Welcome to NSFW Sunday!
There are no soul mates, so let go of that narrative and enjoy your life instead:
“We are temporary creatures, Soul Mate. Even when we love someone a whole lot, we eventually have to lose them, and they will have to lose us. Loss is a fact of this life. But as long as we continue to travel, to move, and to live, we will continue to meet people who bring out the best in us, people we want the world for, people who make us stop and think, How was this person sharing this planet with me all this time?
I think that’s what true love is, Soul Mate. It’s true as it needs to be, anyway. And I think when it presents itself to us, if we are open to it, we can have it for a while.”
“‘You want to watch porn?’ I tried to make it sound like a joke, but my voice came out huskier than I’d meant. We’d talked about this type of scene — watching something together as C told me everything they’d do to the person on screen if they were here, everything they’d make me do — but I’d thought it was a fantasy. I hadn’t realized they’d meant it. I swallowed hard.
They arched an eyebrow. ‘Why not?’”
Only 36% of respondents to an OkCupid survey said their ideal first date right now is outdoors. What are the rest of y’all doing?
Intimacy coordinators are getting formalized.
Don’t try to change your partner.
It’s actually fine to keep score in relationships, sometimes.
Having a summer of sex doesn’t mean having a summer of STIs:
“Regardless of how this conversation goes, it’s also a good idea to use condoms or dental dams with new partners (until you’ve had a conversation about how to safely fluid-bond), to wash your sex toys after every use, to visit the OB-GYN regularly, and to get tested for STIs at least once a year (now’s a good time!). As a longer-term strategy, you can also protect yourself by getting the HPV vaccine, which is now available to folks up to age 45 and protects against the most dangerous strains of HPV, which can lead to cervical cancer.”