at school.

Senior barristers commented that the son will likely not only suffer from physical scarring due to the attack, but long-lasting psychological trauma, too.

Father launches into rash of violence against his own child for having Grindr on his mobile phone.

Plymouth Crown Court heard how the father hurled a volley of homophobic and transphobic insults towards his own son. His legal counsel sought to argue that the attack was not driven by hostility towards his child’s sexuality.

But the judge told the defendant: “You asked him about photographs of lots of boys on his phone and shouted ‘You are gay’ and ‘you are a woman’.

“You shouted: ‘What’s that between your legs?’

“You hit him again and again, some 20 times, with the television cable. You caused him ‘loads of pain’, to use his words.

“I have no doubt that part of the reason you became angry is that you saw material which you thought indicated he was bisexual.”

‘The son will inevitably suffer some psychological consequences,’ says senior barrister.

Prosecutors said the father asked to borrow the son’s mobile phone, leading him to see Grindr and the photographs that prompted the deluge of violence. He cornered the teen who then left to see a friend that evening.

The morning after, the father, again, confronted his son, lobbing vile remarks before forcing him to take off his pyjamas. Shivering in just underwear and socks, the son was then struck by his father “multiple times across his body, particularly his arm, breaking the skin there”, the Crown Prosecution Service’s Francesca Whebell said.

“While he was beating his son, the defendant was continuing to ask questions,” she said, noting that the father’s attack appeared motivated his the teen “exploring his sexuality”.

The son only managed to escape, she said, after he asked for a glass of water. He instead grabbed his school uniform and fled the scene, changing his clothes before class.

The defendant pleaded guilty to causing actual bodily harm on 30 September last year.

Recorder Pilgerstorfer QC said: “On the basis of the photographs, he is likely to be left with some scarring on his arm and he will inevitably suffer some psychological consequences.”

Anderson Cooper grateful to surrogate for his son Wyatt

Anderson Cooper grateful to surrogate for his son Wyatt

CNN’s Anderson Cooper is the proud father of a newborn baby boy. Wyatt Morgan Cooper was born on Monday weighing 7 pounds 2 ounces.

Cooper, 52, shared photos of Wyatt at the end of Thursday’s televised weekly global town hall on the coronavirus pandemic.

Cooper said in his on-air announcement that “I never thought it would be possible to have a child, and I am so grateful for all those who have paved the way, and for the doctors and nurses and everyone involved in my son’s birth.”

“Most of all,” he said, “I am eternally grateful to a remarkable surrogate who carried Wyatt, watched over him lovingly, tenderly, and gave birth to him.”

The news came as a big surprise to CNN viewers, as Cooper had not spoken publicly about his plans to have a baby.