Tag: Sunday

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is a Temporary Creature

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is a Temporary Creature

Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

Domina Mari and Billie LaBeau

Domina Mari and Billie LaBeau in Brooklyn Leather Rascals from Mondo Fetiche

There are no soul mates, so let go of that narrative and enjoy your life instead:

“We are temporary creatures, Soul Mate. Even when we love someone a whole lot, we eventually have to lose them, and they will have to lose us. Loss is a fact of this life. But as long as we continue to travel, to move, and to live, we will continue to meet people who bring out the best in us, people we want the world for, people who make us stop and think, How was this person sharing this planet with me all this time?

I think that’s what true love is, Soul Mate. It’s true as it needs to be, anyway. And I think when it presents itself to us, if we are open to it, we can have it for a while.”

Domina Mari and Billie LaBeau

Domina Mari and Billie LaBeau in Brooklyn Leather Rascals from Mondo Fetiche

Let’s watch a porno“:

“‘You want to watch porn?’ I tried to make it sound like a joke, but my voice came out huskier than I’d meant. We’d talked about this type of scene — watching something together as C told me everything they’d do to the person on screen if they were here, everything they’d make me do — but I’d thought it was a fantasy. I hadn’t realized they’d meant it. I swallowed hard.

They arched an eyebrow. ‘Why not?’”

Domina Mari and Billie LaBeau

Domina Mari and Billie LaBeau in Brooklyn Leather Rascals from Mondo Fetiche

Only 36% of respondents to an OkCupid survey said their ideal first date right now is outdoors. What are the rest of y’all doing?

Who’s gaslighting who?

Intimacy coordinators are getting formalized.

Don’t try to change your partner.

It’s actually fine to keep score in relationships, sometimes.

Domina Mari and Billie LaBeau

Domina Mari and Billie LaBeau in Brooklyn Leather Rascals from Mondo Fetiche

Having a summer of sex doesn’t mean having a summer of STIs:

“Regardless of how this conversation goes, it’s also a good idea to use condoms or dental dams with new partners (until you’ve had a conversation about how to safely fluid-bond), to wash your sex toys after every use, to visit the OB-GYN regularly, and to get tested for STIs at least once a year (now’s a good time!). As a longer-term strategy, you can also protect yourself by getting the HPV vaccine, which is now available to folks up to age 45 and protects against the most dangerous strains of HPV, which can lead to cervical cancer.”

Carolyn Yates

Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1091 articles for us.

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Taking Nudes

NSFW Lesbosexy Sunday Is Taking Nudes


Welcome to NSFW Sunday!

Adina and Saffron

Adina and Saffron in Crash Pad Series episode 303

Here’s how to take your best nudes ever:

“Wear something you feel attractive in, whether it’s lingerie or nothing at all. Don’t try out a brand-new look if it’s not something you’re comfortable with. Stick with your usual presentation and even consider taking your pics when you’re dolled up for an impending event. Shave or don’t shave. Go full glam or bare-faced. This is your party and don’t you forget it.”

Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa

Halo the GxdBody and La Muxer Diosa in Crash Pad Series episode 305

Venus is now in Taurus.

Here’s some erotica by Innkeeper Worm.

Dylan Ryan and T.Pfister

Dylan Ryan and T.Pfister in Crash Pad Series episode 306

How are you building vaccine transparency into your dating life? Shelli Nicole writes:

“I’m ready to hit the streets, I might even be ready to go to a lil’ outdoor dining moment (MAYBE). But even if we’re just gonna be on an hours-long date at the lake, I need to know that you’ve either been vaxxed or are trying hard to get it – and I’m probably gonna wanna see your card. Just like you don’t mind exchanging screenshots of recent testing, it’s gonna work that way too. I’m not necessarily anxious about what dating would look like because, well, I’m great at dating. My dating priorities haven’t changed; they just got some things added.”

