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LGBTQ Parenting Roundup: “Imagination Station” Edition

LGBTQ Parenting Roundup: Post-Election Edition

Rounding it up again with various tidbits I haven’t covered elsewhere—including one about a Nebraska judge concerned that letting two women adopt would turn the court into an “imagination station”!

LGBTQ Parenting Roundup

Politics and Law: In the U.S.

  • The Connecticut Judiciary Committee passed the Connecticut Parentage Act (CPA), which would update the state’s laws to better protect children of all parents, including those born to non-biological, non-marital parents. (See my piece from earlier this month for details.) The bill now goes to the full General Assembly for a vote.
  • Some people in Hawaii are also trying to update that state’s parentage laws to allow make it easier for same-sex couples to establish parentage when a child is born (see my article here). A proposed bill was amended so that it now simply establishes a task force on the issue, which at least keeps the idea alive. Apparently some people were offended by the use of the term “cisheteronormative” in the original bill.
  • The Nebraska Supreme Court unanimously overturned a lower court ruling that had prevented a two-women couple from adopting the 3-year-old who had lived with them from birth. The lower court judge had said last year that state adoption law forbids a “wife and wife” from adopting, and to rule otherwise would make the court into an “imagination station.” The state Supreme Court kindly pointed out that the law says children “may be adopted by any adult person or persons,” and if that person has “a husband or wife,” the spouse must also join in the petition. Equality! Imagine that!
  • Virginia has enacted a law establishing second-parent (confirmatory) adoptions. Home studies will not be necessary (though the court can order an investigation and report in rare cases). It should go into effect July 1, 2021. Unfortunately, a bill that that would have repealed religious exemptions in child services, making it illegal to cite religious beliefs as a reason to discriminate, has died in committee.

Politics and Law: Around the World

  • New guidance that requires LGBT-inclusive education in England, Scotland, and Wales is “a huge step forward,” reports GQ UK, but although it “makes teaching LGBT-inclusive relationship and sex education compulsory, there remains no legal impetus for the teaching of wider LGBT issues or history.”
  • Two Irish women have become the first same-sex couple in the country to be legally recognized as the parents of their children from birth, after the full enactment last May of the 2015 Child and Family Relationships Act, which allows them both to be on their children’s birth certificates without a court process. (My usual cautionary note to same-sex couples in the U.S.: Being on your child’s birth certificate as a nongestational/nonbiological parent is important, but not enough for ironclad legal recognition across the country.)
  • Italy’s Constitutional Court has said the country needs a law protecting the rights of children of same-sex couples, but did not rule on the parental rights of plaintiffs in two cases—a pair of dads seeking legal recognition after becoming parents through surrogacy, and a nonbiological mom seeking parental rights after breaking up with the biological mom. Gianfranco Goretti, president of Famiglie Arcobaleno (Rainbow Families), the country’s organization for LGBTQ families, said in a statement, “Even the Council recognizes that our sons and daughters are without rights. It is only regrettable that, after having ruled this, the Court did not want to go further, leaving our families once again without the rights and duties that are recognized to other couples.” [“Anche la Consulta riconosce che i nostri figli e le nostre figlie sono senza diritti. Spiace solo che, dopo aver sentenziato questo, la Corte non si sia voluta spingere più in là, lasciando ancora una volta le nostre famiglie prive dei diritti e dei doveri che invece sono riconosciuti alle altre coppie.”]
  • Poland has banned people in same-sex couples from adopting, even if they are applying to adopt as single parents.

Education and Schools

  • The Leander school district in Texas has removed a number of books from the book-club-style units of its middle and high school English classes. “The books tagged for removal are primarily LGBTQ stories and graphic novels, as well as books that deal with sexual assault,” reports the National Coalition Against Censorship.

