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The gay owner of a B&B in Canada has revealed how he helped educate a young man who’d left him homophobic voicemail messages.
Jim Culbert, 69, has run the Green Gay Bulls bed and breakfast in Vernon Bridge, Prince Edward Island, on the eastern edge of Canada, for the past eight years.
Prior to this, he ran the nearby Rainbow Lodge, the region’s first openly gay-friendly guesthouse. One of its exterior walls had a large rainbow flag painted across it, making it probably the first business in the area to display the flag.
Culbert moved to the area in 1988 (he’s originally from Bradford, Ontario), first opening up Blair Hall Guest Home. He later sold that and opened up Rainbow Lodge in 1998 and then moved to Green Gay Bulls in 2013.
In an interview with The Guardian, he recalled experiencing a variety of homophobic abuse over the years, including hate mail, nasty phone calls, people throwing things at his house or yelling slurs as they slowly drove past in their cars.
One incident in particular sticks in his memory. Around 20 years he received a string of homophobic phone calls from a group of teenagers. He contacted the police, who managed to trace the calls to the home of the parents of one of the teens.
After the police got involved, Culbert says he received a letter of apology from the 15-year-old boy. However, Culbert thought more could be done to educate the youngster. He contacted the boy’s parents and invited the family to meet with Culbert and some of his friends. That meeting took place on a Thanksgiving Monday at Culbert’s home.
“I wanted him to see that we weren’t people with horns. He went away; I went away and I think his parents went away feeling better.”
Culbert then offered the boy work mowing his lawns, which the youngster accepted.
That boy is now grown up. He married a woman and has two kids of his own. He agreed to be interviewed by the newspaper on the condition of anonymity. He said there are no excuses for what he did when he was younger.
“Looking back on it now, it’s embarrassing that it even happened. We thought we were being funny and weren’t thinking about the fact that somebody is going to pick up these voicemails and listen to these hurtful things that are said.”
He said he had not given a thought to how the person on the receiving end of the phonecalls might react to them, or if they were having a hard time from others because of their sexuality.
“People use words without thinking about what they really mean and I think that was a lot of it.”
He went on to say he’d let his parents down and would be horrified if any of his kids did the same thing.
“My parents were pretty disappointed in me … and, if it were my kids in that situation, I would be very, very disappointed.”
Besides flying the rainbow flag, Culbert has been an advocate for LGBTQ rights in other ways – founding the P.E.I gay tourism association, which ran for ten years, and giving local talks on the importance of equality. He’s widely acknowledged for helping to make a difference in the area.
Today, he would have been celebrating his 32nd year of running a B&B but has closed his business because of the COVID-19 pandemic. He hopes to reopen soon.
“We have opted to remain closed this year due to COVID, but we are hopeful that next year we will be as busy as ever,” he said in a message to GayCities. “Thankfully, I also run an Upholstery & Refinishing business on the property that has allowed me to maintain a bit of an income.”
Once he reopens, he’d love to welcome visitors to the area. His guesthouse is in a building that was originally a United Church manse built in 1896.
“On the front door of Green Gay Bulls B&B, we have a plaque that states ‘There are no strangers here, only friends we have yet to meet.’ That is a motto we live by here. You are not ‘just’ a guest to us, you are a friend.”
A father in a southern England town assailed his own 15-year-old son – humiliating him and whipping him with a television cable – all because he joined Grindr.
Courts in Plymouth heard how the father launched into a brutal display of dominance against his own child as he lashing he son 20 times while calling him gay and a “woman” for joining the queer dating app.
The man, who is in his 40s but cannot be named to protect the identity of his son, forced his son to strip to just his underwear, PlymouthLive reported, in a disturbing saga that came to an end when the son fled his family home and broke down at school.
Senior barristers commented that the son will likely not only suffer from physical scarring due to the attack, but long-lasting psychological trauma, too.
Father launches into rash of violence against his own child for having Grindr on his mobile phone.
Plymouth Crown Court heard how the father hurled a volley of homophobic and transphobic insults towards his own son. His legal counsel sought to argue that the attack was not driven by hostility towards his child’s sexuality.
But the judge told the defendant: “You asked him about photographs of lots of boys on his phone and shouted ‘You are gay’ and ‘you are a woman’.
“You shouted: ‘What’s that between your legs?’
“You hit him again and again, some 20 times, with the television cable. You caused him ‘loads of pain’, to use his words.
“I have no doubt that part of the reason you became angry is that you saw material which you thought indicated he was bisexual.”
‘The son will inevitably suffer some psychological consequences,’ says senior barrister.
Prosecutors said the father asked to borrow the son’s mobile phone, leading him to see Grindr and the photographs that prompted the deluge of violence. He cornered the teen who then left to see a friend that evening.
The morning after, the father, again, confronted his son, lobbing vile remarks before forcing him to take off his pyjamas. Shivering in just underwear and socks, the son was then struck by his father “multiple times across his body, particularly his arm, breaking the skin there”, the Crown Prosecution Service’s Francesca Whebell said.
“While he was beating his son, the defendant was continuing to ask questions,” she said, noting that the father’s attack appeared motivated his the teen “exploring his sexuality”.
The son only managed to escape, she said, after he asked for a glass of water. He instead grabbed his school uniform and fled the scene, changing his clothes before class.
The defendant pleaded guilty to causing actual bodily harm on 30 September last year.
Recorder Pilgerstorfer QC said: “On the basis of the photographs, he is likely to be left with some scarring on his arm and he will inevitably suffer some psychological consequences.”