Adina Powers and Scout

Adina Powers and Scout in Crash Pad Series episode 286

Here are six women on being diagnosed with endometriosis.

You can now learn shibari from an app. (Or from Autostraddle.)

Carolyn Yates

Carolyn Yates was the NSFW Editor (2013–2018) and Literary Editor for Autostraddle.com, with bylines in Nylon, Refinery29, The Toast, Bitch, Xtra!, Jezebel, and elsewhere. They live in Los Angeles and also on twitter and instagram.

Carolyn has written 1088 articles for us.

Pandemic collaboration ‘Sunday, Someday’ out now – Lesbian.com

Pandemic collaboration ‘Sunday, Someday’ out now – Lesbian.com

Sunday, Someday is a compilation album created by a group of like-minded musicians who began meeting virtually each Sunday after their planned tour together was cancelled due to the pandemic. Alt/punk band Nervus (UK), pop/rock trio Potty Mouth (LA), indie/folk/punk songwriter KOJI (PA), singer/songwriter Solstice Rey (PA) and multimedia artist Full on Mone’t (PA) contributed songs to the album, while crew members who would have been on the tour lent their creative and promotional support. Queer-run independent label Get Better Records will release the album on March 26, 2021.

While the album developed initially to support a member’s fundraising efforts for top surgery, when they reached their fundraising goal, the focus shifted to supporting aftercare expenses and LGBTQI+ youth initiatives. In partnership with Harrisburg, PA coffee roaster Little Amps, Get Better Records has launched a pre-order bundle benefitting the LGBT Center of Central PA’s afterschool program by funding acoustic treatment for youth with sensory needs.

This commitment to supporting queer community members is deeply personal for the group, as the bands involved are comprised primarily of LGBTQI+ people, including members who identify as queer, trans, non-binary, and agender. “We wanted to be a part of creating more access to LGBTQI+ spaces,” says Ally Einbinder (Potty Mouth). “These are resources none of us were fortunate enough to have growing up.”

Living remotely from one another and in relative isolation during the pandemic actually created more space for collaboration. “When pandemic and uprising hit, our instinct was to turn toward one another, to create together, and to support one another,” says KOJI. “Whether we’re doing mutual aid, community care, or we’re out at a protest, we had each other to make sense of the world and what was going on. This project is just an extension of the care that we give to each other and our communities.”

Every aspect of song production and artwork creation for the album was done within the group: Nervus contributed guitars and drums on both Solstice Rey tracks, Em Foster (Nervus) and KOJI mixed and mastered all of the tracks on the album, Abby Weems (Potty Mouth) designed the album art, and Nervus’ manager Megan Rose designed the website for the project. Collaboration, however, extends far beyond album credits, and the power or sum of the project is based on the invisible work and the creativity that takes place within authentic relationships.

“It’s exciting to work on something with people I feel so connected to and understood by,” says Abby Weems (Potty Mouth). “This release is an opportunity for all of us to use our collective passions, skills, and resources to support each other as artists and as people with our own personal needs.”

“This record is a celebration of living in community,” says KOJI. “It’s a project that asks, ‘what world is possible when everyone’s needs are met?’”

Come Vibe with Me: Simple Sunday Goodbyes

Come Vibe with Me: Simple Sunday Goodbyes

Image shows black woman in bed with tattoos on her arm with 3 different textured blankets surrounding her.

I feel like I’ll always be on a constant search on how to be more intimate in my writing.

It’s not that I don’t know how to be, it’s just that I am always floating between wondering what’s too much to share and what’s not enough. I needed a space where I could safely navigate that and as a friend of Dorothy’s I’ll just say it — there’s no place like home. Autostraddle was the absolute perfect place to explore it.

Testing out levels of intimacy I was comfortable with while also surrounding it by other things that were important to me in the media landscape: Sharing work from other Black and brown writers, visual mediums that have queer folks of color at its core, sharing job opportunities and more that help my communities and then rounding it all out with the perfect soundtrack.