Entertainment and Media

  • The Gainesville Sun marked recent the 25th anniversary of The Birdcage, the hit 1996 film starring Robin Williams and Nathan Lane, about two gay men, a drag club owner and a drag queen, whose grown son asks them to tone down their flamboyance when meeting his fiancée and her conservative parents. The article speculates that the film might not only have boosted the reputations of its stars, but “may have helped make mainstream the idea of a non-heterosexual family.” Without minimizing the movie’s impact, I’ll also give credit to the 1993 Newsweek cover story about lesbians, which noted, “There have always been lesbian parents, but in previous decades they tended to be women who discovered their sexuality some time after marriage and motherhood. Increasingly, there are lesbian couples who are becoming mothers together.”

It’s Sunlight Kitchens and Sweaty Kisses on “Station 19”

It's Sunlight Kitchens and Sweaty Kisses on "Station 19"

Happy Friday! Welcome back to Boobs on Your Tube! The days are shorter and the nights are colder, but at least Heather is here to tell you Derry Girls on Great British Bake Off is the only good thing to happen in 2020. Sally did some investigative reporting you won’t want to miss, may humbly we present: 10 Times Things Went Well But Also Very Badly For Lesbians on Rooftops. Riese would like to know which Happiest Season character are you? Over in our lost movie reviews, Kayla noted the plain facts that sex is weird, and she loved that Cheryl Dunye’s Mommy Is Coming leans right into it without pretending to have the answers. We got some pretty massive The L Word: Generation Q casting news this week — Rosie O’Donnell has been cast as a human rights attorney named “Carrie” and we are 97% sure that’s Tina fiancée. What’s that you say?? Rosie vs. Bette is a Top Off the entire TV Team cannot wait to see.

Drew curated our next End of Year Pop Culture List: The Best Lesbian, Bisexual, and Queer Movies of 2020 and then our entire team came together to create our magnum opus Disney Characters, Ranked by Bisexuality.

A collage from the Bisexual Disney Characters list: Moana, Megara, Tramp, and Mulan.

“Name a more bisexual activity than cutting off your own hair with a sword.” — Heather Hogan

Ahem, Today marks the premiere date of Netflix’s The Prom and we have all your needs covered! Valerie gave Carmen and Drew a promposal to join her in a review of the film, Netflix’s The Prom Review: Broadway’s Favorite Teen Lesbians Warmed Our Unruly Hearts and Drew tapped deep into her film nerdery to chronicle the complete history of queer women in movie musicals from Calamity Jane to The Prom, just in time to honor our cute teen lesbians’ debut on the silver screen.

Notes from the TV Team: 

+  Heather is furiously watching and catching up Star Trek, and she’ll have some thoughts for you next week! Set your excitement to warp speed! (Get it?)  — Carmen

+ Natalie did a little deep dive over on TVLine and came up with this little tidbit.  — Carmen

+ Me again! This is the last thing! There was a lot of news yesterday from Disney+ and their upcoming 2021/2022 projects, but none excited me more than a Ms. Marvel television series!! I would like my teen Muslim superhero and I would like her right now!  — Carmen

+ On All Rise, we got a glimpse of the personal and professional life of Judge Benner this week. On the professional front, she forced Judge Carmichael to recuse herself from a case because of the potential appearance of impropriety. Needless to say, Carmichael is not thrilled; she criticizes Benner for not being more gentle with the defendant. Meanwhile, on the personal front, Benner is enjoy life as a singleton: she’s a hot prospect on the dating apps. It feels like the show is laying the groundwork for Benner to have a bigger role on the show once Carmichael takes her maternity leave so…fingers crossed. — Natalie

S.W.A.T. 403: “The Black Hand Man”

Written by Natalie

Chris trains for the Master Gunner competition with Erika, the only other female member of SWAT.

In almost every reality competition show on TV, there’s always one contestant who comes in the competition proclaiming, “I’m not here to make friends, I’m here to win.” This week, on S.W.A.T., Chris Alonso was that contestant.