I’ve learned a lot writing these letters to you every week. Most importantly, I’ve learned that I don’t have to give up my natural private nature for the sake of proving that I can be intimate in my writing .

I’m a believer in ending things when you feel like they either no longer serve you or when you know that feeling is creeping up. I’m so thankful that every week you came here to get a bit of me and that you came into my world and chilled with me every Sunday. I’m not going anywhere, you’ll still find me on the site weekly bringing you joy through the queer Black babes of TikTok, chatting with Dani about a film or album, and of course, writing about all things dating and sex — but this little corner is coming to a close.

Thanks for vibing with me and as always,

Sweet Sunday babes.


Y’all Come Look at This


I’ve managed to meet a solid crew of great folks on Clubhouse — but the app is still rife with phobias of all sort. This piece on it’s racial bias’s sums it up beautifully.

I will never not read pieces on Black women and our hair, so this one on the evolution of natural hair industry was a natural choice to sit back and take in.

A gorgeous read on how Britain’s queer South Asian community created connection and found solace with each other inside the comfort of their own homes in the ’80s and 90’s.

My love for Megan Thee Stallion and Mean Girls decided to come together and make me happy — I have watched the video about 1000 times and I appreciate every text I got about it when it came out!

I love this list celebrating some of televisions Black fictional babes — also I am in love with Wandavision and Teyonah Parris so I am using this as an opportunity to propose marriage, please send me your ring size.

Image shows dark teal background with the text "Ungodly Hour" written in silver chrome colored font.

Ungodly Hour

“I don’t have the time, to teach you how to love all over again.”

Chloe x Halle’s latest album Ungodly Hour has been on heavy rotation in my spot since it came out, and the latest video from the album has been released.

Ungodly Hour is packed full of afro-futuristic visuals, a wardrobe that I want to steal, and pretty much every scene is the perfect still.

I’m genuinely hoping that they decide to make a video for every track on the album but for now just bask in the beauty and talent of these two lovely babes.

Watch the entire video here


The point of this space was to remind people of the importance of community. I miss going into coffee shops and looking through the bulletin board of events that were coming up, job opportunities, and chances to volunteer. I wanted to mimic that feeling in this space and remind folks that there can be some virtual semblance of it. Things like having someone to talk to, sharing warmth and resources are all small but mighty moving parts in taking care of our own. I hope you look back to all the bulletin boards I have shared over the months and continue to keep mutual aid and community connection a big part of your life.


I just want you to look at me like this forever.

Saying see ya later with the songs that have been in heavy rotation for me this past month — sound up sweeties.


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Come Vibe With Me: Sunday Cozy Sunday

Come Vibe With Me: Sunday Cozy Sunday

Welcome to Come Vibe With Me, my new weekly Sunday column here on Autostraddle.

Sundays are my favorite day of the week, the afternoons in particular. I wake up, take my time making the sexiest homemade coffee drink I’ve had all week, put on my lofi hip-hop beats, cozy up on the couch, and start reading all the articles I’ve saved in my Pocket app through the week.

I had to start my Sunday with The Sanderson Sisters

It’s the start to me resetting after what has probably been a long week. Putting myself first and kicking back. I do the things that make me happy, which is something more and more black people have been learning and encouraged to do in recent months, and I am absolutely here for it. As my Sunday goes on, I tend to my plants, watch shows or films, hop on a zoom date — I do what I want to curate the cozy vibe my Sundays have come to be.

If you aren’t new to me here on Autostraddle, you know that community, true self-care, and vibes are quite important to me. My identity allows me to be part of multiple communities at once and although sometimes that can be draining, most days it’s a beautiful fulfilling experience. I want to use this space to share with you things from the multiple facets of who I am that I’ve enjoyed throughout the week.

You’ll find articles that I connected with, be introduced to movies & television that I couldn’t stop watching, find ways to do your part to help different communities and so much more — all while vibing out to a weekly playlist curated by me to play during your Sundays.

I hope you find joy in this piece of me that I wanted to share with you.

It’s simple, it’s Shelli and it’s a Vibe.

Love ya bunches honeys,

Shelli Nicole


Y’all Come Look at This

Peppermint is my pastel princess in her latest music video “Best Sex” — This video makes me miss getting eaten out on kitchen countertops more than I already did

Rachel Charlene Lewis & Evette Dionne chat about their disappointment with the new Netflix series Emily In Paris

Lex Amor had her Colors show this week and every bit of it was amazing — this performance of her song Odogwu is Sunday perfection

Fahima Hersi on her black identity and racism in the muslim community during the time of revolution

Lovecraft Country creator Misha Green took accountability for the hurtful storyline of the show’s Two-Spirit Indigenous character, Yahima

Jamila Woods talks creativity, blackness, femininity, and more while modeling the latest Perfect Number collection. Photos shot by the wonderfully dope Mercedes Zapata

The hairstyles of 8 Black Final Girls — Angela Bassett and her bangs deserve literally everything good in the world

Remember COVID is still a very big thing and it’s also flu season, Big Freedia premiered Rona Rona this week to remind you to cancel your plans, stay at home, and chill in the fucking house.


The poster of Vampires vs. The Bronx on Netflix, in which four Black and Latinx Teens are hand drawn holding roses and stakes while they fight vampires.

Vampires VS. The Bronx

It’s Halloween season and while I will be revisiting my favorite spooky movies non-stop I am excited to get some new ones too. Vampires Vs. The Bronx is the story of a few teens who are minding their own business — while trying to save their neighborhood from gentrification, drug dealers, and vampires.

I’ve already watched it a few times and it’s such a cute movie! It’s gonna give you a few jump scares, will def make you laugh and it’s got a hella witty plot that unfolds and wraps up decently. The cast is mostly Latinx and Black, and I love that because having more POC folks in the horror genre is needed and wanted.

There are def vampires in your neighborhood but the question is, are you on of them?

Watch the trailer here!


This week on the bulletin board we have some sweet platonic love speed friending, A live chat about being queer, Black, and Caribbean from some of our British homies, an opportunity to support Black Trans Power in Chicago, the return of QUEEN! live from Chicago and much more! If you have any QTBIPOC Events, Mutual Aids, Fellowships and more that you want to share with me send me a message over on Instagram.

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This playlist came to me after I imagined chilling on a beautiful woman’s couch. My fingers in her hair while she comfortably lays between my legs, a throw gently draped over us, and the music serving as our soundtrack. Play this and kick back — think about that kind of sweetness on a Sunday morning.

Sunday Funday Is Swooning Over Sue Bird With Megan Rapinoe

Sunday Funday Is Swooning Over Sue Bird With Megan Rapinoe

Happy Sunday, friends! Last Sunday was Ari’s last roundup for you, and they left you with so many good wishes and so much love! I’m here and queer to fill in until we have a new columnist to go steady with you. It’s a cool 61 degrees here in New York City; all my cats are in all the windows; and I’m going to make some buttermilk biscuits as soon as I publish this Funday! If, like me, you’re trying not to check the news incessantly because it’s terrible for your mental health, but also it’s hard not to check the news incessantly because everything is so forkin’ bananas, I hope you’ll remember to stay hydrated, at least, and that these good gay-ish links will keep you distracted for a little while.


+ It’s time for the WNBA finals, you gays! Seattle leads the Aces 1-0. Game two is today at 3:00pm. You’ve really gotta read this thing Megan Rapinoe wrote about Sue Bird.

+ How a Black lesbian took down a racist, pandemic-partying fraternity in the deep south.

+ Trans recognition is improving despite right-wing backlash around the world.

+ The elusive Mariah Carey’s new memoir.

+ Related!

+ Japan Airlines drops “ladies and gentlemen” for gender-neutral greetings.