Looking to boost her standing for the Tactical Leadership Institute (TLI) , Chris opts to participate in the Master Gunner competition. She’s intently focused on the competition…so much so that she practices assembling her weapon blindfolded. Even after she achieves a personal best, Chris wants to keep going — hoping to shave an additional 0.3 seconds off her time — because she knows the Master Gunner competition will be close. Erika relents and promises to time Chris once more but warns, once she wins, they’re going to have a beer and a long talk about her work/life balance.

In front of her teammates, Chris plays it cool. Hondo reminds them that no one from the team has won the competition in eight years and he’s expecting them to represent. Street offers to show Chris a trick that could shave 0.3 seconds off her time but she declines his help. She lies and tells Street that training hasn’t been going well and that she’s not going to lose sleep over the competition anymore. It’s a bit of misdirection that Chris hopes will get Street to ease up on his training.

The Master Gunner competition is a two part trial — the assembling of an assault rifle followed by a challenging shoot course — and Chris sails through it. Deacon lets it slip that she’s leading the pack thus far and her near perfect run will be tough for anyone to beat. But, of course because the “I’m not here to make friends, I’m here to win” contestant rarely actually wins, Chris loses the Master Gunner competition to Street by a measly 0.18 seconds. She applauds her teammate’s success but when she’s alone with Erika, it’s clear how much the loss stings.

“When I first met Street, he was the guy with the crazy mom who then got kicked out of SWAT and barely made it back. And now, he’s got it all figured out,” Chris laments. “[It] feels like we swapped places somehow and he left me behind.”

While Erika can’t resolve Chris’ issues with Street, she does make one great recommendation: the lone two female members of SWAT should be roommates.

Station 19 404: “Don’t Look Back in Anger”

Written by Carmen

A Station 19 still where Maya and Carina laugh together as Maya pulls Carina by the waist into their sunlit bathroom.

So Carina moved into Maya’s apartment a few weeks ago, but she has really moved in now — and with her pasta and cheese hanging everywhere, Andy correctly surmises that its a bit like living inside one of my favorite restaurants in college, Buca di Beppo. Y’all — there’s a lot of cheese, and it is everywhere.

Later at work, Maya confesses to Andy that she’s a little terrified of living with Carina. It’s not Carina, she’s great. It’s that sharing her space is bringing back up and re-triggering lots of memories of the emotional abuse of growing up with her father. You see, her brother — he just buried his head in the sand like their mother, but Maya? Maya became a carbon copy of him, just to avoid his rage. She goes on to tell a story about a friend taking one of her father’s soda cans during an 8th grade sleepover and it’s harrowing. Of course, now Maya is afraid she’s going to lose it and spew “Who took my last can of soda?” venom all over poor Carina if she’s not careful.

(Ok this scene is very emotional and beautifully acted and please excuse me for this, but ahem the entire exchange happens while Maya is carrying around piles of fire hoses for exercise and Danielle Savre were all I could focus on the first time I watched. I AM ONLY HUMAN AFTER ALL!!! But also, I mean.. damn. Ok moving on!)

Andy correctly points out that the first step in not becoming her father is to admit that she doesn’t want to be her father, which means that Maya is well on her way. I agree completely! But the second step is probably therapy, and I hope Maya is able to get some support in that as well.

After her shift, all sweaty and just breathtakingly hot, Maya comes home. She goes to grab Carina for hug, who playfully demurs and asks Maya to take a shower first. But Maya’s anger flares in response, demanding to know what exactly is up with all the cheese taking over her kitchen. Carina surprisingly doesn’t rise to Maya’s anger. Instead she tells her that she misses home, she misses Italy. The Covid numbers are even worse there and she knows that with his mental illness, her father doesn’t listen to rules well. What if something happens to him? So instead of worrying, she is doing everything she can to make her home, well, feel like home.

Maya immediately softens (how could you not??) and shifts the conversation to telling Carina all about the baby she delivered — well more like caught flying out of this woman’s legs. But first, she is going to shower, and then they are going to get in bed naked. Yes m’am Captain Bisexual. Whatever you say.