+ The unsung heroes of suffrage and Civil Rights movement.

+ Natalie has published her comprehensive voter’s guide! Remember: making a plan to vote on election day is like shopping for Christmas on December 24th. Today’s the last day to register to vote in Alaska and South Carolina, and Monday’s the last day for Arizona, Arkansas, Florida, Georgia, Hawaii, Indiana, Kentucky, Mississippi, Ohio, Tennessee and Texas!

+ TikTok’s queer “it girls” are creating new LGBTQ+ safe spaces.

+ Laura Jane Grace’s surprise new album is “everything quarantine music should be.” 

+ Doris Burke on life inside the NBA bubble.

+ Canada revives efforts to ban conversion therapy nationwide.

+ You’ve probably heard by now, queer people are way more likely to suffer from migraines. One of my all-time favorite YouTubers, queer disability activist and all around charmer, Jessica Kellgren-Fozard, has made you a video of migraine cures NOT to try.

Heather Hogan

Heather Hogan is an Autostraddle senior writer who lives in New York City with her partner, Stacy, and their cackle of rescued pets. She’s a member of the Television Critics Association, the Gay and Lesbian Entertainment Critics Association, and a Rotten Tomatoes Tomatometer critic. You can also find her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram.

Heather has written 1024 articles for us.

Sunday Funday is Celebrating Weddings, Babies, and Nancy Meyers

Sunday Funday is Celebrating Weddings, Babies, and Nancy Meyers

Hello friends and happy Sunday! We’re here once again, back at it to talk about the good things in this world, like babies being born and NEW NANCY MEYERS SPECIALS, and so much more. I’m not gonna ruin it for you, let’s get right on into it.


+ Gorgeous fat femme Chaya Milchtein and her masc partner Morgan got married in the most perfect COVID compliant wedding.

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I was able to peacefully sob my way through my vows because of one incredible plus size woman, @robinechalmers . She’s a day of cordinator and truely was my right hand woman. Robin made sure we had enough water, my veil was steamed, lunch was pucked up, the alter was set up, our glass and wine was purchased and so so many other things. It would have been a wildly hectic day without her. Go follow her! She’s a recently married plus size beauty. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I wrote my own vows and then read them to my queen. Here’s what I said: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Morgan, when I met you I didn’t think I’d ever want to marry, because somehow marrying meant I’d lose a piece of myself. With you, that’s not been further than the truth. You’ve breathed a passion into me that I didn’t know could exist. A desire to be content, happy, and fulfilled. I won’t hesitate to proudly call you my love, my wife. Today is our ultimate compromise. A wedding with no one, yet with everyone present. I promise to spend my life compromising with you, finding creative ways to mesh our two unique identities to accomplish things that will make us both happy.  Sometimes I can be a bit much, but you mellow me out. Either way, I promise to make space for you to have your alone time, to not do anything for a bit, and just let you focus on you. And of course, to kick you out of the house to ride your tricycle.  Part of growing with each other has meant learning to travel and explore, vacation, and adventure. I promise you that I’ll always make time to travel with you, planning adventures as often as we can afford them, because life is short, and I want to see the world with you before we leave it. And I’ll try to stay off my phone too.. Above all, I promise to honor and respect you, hold your hand when things get rough, and really listen to you when you speak. Honor and love work side by side, and I promise to keep working every day to earn and keep each of those.  ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 📷 @naturalnerd_designs Hair: @jasmine_shearcanvas 💄@j_jtheemua 👑 + Veil @laine_london 💍 @zalesjewelers 👗👗 @davidsbridal #2wives #queerentinebrides #queers #Marriedlife #gaywedding #interracialcouple

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What’s that about bridal wear being gender neutral? We love to see it!

+ Good news! Your burnt pans are not gone for good! You can fix this!!!!!

+ Schitt’s Creek fans are studying Indigenous history together, you should join!

+ Sarah Paulson has the greatest response for the next time someone asks you about your May/December relationship.

+ TBH, spending the Jewish New Year watching Nora Ephron and eating smoked fish doesn’t sound half bad.

+ How RBG is living on in popular culture, featuring our fave Kate McKinnon.

+ The Connecticut LGBTQ Film Festival runs October 2 to 10 both online and at a drive-in theatre in Manchester! Cute date night idea!!!!

+ Rocky Horror Picture Show and embracing queer expression

+ Catch your first glimpse of The Ammonite at the 32nd Annual New York LGBTQ Film Festival!

+ Wow okay so Father of the Bride Part 3-ish is such a JOY!!!!

+ 50 photos of birds to bring you joy

+ Shanda Leer, a queer drag performer, connects to queer fans through… sports?

+ Temídayo Amay, a nonbinary actor recently won a Helen Hayes for Outstanding Supporting Performer in a Play

+ Batman and Robin is the definition of Camp.

This is what makes Batman and Robin so interesting. It seems to exist largely as a rejection of that vanilla and bland sexuality in Batman Forever. If Batman Forever felt like an uncomfortable embrace of the homophobic paranoia of Seduction of the Innocent, then Batman and Robin plays like a firm rejection of the philosophy of Frederic Wertham. There is something quite compelling in all of this, and Batman and Robin is fascinating to revisit in that context.

+ Queer oral histories are connecting rural queers across the US

+ The sweetest Op-Doc from the NYT about Club Quarantine, the hottest queer club on Zoom.

+ Charlie Martin is thought to be the first transgender racer to compete in 24 Hours of Nürburgring

+ Amanda Nunes has a daughter!

Editor’s Note 9/27/20: An earlier version of this column referred to Chaya Milchtein and Morgan as femme partners.  That reference has since been updated. We apologize for the error.


And that’s all folks. For this week’s good news, and also for my time at Autostraddle. Today’s Sunday Funday is my last post as a writer for Autostraddle dot com, a place I have grown so much at and have great love for. I will miss writing these for you each week, I will miss answering your questions in the A+ Inbox, I’ll even miss moderating your comments. But everything, literally everything comes to an end, and this is the end of my time. I’m going to remember it fondly. I’m leaving with a full heart, and eyes excited about what the future brings for me.

So, like I tell you every week: I love you so much. Do something for yourself this week: read a book you’ve been meaning to read, take a long lay on your couch, get a weighted blanket. Snuggle your pets, snuggle your person(s), wear a danged mask, and believe that everything, bad things and good things, will have an end. And that endings are not bad, they’re just endings. Okay, I really do love you, mean it, bye.❤️🌈✨

Ari

Ari is a 20-something artist and educator. They are a mom to two cats, they love domesticity, ritual, and porch time. They have studied, loved, and learned in CT, Greensboro, NC, and ATX.

Ari has written 322 articles for us.

Sunday Funday Is Making a High Holidays Cheese Plate with Audre Lorde!

Sunday Funday Is Making a High Holidays Cheese Plate with

Hello! Happy Sunday! L’shana tova?! I don’t know y’all, “a sweet new year” kind of feels like a threat? But yes, it’s the Jewish New Year, there’s a chill in the air, and perhaps we are learning a lesson in holding joy and pain together.

Well friends, thanks but I hate it. I just want VIBES, you know? Like, this summer I wanted braids, and good music and kombuchas with friends while laying under a shady tree, and this autumn I want flat twists, Bon Iver, warm apple juice, and dinner parties! BUT NOOOOOO, we have to grapple with our mortality and think about who we want to be and dig deep into methods of care… WHERE ARE THE VIBES??? Anyway. This is “Sunday Funday” not “Sunday when Ari lets out all of their anxieties about the state of the world Day.” So, let’s get to something fun, shall we?


+ Octavia Butler’s books are becoming pandemic reading for a lot of us, and it makes sense! (We even read Parable of the Sower together earlier this year, right here on Autostraddle!)

+ Autumnal clothing being sewed!! Cute!!!!

+ Mabel Ping-Hua Lee is a feminist you should know.

Lee is believed to have been born around 1895 in Guangzhou, China. She moved to the United States around 1905 to join her father, the Rev. Lee To, a Christian missionary who had been assigned to a church in Chinatown. She lived with her parents there on Bayard Street. The Lees were among the rare Chinese immigrants who were allowed into the United States at the time under federal legislation that had sharply restricted their entry since 1882, when Congress passed the Exclusion Act, banning Chinese laborers to appease white nativists who had resented an influx of Chinese-immigrant prospectors and railroad workers in the West.

+ Zoe Hsu is casting illustrating Black and Brown folks into traditionally white movies.

Roxane Gay writes on the legacy of Audre Lorde.

+ RBG’s most iconic quotes. May her memory be a blessing to us all.

+ Happy New Year Jewish family!! If you, like me, are all alone, maybe a cheese plate will make you feel better!

+ Why is no one talking about 1930s shoes?!

+ God, remember snack time in middle school???

+ The pope loves your gay kids! 🙏🏾📿

+ Julie and the Phantoms has a super cute queer romance.


Well friends, that’s what we’ve got today. I love you, I love our little happy chats, I’m thankful for all you are and for how hard you’re trying. This week is gonna be good, I know it. Breathe in the cool weather, take a (masked) walk in the breeze, clean your windows, wake up with the sunrise one morning (or every morning if you have a cat who loves to yell). Keep on keeping on.

Did I mention I love you? I do! I really do. Kick ass this week. You’re amazing.

Ari

Ari is a 20-something artist and educator. They are a mom to two cats, they love domesticity, ritual, and porch time. They have studied, loved, and learned in CT, Greensboro, NC, and ATX.

Ari has written 321 articles for us.

Sunday Funday Will Not Be Throwing a Gender Reveal for Miss Major’s Baby!

Sunday Funday Will Not Be Throwing a Gender Reveal for

Happy Sunday friends! This week I watched too much Grey’s Anatomy and fucked up my challah watching Izzie be Izzie. I also made my first ever actual sourdough loaf (she’s perfect), went to my first Selichot service, and stress bought eight fancy candles. Just an average week during a global pandemic. I made apple sauce, raspberry jam, and strawberry jam because for two perfect days, it was 68º in Austin, TX. In September! I’m starting to think the universe is not conspiring against me!

I’m gonna ride this high and focus on good news!


+ Are you still keeping up your sourdough starter? Gail (my starter) is doing well, and I hate throwing away her daughters, so here’s a recipe for strawberry and pecan scones to use up your sourdough daughters.

+ These queer women are making space for themselves in ballet.

+ Lucy Worsley is a straight white lady in the UK who stays in her lane and makes really cute documentaries about historic things. Fall in love with her newest one while you’re pretending time still matters.

+ Wynne Nowland came out as trans and it “stirred surprise, support and new challenges at the company she runs”

+ 19 Black families bought almost 100 acres of land in Georgia to create a safe space for Black families.

+ Miss Major and Beck are having a baby, and they will not be revealing the baby’s sex! Hooray and Hallelujah indeed!!

+ Sohla El-Waylly cooks three recipes that define her life.

+ San Jose’s Post Street is the city’s first LGBTQ+ district.

+ The Transgender First National Scholarship is the first of its kind for trans students.

+ A snake laid 7 eggs, even though she hasn’t been around a male snake in years. Good for her! Also, isn’t this the plot of Jurassic Park???

+ The film Tahara puts a Black queer Jewish teen at the center of it while she navigates her grief. 

+ Inside Lena Waithe and Rishi Rajani’s Los Angeles office with Architectural Digest


And that, my friends, is all the good news fit to print. I’m off to go pay too much money to have a doctor look at my arm, which I lost 180º of motion in over a month ago. I love the medical industrial complex! Then tonight I’m gonna put on a robe and Auntie it out to the Gladys Knight and Patti Labelle Verzuz battle, then watch a Brandi Carlile concert, and convince my girlfriend to watch Cabaret with me.

This week will be good. I will be happy. I will be provided for. I will take care of my community, and they will take care of me. We got this! Have an amazing week, I love you, I’ll see you soon.

Ari

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Sunday Funday and “Star Trek: Discovery” Knows the Future Isn’t Cis

Sunday Funday and "Star Trek: Discovery" Knows the Future Isn't

Here we are, back at another week of being in our homes. I am so grateful for my home, and the fact that I am able to live out this quarantine in relative safety, but let me tell you, as someone who lives alone/doesn’t drive and therefore knows it’s unsafe to have a pod, I’m so sad and lonely. I cried watching an old recording of my synagogue sing Lecha Dodi this week because like, will we ever gather again like that? Will I ever have a need for a slightly modest dress and heels again? Will I ever gossip with my nail girl again while she roasts me for biting my nails or breaking my acrylics? I don’t know. Joy feels hard to come by. But I have to believe it’s there. I have to, I have to, I have to. Even if it’s just by vicariously living through Niecy Nash’s new marriage. I don’t know y’all, this shit is hard.

Here’s some joy. Come get y’alls juice.


+ Carmen mentioned it in this week’s AAA, but it’s worth mentioning again, that Julianne Moore and Janelle Monáe look amazing in the upcoming film The Glorias

+ I honestly love the NYT’s “Overlooked No More” obituary series? Like almost as much as the weddings section when there’s more than one queer announcement. This week they’re talking about Charlotta Bass, the first Black woman to run as Vice President and prolific journalist.

+ 25 scenes of female empowerment that made people feel feelings.

+ In the 1920s, just as in the 2020s, meaningful change begins and happens at a local level. Edith Ainge helped by using her local knowledge to shape the national conversation on women’s suffrage.

+ Despite nationwide prejudice, trans people in Haiti are finding refuge in The Kay Trans Haiti Center.

+ If you miss concerts, may I suggest Brandi Carlile?

+ This is the most boring good news, but a church in Georgia historically attached to the United Methodist Church (you may remember they made a terrible decision to exclude LGBTQ+ people last year) decided to take the correct step and officially leave the denomination. Any Methodists in Georgia looking for a church that lives out its beliefs, maybe check out Asbury Memorial.

+ Troop Beverly Hills is officially getting a sequel! Every movie with women in uniforms is a part of my root, so I will be watching this.

+ Did we know the musical The Prom about some lesbian teens going to a prom is being made into a movie?? (We did! It was in this week’s Pop Culture Fix!)  Did we know Meryl Streep is in it with a red wig?!

+ AHH ANOTHER SURPRISE LESBIAN WEDDING! Fawzia Mirza wed Andria Wilson and yes, I did cry.

+ Drag queens and trans women in Indianapolis’s queer history. (Content Note: the post uses words historically used to describe trans people which we no longer use)

+ Netflix’s Away offers us Chinese lesbians in space! Kinda!

+ I literally only have CBS All Access for Star Trek: Discovery and we’re now getting TWO trans characters on the show!!! Yes! Good! Anthony Rapp is also thrilled.

+ Mulan is on our collective minds, so here’s some more non-canonical Disney queer films to make you wanna write fanfiction. (Also: Every Disney Princess Ranked In Order Of Lesbianism by… me!)

+ “Female truckers to honor women’s suffrage.” IDK, just say lesbians??? I’m kidding…. sort of.

+ In the vein of offering you some music to bring you queer joy: Katie Pruitt’s Expectations is just straight up gay country.


Sending you love and queer joy. Happy Sunday, shavua tov, go love yourself because the universe wants you to do so. I love you so much, I’m so happy we have this time with one another each week. Be well my friends.